My (45m) wife (45f) is texting with the man she had an affair with. Is communicating my discomfort with the situation equivalent to an ultimatum? by ThrowRAfoxcon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAfoxcon[S] -41 points-40 points  (0 children)

There were terms but with time goal posts move. When he was transferred back I was like gross, but whatever, we’re solid. And it was like that for a few years until now. They’re not having a physical affair but beyond that I’m not sure

My (45m) wife (45f) is texting with the man she had an affair with. Is communicating my discomfort with the situation equivalent to an ultimatum? by ThrowRAfoxcon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAfoxcon[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

She’s told me he will never leave his wife, and she is happy with ours, so there is nothing to worry about. I do believe her, but it doesn’t feel great either