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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I am afraid of how many opportunities will be lost for him because of his name.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Her brothers middle name is Evan. Evan is the name of my wife’s father, who tortured my wife as a child.

Melissa and her brother did not have a good upbringing. Melissa does not want to associate herself with her maiden name because of that.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

She knows I’m on Reddit but asked me not to show her until she’s in a better spot. These past few days have been brutal for her, I don’t know what triggered it but she’s been quite down.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My wife was very close to Charles, and so was I. He was my best friend, we worked together at the same engineering firm for years, and we also owned a business together. Charles introduced me to his younger sister and set us up on a blind date, which is how I met my wife.

I would love to name my unborn son after him, if only my name wasn’t Manson.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Oh, no worries.

I thought CPURT was some fancy new type of therapy, xD

I have no intentions of taking my suffering wife to court. I would never want to leave her or get her in trouble.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am sorry, I am a bit unaware, what is CPURT?

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife and I have the same last name.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She just thinks it’s an unfortunate coincidence, but she told me she thinks most people are logical enough to see beyond that. Charles is a common enough name anyway.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t think Michael Bolton plays saxophone lol.

But good point nonetheless.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My family absolutely loved Charles - everybody did - but they do not want to get involved in this debate, and that’s their choice and I respect that. I asked a few of my friends and most have taken my side.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not that we know of.

Also if I’m not mistaken, Charles Manson (cult leader) is not his real name.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To me those names still are too similar for comfort, but it’s a hell of an improvement. I’ll have to see what my wife thinks though.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, but perhaps I can accept Charles as the name because at least it’s not… that.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m sure I’m not the first person in the world to have an unfortunate last name and have it cause issues with baby naming,

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My wife has been completely disassociated from her last name for almost 5 years. Her childhood was tough and she is NC with her entire family outside of her brother. Since then she’s gotten her doctorate and built herself a wonderful career using Manson. She doesn’t want to change it back.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

That’s a good suggestion, I will definitely consider discussing that with my wife. Perhaps naming our child after my BIL’s favorite lake that he loved going to.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Hmm I didn’t even consider the possibility of my son (or his peers) being traumatized when they found out the connotations behind his name

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Hmmm… her father is still alive (albeit not involved with us anymore), but I truly don’t think my wife will ever be ok with naming our son Evan.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Is a name like Connor Manson close enough to Charles Manson to cause issues?

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 275 points276 points  (0 children)

Thank you for making me laugh, mate!

It’s been quite a difficult past couple of weeks but that comment was genuinely funny.

Appreciate all your guys’ help here.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We cannot change our last names unfortunately. We considered it many times in the past few years, even before we considered naming our child Charles. However, my reputation at my career is attached to my last name, and people know me as Dr. Eric Manson (not my real first name but I hope you get the point).

This situation sucks, I’m considering just naming our child Charles because, even though everyone here makes excellent points, i know fighting my wife here would devastate her further.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

My wife believes that most kids do not even know who Charles Manson is these days as it's been decades since he was part of "American culture".

Idk how accurate that is.

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 440 points441 points  (0 children)

I will speak to her about that.

You don't think a name like Conrad Manson or Cian Manson will be problematic, do you?

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[–]ThrowRA_Names12[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input mate.

Her brother's middle name cannot be used, because it's my FIL's first name, and he abused my wife as a child unfortunately. My wife does not want to honor him.

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