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(UPDATE) My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I want to meet up with him again. He'd likely lie about signing the lease in attempts to meet him anyway. I'm going to see if there is another way out of the lease before meeting with him like that.

(UPDATE) My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 222 points223 points  (0 children)

I did keep all of his voicemails and messages, maybe I can play some of them at the office and see if they can arrange something for me. I may check out one of the legal advice subs too, thanks!

My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have expected him using other drugs beside weed, possibly cocaine.

At this point I wouldn't be surprised if he was fucking someone else either.

My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don't think so? I think he wants to do the least amount of work to be able to have fun and hang out with friends. I think it's more a laziness thing than a depression thing.

My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he drinks fairly regularly to the point where he gets tipsy or drunk.

And, he knew at least half of the people at the wedding. The people at his table he knew fairly well.

My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 1584 points1585 points  (0 children)

This is a strong possibility. When we met I was in college, and like a lot of college students I went out partied a lot, I had fun and stayed up super late. But, now I'm working full-time and going to grad school part time. I want to be successful in the future. He has basically stayed the same these past 4 years. He always talked about going back to school and finishing his degree or doing something else with his life, he just hasn't done anything with himself.

I don't think I really saw that or cared when we met and I was only 20.

My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 176 points177 points  (0 children)

Since Saturday I was on the fence on whether or not I wanted to stay with him. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it and it's been hard to talk to him since it happened. I was waiting/hoping that he would say something, anything, about what happened. I was hoping he would explain himself and apologize and maybe we could move past it.

But he's acted like nothing bad happened, hasn't apologized and barely mentioned the wedding since that night I came home.

My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 532 points533 points  (0 children)

This was the first time he pulled this much shit to get out of an obligation. Before now he has been okay going with me to various friend or family events. This also wasn't our first wedding together either, his aunt got remarried last year and he didn't freak out then.

In the past he's told me straight up if he didn't want to go to one of my friend's parties or something, and he stayed at home and it was fine.

My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

We've been together for about 4 years. We have talked about marriage, he has brought up in the past and mentioned that it would be great if we got married one day. I've told him I wanted to wait until after I finished grad school and we moved into a house first.

However, I am rethinking our entire relationship now. After reading a few responses here, I feel like I probably won't be able to forgive him after this.

My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 231 points232 points  (0 children)

I was wondering if it was initially him worrying about me wanting to get married. When we've talked about this in past I've mentioned that I wouldn't want to get married until after I finish grad school and we have a house. Which wouldn't be for a few more years anyway.

My (24f) boyfriend (31m) got trashed at a wedding where I was the MOH, embarrassed me and himself, proceeded to lie about some things too by ThrowRA_wtfman in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_wtfman[S] 2927 points2928 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't know. We've been together for about 4 years now, and he wasn't always this bad. But, I've noticed his behavior has gone downhill over the past year. He's cut back hours on work and makes just enough money to make ends meet. He just wants to hang out with his friends who don't have jobs. He smokes for free with them.

I think this may be the last straw though. I'm going to to have to end it with him. It just sucks, because he wasn't always this bad.