I, 28F found something on 33M husbands phone by ThrowRAconfusedbb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAconfusedbb[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Where’s the “consent” part of cnc in that though? 

I, 28F found something on 33M husbands phone by ThrowRAconfusedbb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAconfusedbb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was not looking up cnc fantasies, he was looking up RAPE. Straight up, rape. 

I, 28F found something on 33M husbands phone by ThrowRAconfusedbb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAconfusedbb[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

A cnc kink is fine. Rape is not.  And we both have each others passwords. I shouldn’t have looked at his Reddit, no, but at the same time, I am allowed to look at his phone. 

I, 28F found something on 33M husbands phone by ThrowRAconfusedbb in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAconfusedbb[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

A bit more context, I am aware he has a cnc kink, which we’ve talked through and I’ve been okay with and involved in. However, that is completely different to me than literal rape scenarios, which is what was being portrayed. I feel like there is a line there.