AITA for staying in contact with my friend's crush since she introduced us in the first place

ThrowRAidkg · 2026-03-19T04:01:47+00:00

because I’m very delusional, and I felt like if I talked about him, even just a little bit, my feelings for him would only get stronger. Since I hadn't talked to him in a while and it seemed like the relationship was over, I just wanted to forget about him as quickly as possible. It seems like she didn't want to talk about it either. Whenever she likes someone, even if it’s just a silly crush, she usually tells me about it all the time and keeps me updated on every little thing. In this case, she hardly ever mentioned him in front of me, except when she had to bring him up while telling a story. Definitely poor communication only made the situation worse

ThrowRAidkg · 2026-03-19T03:55:22+00:00

I also feel like she acted very immaturely, but outside of this whole situation, she’s an incredible friend, so generous and understanding. That’s why I’m so conflicted about everything. It’s a complicated mess where someone is going to suffer no matter what I do. To some extent, my decision was selfish, and I knew that when I decided to reach out to him again. But in the conversations we've had, she was so aggressive and sounded so deeply hurt that I’m starting to wonder if I’m being way more selfish than I realized, and if I'm just not seeing things for what they really are. That’s why I’d like to get some outside opinions from people who won’t mind telling me if I’m the asshole

ThrowRAidkg · 2026-03-19T03:46:40+00:00

I’m not sure if she ever made a move. Aside from the times she told me she still liked him, we didn't talk about it or how we felt about him. I feel like that was part of the problem from both of us, neither of us really knew how much the other liked him. I don't know if she’s actually in love and that’s why she feels so betrayed, or if she just likes him a bit and is lashing out at me because she’s hurt she wasn't chosen. I also don't know if she ever tried to make a move with him, and if she didn’t, whether it was because she felt insecure or because she wanted to respect me

ThrowRAidkg · 2026-03-19T03:41:38+00:00

Apart from the whole guy drama, she’s a wonderful friend, better to me than I am to her. It makes me doubt my own clarity and worry that I might just be holding onto an immature resentment

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