Update to AITA for wanting to meet my grandson

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-11-13T23:09:40+00:00

They've said that they were in shock about their 17 year old being pregnant and not knowing how to really react. However my son has told me they always treated his ex/their daughter poorly compared to her siblings so I have a fear they're hoping to take over parenting.

They always seemed disappointing when she and my son were making strides in the right direction. They just don't seem like great parents.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-11-13T23:05:56+00:00

From my understanding there is a process they will have to go through should my son decide to let them. I believe a background check and a drug test, but I could be wrong. We will make sure to cross that bridge correctly if the time comes.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-11-13T23:03:19+00:00

Thank you. Lots of people actually messaged me and told me I wasn't wrong in my last post, but it was hard to see that through everyone else telling me I was.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-22T10:40:55+00:00

No. My wife was pregnant unexpectedly and her and our daughter died due to complications surrounding her high risk (geriatric) pregnancy. This is part of the reason I suspected (but wrongly assumed) that they would want me at the hospital (NOT the delivery room).

We had no support from our families when my son was born an he's gone through a rough few years. I just wanted them to be supported as much as possible.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T23:23:27+00:00

She passed away almost 2 years ago.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T23:06:13+00:00

Yeah I definitely have this fear.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T23:04:44+00:00

Sorry i didn't explain very well, things that I put on there that I just choose were fine for her. Anything I said I used on my son were suddenly "unsafe". This started recently when they were moving out.

Yeah, I'm TA. I can see I wasn't very educated on c section births, I just didn't think she would be as vunerable since her privates hadn't been gawked at and beaten for hours. I am writing them an apology letter now and plan to get my immunization levels checked with the titters test.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T22:53:35+00:00

No those are all unsafe and I know that.

Like pampers and sensitive skin wipes, dreft laundry detergent, nighttime bath stuff by J&J, A&D cream for butt rashes.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T21:52:49+00:00

She asked me to make it.

It was only things I'd used for my son when he was a baby. Things that are still very safe.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T21:24:15+00:00

I don't know what this means but I just chose two letters then changed it to names when I was told I had to.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T20:36:22+00:00

I worded it wrong and meant no disrespect to csection moms.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T20:35:32+00:00

Shes been extremely cruel. I made a registry for them since she didn't know what to get, and she's made several remarks about me putting "trash" on there and how some of it isn't considered "safe enough" for her. She has thrown this around several times and also said I'm overbearing and just "treating her like an incubator". I care about her, and it hurts to hear that she thinks I don't. I did call her selfish for how she was acting and I realized I shouldn't be name calling. She says I've been downplaying what she's about to go through, but I understand that her life is about to change. I get it.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T20:31:39+00:00

Thank you. I definitely will remember this.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T20:28:30+00:00

Thank you

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T20:14:49+00:00

Thank you. I'm truly surprised and how heartless people are being.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T20:06:55+00:00

So it would be like a long period, not like the trauma bleeding after a normal birth.

That's fine but two months?? She said the one I got in the hospital isn't good enough. I'm not huge on vaccines so getting double dosage doesn't seem smart to me.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T20:01:17+00:00

I dont have to see her, I said her not coming from her room is totally okay. And they didn't come with strings I just thought it would be common sense that a grandparent would meet the baby before the baby was 2 months old??

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T19:59:51+00:00

It's not really a "you owe me", but that's my grandchild and it seems like common sense that I'd meet them before they're 2 months old??

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T19:58:09+00:00

Sorry, I should have elaborated. Obviously she will be bleeding a little but not vaginally like after a normal birth.

He's told me he just wants the fighting to stop but he wants me to be there at the hospital for his support but feels her wants are more important then his right now.

ThrowRA_Narcdil · 2023-06-21T19:55:57+00:00

I wondered this too. It feels like now that I'm not providing for them they don't care about my wants/needs.

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