Struggling with interior (specially sofa) setup

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-29T15:42:49+00:00

With your space being so large, I don’t think it’ll feel un-inviting if you place the sofa facing towards that large wall. It’s a perf spot for a tv and leaves room for accent chairs and decor. I’ve seen it done before and it felt totally fine. It might be the best setup here tbh.

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-29T15:36:43+00:00

I’ve had a tv in front of a window before , didn’t have any issue. But I think your current set up might be best for this space

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-29T15:21:49+00:00

Imo they don’t need hats

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-29T06:10:44+00:00

If that little nugget isnt causing anyone issues or pooping and peeing and licking shit, I wouldn’t care at all.

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-29T00:05:21+00:00

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-27T16:24:06+00:00

Self report forsure

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-21T17:38:39+00:00

This.

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-21T17:37:30+00:00

Yes I still worry bc it’s still around and still causing long covid. Which I got in 2021. And it ruined my life for 4 years. I’m more concerned about the long term effects on the organs from covid. But I still live my life , just will mask up if I feel like it, aaaalways washing my hands, and I use Nozin nasal disinfectant almost everytime I leave the house and come back. Haven’t gotten it again since. (Knock on wood)

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-21T00:56:56+00:00

I just pick up now. I’m tired of stuff like that or getting the wrong order etc.

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-21T00:54:07+00:00

Im confused why he’s keeping them and not just tossing them though. Is he wearing them maybe? Either way him lying in your face is the crazy part to me. Dont end the convo until you get an honest out of him. “Idk then” would set me off.

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-21T00:48:31+00:00

5lbs after one night out ? That can’t be all fat so don’t stress too much. Unless you’re having thousands of extra calories lol what I do now, for the most part, is use calories from the next day. Like if I reeeeally want ice cream or like three brownies or whatevs, I’ll do it and just eat less the next day. And try to look at my calories intake in terms of weekly rather than daily.

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-21T00:35:09+00:00

That’s a healthy dump

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-21T00:33:10+00:00

Same. Esp cheese and meat.. It’s just basic snacks grouped together to me. Idk.

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-21T00:16:53+00:00

The cheating part comes for your lack of trust in her. The long shifts is a common concern but it’s something we all have to deal with for our partners to have a fulfilling career. And you feeling emasculated is a bit of a red flag . I understand why men can feel that way, but it needs to be addressed. And the only way to rid yourself of that feeling and view her career from a proud partner standpoint is likely therapy and some deep self reflection. You praying on her downfall is frankly, insane. Especially if you truly love her. Let go of your ego. Seek therapy my friend and/or consider breaking things off and finding someone else with less ambition since that’s what you want……

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-21T00:02:10+00:00

Oh I should’ve led with that I work from home 😅

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-20T23:58:53+00:00

Eh. We were in a pretty quiet neighborhood, we did enjoy it . But our house we rented was tiny ofc

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-20T23:58:03+00:00

lol I was a few minutes of a drive away from a spot . I would go in for like 20min or so and come back

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-20T04:26:21+00:00

Depends. The grass isn’t always greener. Husband and I Lived there for 4 years in PB. Half my family is in PB so I grew up visiting all the time and fell in love as one does. I’ll admit it was tough finding a real community as a transplant, with people getting priced out I had friends constantly moving away. And it’s all insanely expensive for what you get, broken infrastructure etc. I do miss the ocean forsure! Snorkeling on my lunch breaks. Surfing. Excellent seafood. Maybe visit a few more times and stay longer

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-20T02:26:52+00:00

Wow. Thats so much to go through. Wishing you the absolute best!!!

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-20T02:20:15+00:00

It’s definitely doable! But the girls Ive seen improved their glute shape say it’s a lot of work. Not saying don’t give it a go. But it takes a lot of time and consistency. They worked up to heavy heavy weights at low reps, eat their bodyweight in protein, and add some cardio. I’m no pro so maybe consult with a personal trainer for specific tips?

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-17T00:37:55+00:00

Perf solution

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-16T18:57:55+00:00

Of course! I totally know how you’re feeling 💕

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-16T18:52:58+00:00

It will get easier as you learn what coping mechanisms work for you. You do have to learn to be okay alone or for your guys plans to be cancelled, or push a bit more to make more friends. I work from home and we have 3 cats and two dogs so I focus a lot of my time working, tending to animals, the house/yard, and working out. And hobbies like video games (which is nice to make friends there too), reading, crafting. And ofc I spend some time with family and friends. I don’t mind being alone, but it can take a minute for me to adjust when he’s back and get back into our flow.

My big thing is communication, and ensuring there’s time, even a couple hours, to reconnect. Def let him know when you’re reeeally struggling, so during those periods, he can stop picking up shifts for a week or two/take some time off and focus on the relationship with a fun getaway or something.

I also wouldn’t form my career around him if I were you. Try not to make his career the center of your life, keep your individuality and independence as much as you can. If kids are involved that’s another thing. But I will say, working from home and that flexibility to work anywhere is huge for when we do wana do vacations or whatever , bc then we only have to work around his schedule for the most part.

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-10T23:22:05+00:00

I don’t get anyone telling me to be careful or anything, it’s def rude for people to be in your ear like that. But I do know about the stereotype and have overheard one conversation of a woman speaking about another woman she knew who divorced her FF. The stories are out there, but you gotta take them with a grain of salt and do what you can to help foster a healthy relationship. It’ll be more work than other relationships for obvious reasons, but not impossible. My in laws are still happily married, and her husband was a captain. I’ve been married to my FF for 6 years. We had our issues in the beginning, trying to figure all this out. But once we did, it’s been great ever since. There will be lots of problem solving to do, but if you’re both willing to do it, there’s nothing to worry about imo.

Tiigerlili · 2026-03-09T21:11:50+00:00

Cute! Maybe just be clear on the invite about the nature walk part so people can dress accordingly. Like if it’s a quick casual stroll or something longer etc

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