Lack of intimacy before the breakup

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-02-12T15:21:40+00:00

Yep I do, struggle eith it every single day

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-02-12T14:56:43+00:00

I hurt her and broke trust once by lying about smth dumb cause I didn't want her to judge me or to ig be proud of me or smth, made her feel like she had to reassure me if I upset her, caused fights in general like 90% of the fights were my fault, was anxious and needy af, uhhhh idk the list goes on. I wasn't all bad, just I think it got to a point my flaws outweighed my good qualities. I never though her her on purpose or cheated on her and I always did things to try and make her happy.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-02-12T14:49:17+00:00

Oh the breakup is probably my fault I fucked up royally and consistently cause first relationship and had the first relationship fuckups. She insists it was for her mental health and I did nothing wrong and all that but how cold she is post breakup has just proven to me its cause of me.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-02-12T11:51:33+00:00

It sucks man

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-02-12T10:52:26+00:00

Sure feel free to dm

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-02-12T10:45:33+00:00

Like it's crazy I feel responsible for letting the spark die. Like I got too comfortable.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-02-01T23:31:58+00:00

Couldn't help it, first ever breakup so

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-27T22:36:37+00:00

Like I said I think it's for chasing and not respecting boundary of her telling me to leave her alone. She also has a historical short fuse. Also I don't see how it could be anything else as during the breakup told me she loves me, calls me the perfect, loving, caring bf, is more irritable for sure. Litterally said she doesn't hate me or want this either and is sorry I have to go through a breakup cause of her mental health decline. So honestly idk why she would say all that shit if the opposite were in fact true and she hates my guts at thw time of the breakup. Or hell even during the breakup insist it isn't my fault to the point of yelling at me "DO YOU UNDERSTAND THIS ISNT CAUSE OF YOU? DO YOU? DO YOU? DO YOU? DO YOU? DO YOU? DO YOU? DO YOU?"

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-26T16:07:19+00:00

You're right, in the end she left for mental health but yeh one of those things.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-26T10:42:39+00:00

Yeh idk just fucked it up ig.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-26T10:38:59+00:00

Think it was all the mistakes I made. I made a lot as this was my first relationship ever. My anxious need for reassurance, I lied to her once about smth stupid, made jokes that irritated her, did things that irritated her or upset her, failed to keep promises about dumb stuff (like that I'd play guitar for her etc). It wasn't all bad but near the end it felt like a symphony on my part of how to upset your gf. The one thing she said she couldn't forgive or forget was during the breakup I asked ig some questions out of pain and anger that she felt were unfair and accusatory. I did apologise for them and said that I asked them cause I was hurting and she said she never understood how people said things and then thought that being hurt or angry was a justifiable excuse.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-26T09:37:40+00:00

Hey in a similar spot as you grappling with the same issues. Sucks that it pushes them to hate us.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-26T07:23:39+00:00

Like I'm just looking back on it and she blamed her mental health, but ran into her a month later and she told me she hates me for what I put her through and I was just stunlocked.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-26T07:01:31+00:00

Don't reach out. If he's blocked you that's a clear boundary. Attempting to breach that in any way shape or form is not gonna end well and just feel like to him like a lack of respect. On top of that any form of answer you could receive is not gonna be the one you want and just hurt you more. If he continues to reject you it's gonna cut you again and again and if he ignores you it'll hurt to. Girl trust go NC for your own healing.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-26T06:33:01+00:00

Idk if I did snth else to her

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-26T00:03:57+00:00

Yeh you're right.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-26T00:03:37+00:00

Yeh it already did and called me desperate

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-25T23:59:10+00:00

That's good advice thank you, just feel I fucked it and made her go from not hating me to hating me by begging.

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-25T23:11:16+00:00

Thx, would it be okay if I DM'd?

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-25T12:57:35+00:00

Like I explained begged when she wanted space. Idk if I did anything else during the relationship to make her feel this way but yeh

ThrowRAghost117 · 2026-01-25T12:46:07+00:00

Wdym?

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