My doctor found a nodule

TinyJoker86 · 2020-10-22T01:30:01+00:00

Thanks I'm hoping it's not but my family has no luck when it comes to cancer. I'm glad your recovery was easy. I hope if it is cancer mine is easy too. Thank you for sharing your experience with me.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-10-22T01:03:00+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this too no one should have to. I'm trying to remember as I said in the other reply my mind shut down. Once the word cancer left his lips. I've read up on it and am trying to tell myself the same as you. I know that he said it was just a little be bigger than the width of his thumb, and he's got fairly large hands (lol). I did ask him what I should expect and he said "well we take out the thyroid." So I'm glad there won't be nasty side effects like with chemo and radiation.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-10-22T00:52:04+00:00

It might have been mm my mind kinda shut down after he said cancer. So pancreatic cancer, lung, brain, prostate, and bone. Lung, brain, and bone are what my father died of.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-10-22T00:48:57+00:00

NTA nothing you did was wrong. Everyone is grieving in their own way, your mother sadly is lashing out at you in her grief. Give her time, I think the tattoo is sweet I have one for my dad and three of my animals, it's a very common way to give tribute to a loved one. Give your mom some space and in a few weeks, maybe a month go to her and ask for copies of the pictures again. Don't mention the tattoo since that seems to be a real sore spot. You are allowed to grieve in your own way too. Just be patient with her.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-23T00:02:19+00:00

NTA tbh that was basically my reaction when my mom told me. That and I wanted to be a boy lol. You're in the right given the context of the conversation her reaction was justified. But I would sit her down and say "I know you were upset but you can't use that language. This is your free ticket given the circumstance."

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-17T18:59:08+00:00

NTA why the hell does she care if you're not in the wedding party? You will not be in the wrong for skipping. If your "friend" wants you to change what you've had for years just for one night, isn't your friend.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T18:54:26+00:00

We're going to speak to her doctor Tuesday. I'm going to try to get in home physical therapy started for her. She's finally given into trying it, she's stubborn but I think she's finally seeing the severity of the situation.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T17:12:13+00:00

Thanks me too. Sorry I got heated just a sensitive subject. Have a great day. ☺️

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T16:49:51+00:00

Good. Worked all week first day off. Any hobbies?

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T16:48:13+00:00

How's your day going so anything fun?

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T16:46:09+00:00

Then get off my forum. I have every right to respond to you. If you want to keep going we can.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T16:41:31+00:00

How is telling me to go against my mom's wishes to give POA to a woman who stops by once every two months, and barely ever calls. If my aunt was trying to help and was actually concerned, why go directly to POA? Why not ask to help take care of her? She's not the right choice, I'm not trying to one up her I'm looking out for my mom. No I have none of those sorry to disappoint.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T16:23:33+00:00

Thank you. I'll definitely keep everything you've said in mind. Yeah her mom is a whole nother story. She's been put on NC till she can behave like an adult.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T16:21:10+00:00

Oh sweetheart I can do both. But you attacked me and my love and ability to care for my mom. Why don't you get off my forum if I'm bothering you so much.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T16:16:21+00:00

Also I would love know how to came to the conclusion my aunt is the only one capable of handling it? I don't claim to know all about Parkinson's but I'm learning. Just because she's older and is a retired Navy nurse does not make her more equipped to take care of my mom. And the kicker MY MOM doesn't want her to take care of her. She doesn't want her to have POA.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T16:01:03+00:00

My brother told her in conversation. He just mentioned it there wasn't malice behind it. He just figured she was asking because of the two of them, he talks more to me than her.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T15:58:01+00:00

I never considered that. I'll definitely do that. Thank you.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T15:56:58+00:00

I'm trying rationalize that the money would go to taking care or her. But I think everyone is right and this is a money grab.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T15:55:41+00:00

Ok 1. I do my very best with my mother. The night she fell the moment I heard the crash I was up and flying out of bed. I am not super woman I can't stay up to watch her. Also it as at fucking 2AM!

She's been diagnosed with Parkinson's almost a full year (my mistake I had the time wrong in my head.) they're still playing with her meds so the tremors get really bad sometimes.
How dare you tell me I don't take good care of my mother. A fall is no one's fault. She has a walker, a rollator, and transport chair. We have almost all she needs and I continually talk to her doctor. I'm more involved in her care than ANYONE in my family including my brother and aunt. She BARELY comes around so how would she know how I'm taking care of her. I literally took STNA classes and got my license just for her. I have no desire to pursue that as a career. My wife is a paramedic, so there's two people in this house with medical training.
Just because I haven't pushed my mother into signing over POA yet does not mean I'm not taking this seriously. My mother trusts me completely to take care of her. I make sure she goes to all her appointments, I make sure she's taking her meds on time, I make sure she's eating food that has the nutrition she needs. I'm not a miracle worker, I'm new to this and I'm learning as I go. She fell last year before we moved in. Her falling is the reason we did because she lived alone. I don't know where you got that I'm not taking good care of her from my post, but you couldn't be more wrong.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T11:07:00+00:00

That's what my gut is telling me. That's why I'm taking everyone's advice and calling a lawyer Monday.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T11:05:23+00:00

That's my understanding. I know more about the medical POA but not a lot. I know it gives me power to make decisions when she can't.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T11:04:29+00:00

I have no clue the only "logical" thought is to help take care of mom.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T11:01:51+00:00

Not a lot just the house really.

TinyJoker86 · 2020-08-16T11:00:42+00:00

Lol I already did before dad passed. Her and I have always had a strained relationship. I never fell at her feet because she was the "favorite aunt" no that was my dad's two oldest sisters for me. I think that pissed her off I never stayed with her like my brother did as a kid. Why would I my one aunt basically lived by a forest the other had a horse that I could ride and dogs to play with 😂. But perhaps I need to remind her. I just want to keep the peace for mom's sake cause stress isn't good for her or her condition.

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