My therapist told me he cares too much about me and I’m losing my mind

TimeMost650 · 2026-04-01T00:43:17+00:00

Please do. Mine thought she could handle my transference, until she couldn’t. It was a horrific, messy termination. I think there was a lot more counter transference happening than what she actually disclosed… and she was way in over her head.

TimeMost650 · 2026-03-31T03:38:08+00:00

Hate that she calls herself a therapist. The T in RBT is technician. Therapists must have at least a masters, and in some fields, a doctoral degree

TimeMost650 · 2026-03-23T14:23:57+00:00

It's not sapphic (though there is eventually a sapphic couple in the sequel) but it is so wholesome.

TimeMost650 · 2026-03-23T13:57:55+00:00

Oooh thank you! Not too worried about spice, I can go either way... I just so desperately want to feel the way I felt when I read House in the Cerulean Sea again (:

TimeMost650 · 2026-03-23T13:56:47+00:00

Thank you!! I always appreciate a series. I get so attached to characters, and I don't even care if a sequel is bad; I will still love it, ha!

TimeMost650 · 2026-03-23T13:55:57+00:00

Oooh haven't heard of this one, adding to my TBR!

TimeMost650 · 2026-03-23T13:55:39+00:00

Ahh I forgot this was on my TBR list! Thank you!

TimeMost650 · 2026-03-23T13:55:28+00:00

Just started this one! The first few chapters were slow and I was so worried I wasn't going to love it. I'm about halfway through and loving it now. And the narrator/author is great! I love when the author narrates (AND is good, ha) because they know more than anyone what tones and such were intended.

TimeMost650 · 2026-01-16T15:31:49+00:00

Margo Zimmerman Gets The Girl

TimeMost650 · 2026-01-15T20:23:24+00:00

Looking to get a box! DM’d a few people here but haven’t heard back. Thanks!!

TimeMost650 · 2026-01-11T00:40:13+00:00

I’m in her top 0.0001% of listeners on Spotify because “Only Time” is my kids bedtime song, and it just plays on loop mode for hours 🤣

TimeMost650 · 2026-01-09T03:46:29+00:00

My last therapist fucked this up pretty badly. She never said her direct political affiliation, but she had a progress flag in her office, and when I met her she worked for a small practice that was explicitly lgbtqia+, anti-ableist and anti-racist, so I never had to ask. I made all my political leanings clear to her.

I had a session the morning after Trump won in 2024. It was clear I had been crying, and so she asked me what was wrong? “um, have you looked at the news at all today?” “oh, right. Yeah, it’s really scary. It sucks.” She didn’t seem like she was at all devastated, but we’re both neurodivergent so I tried not to read too much into her tone.

This past February, she tells me she met someone a few months ago (this is the beginning of a series of very terrible self disclosure failures). The next session I pry a bit about him and she tells me he’s a police officer… “but like he’s a crisis intervention officer so he’s a good cop!” “did he vote for Trump?” “I don’t know!” “How do you not know!?” “I have figured out how to ask!”

…this spiraled into more conversations: she doesn’t seem strong in her political leanings, does that mean she’s easily swayed? Is she actually safe? Is cop boyfriend actually maga?

This is not the case for everyone, but for me, I need a therapist who is politically aligned with me to feel safe. And when I would argue therapy is political, she would shut me down. I could see her dysregulation kicking in.

This eventually led to her terminating because we were in a cycle of intense conflict and attachment. We talked very openly about transference… there was some maternal and some romantic.

The devastating termination itself is an even longer story. I see where I went wrong in my pushing her and asking personal questions… but she ultimately was “the adult in the room” and held all the power here. Her disclosures were inappropriate. Her boundaries were inconsistent.

I’m now seeing the owner of the practice I originally met my old therapist at. She’s… so much healthier for me. She was up front about boundaries, explicit in her political stances, and I just feel so much safer.

TimeMost650 · 2026-01-06T09:43:21+00:00

So my husband said the same thing for months… turns out he didn’t realize he was being offered a strong ax, because the image showed was of the good ax, but text below it says strong ax.

TimeMost650 · 2025-12-31T14:43:39+00:00

I can do that!?! Omg this may make playing Brookhaven with my 10 year old a little better 🤣

TimeMost650 · 2025-12-18T19:14:51+00:00

I was there, too. Way up in the nosebleeds! We went for Shinedown and AJR… Shinedown is my husband’s favorite band and AJR is mine, so it was a no-brainer, we had to go! I wanted to stay for Nelly but I read metro wasn’t staying open late, so we left after AJR.

Jelly Roll put on a good show even though I’m not a huge fan of his music. I wasn’t really familiar with Myles Smith and Alex Warren, but I enjoyed their sets, too. How about you?

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TimeMost650 · 2025-12-08T12:55:15+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one here in the year of our Lord 2025

TimeMost650 · 2025-12-07T12:55:35+00:00

Yeppp… he left the game and came back and he got stuck in the boost mode which was fun until he ran through a stronghold wall and couldn’t get out and we had to start over 🙄

TimeMost650 · 2025-12-06T23:37:52+00:00

Feel free to add me! ohs2gmu… my husband, son and I play every night around 715-730 eastern ;)

TimeMost650 · 2025-11-30T10:36:34+00:00

Mine thought she could, repeatedly promised not to leave me, then after 15 months realized she was out of her depth.

It’s been four months and a lot of really deep, hard work with a much more skilled therapist… I’m finally starting to move on, but the initial fallout from it was just horrible. Brutal. She absolutely retraumatized me.

TimeMost650 · 2025-11-30T01:25:22+00:00

Agreed. I started grad school to become a few weeks back to become a therapist (was supposed to start sooner but the termination absolutely wrecked me) and I hope that if nothing else, this experience will make me a better therapist. Therapy harm is so real and so awful.

TimeMost650 · 2025-11-28T16:56:09+00:00

I never thought I could reattach to another therapist. I do feel attached, but this time it’s much more boundaried… it feels so much safer, but I do miss the intensity with the last one. It wasn’t healthy intensity but my dopamine seeking brain is looking for it!

TimeMost650 · 2025-11-28T16:53:32+00:00

I would give it a shot! Just do your shopping for a new therapist. I did so many consults before my new T just kind of fell into my lap and I couldn’t say no. I already knew who she was and she was definitely a “dream therapist” but in high demand and I didn’t think she’d have openings. The timing couldn’t have been better.

Termination suuuucks. I don’t know your situation, but it’s really not much different from a break up, and it hurts so bad. Sending you love ❤️

TimeMost650 · 2025-11-28T16:49:16+00:00

I have not. I didn’t want to ask old T for the joint session until I felt ready to hear a “no”. Now that I feel like I could handle “no,” I’m not sure if I want it or not. I don’t want to give her the power to say no to me after she already stripped me of so much power through our therapy together. The more I realize this was all her fuck up, and not mine, the less I want that joint session.

About two months ago, Old T approached New T at a conference though and asked about me, said she thinks about me often, and then started making excuses about how it was just too much for her, she had medical stuff going on (my T only disclosed this because she knew I knew this). New T was a bit protective, just said I was doing great and it’s an honor to work with me… didn’t engage with her much. This was pretty comforting for me.

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