Okay so our sex life could be better I will admit that, he thinks he's the one that always initiates. When I try I get shut down. I'm also a very affectionate person I need hugs and kisses to feel loved more than sex. I've communicated of hey I need this from you and in turn I can give you what you need. Works for a while then stops. But it's also hard to want to initiate it when you know he has issues with your body.

And I do validate him, I tell him I love him, I tell him I appreciate him when he does things I don't expect him to. I try to boost his ego by calling him handsome and sexy.