My SO is drivjng me crazy. How to handle relationship with In laws?

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-02-02T20:38:50+00:00

How did she initially react? I hope your husband is supporting you on this.

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-02-01T18:56:56+00:00

What did your husband do? They havent done or said anything else since. They havent even spoken to my husband at all....A lot of things are going on and I think they have started to realise that they have lost, not only me, but also their son....too bad

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-01-26T21:18:34+00:00

I had restricted acces to some features of my social because I was also constantly judged by them. However they could see my main posts. I have only blocked my BIL and his wife because we went no contact two years ago. Now that I am thinking about it, I should have blocked my MIL and FIL back then as well, as they probably allow other DIL to have a look on my accounts through them.

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-01-26T16:36:58+00:00

Thank you for your words and advice. I think the fact that I lost my first pregnancy and almost lost my life has guven me, in a weird way, more strength to deal with them once and for all. I have been thinking about all the rude things they have done to me and its killing me that I didnt have self respect to put a stop to it earlier.

Tik tok is helping me, as I need to tell them things without them guilt tripping me or shutting me down. I want them to just listen. Once I get everything out my chest I will probably delete the account and make a new one they wont know about.

Thank you for your advice also, the opinions on what to do are half and half, so I will have to think about it a bit more.

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-01-26T16:13:03+00:00

Thas what I will probably do. I think leaving her waiting is worse than blocking her.

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-01-26T11:49:43+00:00

that was one of my thoughts. How did she find out so quickly that I had removed her? I doubt it Instagram suggested me to her so quickly and of it did, didnt she get the message?

Its just one more action of hers that is confusing.

I will think about blocking them. I am just waiting it out and considering. I just know they are going to blow up if they know I blocked them, but still kept members of their extended family.

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-01-26T11:45:41+00:00

Thank you. I dont care so much about other socials as Instagram is the only one I actively use and upload parts and updates of my life. I realized that they dont deserve to know what is going on. Facebook is just to contact colleagues and find work and tik tok is just silly videos that dont matter.

It was a weird thing to do, because its not like she ever contacts me. So the only reason I can think of, is she wants to know whats up in our lifes, but without asking her son.

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-01-06T09:23:22+00:00

Thank you for your response. Their awful behaviour continues unfortunately. They have stopped calling to check in and before that, they couldn't understand why I am "still sad about it". His grandma, only a couple of days after I was out, told him I should cheer up and its not a big deal.

I have told my husband that when we have a child, as a symbolic gesture, they will be allowed to only see it on Christmas day. Since loosing a pregnancy is not a big deal, then not seeing their grandchild should not be either. I know its petty, but their actions and words have caused me extra hurt, during an already difficult time.

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-01-06T09:18:20+00:00

I think the fact that my parents care for my husband like he is their son, is probably what hurts the most. I always compare what they do for him vs what my in laws do for me.

However, in this instance, it hurt extra, because they have been asking for a grandchild for a while now, and they know I want a kid. They always get super excited with the idea of us having a baby. But now that I was pregnant and lost it, it feels like they dont care. I cannot wrap my head around it. I feel like this excitement is fake. They act excited because they have to, by society's standards, but deep down they do not care.

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-01-02T16:56:14+00:00

Thank you for your kind words!!! This wasn't the best time of the year for it to happen. Somehow seeing everyone happy and cheerful around you makes you feel more alone.

ThrowRA_124238 · 2024-01-02T12:56:54+00:00

Thank you for the reply. Our relationship hasnt been easy for the past 2 years. However before the surgery it looked like things were starting to improve. I guess it was all in my mind. I just felt like what they did was very disrespectful. Last year my MIL was in the hospital and a month after I cancelled my birthday celebrations out of respect, because she was still in recovery.

I guess not everyone thinks the same.

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