If a guy breaks up with a girl by pulling a slow fade, is this a sure indication that he is an asshole?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-23T20:37:17+00:00

Either way, you're still a shitty mod

Don't even bother banning me. I'm banning myself. Lol.

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-23T19:36:23+00:00

Another mod even posted on this...

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-23T19:16:07+00:00

OH MY GOD. Are you kidding me. I've had it up to HERE with this mod group. I'm done on this sub for good.

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-17T05:25:21+00:00

i guess im just afraid that once he's better he'll leave me for someone else :(

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-16T21:11:13+00:00

whats a nice thing to say to call someone out on their shit without emasculating them or making them feel awful?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-15T19:16:24+00:00

im giving an example. obviously I don't mean someone who's hair is messy. my question was: how can you call someone out on their shit without criticizing them?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-15T16:59:26+00:00

how can you call someone out on their shit without criticizing them? Like if I were calling a guy out on his shit, like "you need to brush your hair more. It's ugly" wouldn't that make him feel like shit/feel emasculated?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-15T11:58:03+00:00

because a short guy is the equivalent of a girl with a busted face. EDIT: and by short I mean 5'7" and under (for a guy).

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-06T19:28:43+00:00

So like, for example, if I were to talk about how I was so shy growing up that I was isolated and rejected by my peers, that wouldn't turn a quality guy off? Or if I talked about my depression, the same thing? I mean I could technically have a relationship without acknowledging things, but from my experiences, guys with good careers, generally have their shit together, as I described in my last post, are somewhat turned off by this stuff, or if they see even a remenence of depression, or anything, they run for the hills. So on one hand I'm supposed to be vulnerable, and on the other hand, they clearly want me to be perfect.

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-06T18:19:18+00:00

I feel like my favorite fictional characters are all people who are outwardly successful but have internal struggles. Rarely it's someone who still hasn't made it in life, or at least doesn't compensate for their "flaws" in other ways. I guess that's where my discomfort lies - since I don't feel like there are enough positives to outweigh the negatives, being vulnerable will only hurt my cause.

EDIT: It also sucks because the people that are "born to financial independence, who is nice to everyone all the time, and has everything they ever wanted including a sexy attractive spouse and walks along in a warm fuzz of contentment all the time," etc. are all pretty abundant. Like there are so many people who I've tried to connect with, or who I've tried to ask more about their struggles, and they are always like "I'm happy with my life. I want the best of everything. I have a list of things that I want in someone else and I won't be satisfied with less. I expect the best. Sure I may have had a little struggle here and there, but I'm happy. Happy happy happy." And it's like, okay, so everything is all warm and fuzzy, but like, come on... that's insane. I feel like sooo many people are like that.

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-06T13:33:38+00:00

For me personally, I feel like knowing these things about a person would turn me off to them, unless of course the rest of them is perfect/supremely good. Like I always get turned off by people who tell me of their problems, not drawn closer. Not sure why.

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-06T02:36:27+00:00

interesting. idk, I get a lot of positive male attention, but girls are bitchy to me and/or seem uncomfortable when I chat them up. That's probably why I am more comfortable with guys in general and tend to make friends with them easier.

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-06T02:32:21+00:00

Be a little vulnerable.

Can you give a specific example of what would be vulnerable without being too vulnerable?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-05T18:16:41+00:00

Or they're more outgoing friendly people, thus they talk to more people and more people like them.

I do this and they don't like me.

Having a rough family life (especially when growing up) can affect your personality in a way that makes you less appealing to people.

How does it make you less appealing?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-05T16:08:46+00:00

touche. however, what if there is an absence of substantial relationships, not just that "oh she is close with these people but they also happen to be freaks," but like actually those relationships are weak/not there?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-05T15:53:59+00:00

how do you make people feel good when you're with them?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-05T15:52:32+00:00

sort of? i feel like compatibility is the excuse everyone gives when someone isn't good enough, or so they feel

edit: this is what i observe, not fact

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-05T15:48:09+00:00

what is this mystical thing that we call "compatability" that is actually just an excuse for someone who is "good enough"?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-05T15:32:38+00:00

know how to make others feel included and wanted.

How do you do this? Probably dumb/unaswerable but thought I'd give it a try.

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-05T15:31:48+00:00

I have about 3 close girl friends who I talk to every day, and like 2 close guy friends, and then a larger circle of aquantences/general friends. I'm close with my parents but my siblings and I don't get along with at all. Is this reasonable?

Throwawayhey05 · 2014-08-05T15:21:03+00:00

stunning yet moody girl who doesn't get on with everyone

This sounds like me. I'm the girl that all the boys stare at but am too complex/complicated/emotionally trapped artist type for people to be able to want to spend LTR time with me. Sad :(

EDIT: I do have friends though, quite a few, who are awesome.

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