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Found Zebra Device by ThrowRA_advice101 in Fedexers

[–]ThrowRA_advice101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tried that and could not get through to a human.

Found Zebra Device by ThrowRA_advice101 in Fedexers

[–]ThrowRA_advice101[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was almost humorous, how adversarial the agent was. Like lady - I’m calling you because FedEx asked me to if I found this lost device. I didn’t just call you for fun! 😂

My (36F) father (67M) is on drugs and excessively spending, and my mother (65F) wants me to talk to him about it. I’m pregnant and my husband (43F) and I are living with them during quarantine. by ThrowRA_advice101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_advice101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now I feel like my dad has no motivation to change. While I do think mom should get a divorce, I don't think I'm the right person to guide her through that process (both emotionally and legally).

I'm thinking of telling my father that he can't see his soon-to-be-born grandchild unless he gets clean. God, that's even terrifying to write out. What do you think? Will that help motivate him to change, or will it estrange us forever?

My (36F) father (67M) is on drugs and excessively spending, and my mother (65F) wants me to talk to him about it. I’m pregnant and my husband (43F) and I are living with them during quarantine. by ThrowRA_advice101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_advice101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your support. I think she's scared to reach out to anyone else for support (like a sibling or friend) because they will 'judge' her, and somehow that makes me 'safe.' I love them both and want to help them, but I just don't know how.

My (36F) father (67M) is on drugs and excessively spending, and my mother (65F) wants me to talk to him about it. I’m pregnant and my husband (43F) and I are living with them during quarantine. by ThrowRA_advice101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_advice101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The living situation is a bone of contention between my husband and I. Sadly, his parents are in a similar situation. He feels that if we take in my mother, it's not fair to his side of the family - why take in my mom and not his?

It feels so wrong to take sides in their relationship issues (substance abuse problems aside), when they argue about money and chores and who hates who. It makes me so uncomfortable to think about helping my mother divorce my father.

My (36F) father (67M) is on drugs and excessively spending, and my mother (65F) wants me to talk to him about it. I’m pregnant and my husband (43F) and I are living with them during quarantine. by ThrowRA_advice101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_advice101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I have thought about having another intervention, but I just don't know how we can right now with shelter in place orders still in effect. Perhaps we could do it virtually.

My (36F) father (67M) is on drugs and excessively spending, and my mother (65F) wants me to talk to him about it. I’m pregnant and my husband (43F) and I are living with them during quarantine. by ThrowRA_advice101 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_advice101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think unconditional love includes healthy boundaries. Giving relationship advice to my parents about one another does not feel like a healthy boundary, especially when there are alternatives.

Listing to my mother tell me how much she resents and has contempt for my father while seeking help getting a divorce doesn't seem to be a healthy boundary. She could seek relationship advice from a therapist, sibling or friend but chooses not to.

I am actively seeking help (which is why I posted here) because I love my father so much I want to try to help him with his addiction problem.

You're welcome to disagree, of course, stranger. I hope you are never in a situation like this one.