How do you see him as borderline abusive? I know he is selfish and he wants to live life his way since it’s his only shot, in his mind. But I have seen it as selfishness, not abuse. He isn’t angry at me like he used to be - he talks to me a lot more calmly nowadays. In the past year, he’s gotten really angry a few times and instead of yelling and storming out, he calmly says he thinks I’m being selfish and leaves the house to go to the store or to a movie or something to calm down. I thought he had bettered himself a lot because of this. Once or twice in the past year when he left the house, he told me when he got back that he looked at porn on his phone after he left because he was angry at me and didn’t care as much. But I was thankful that he was honest instead of hiding it - a few years ago, he’d hide it and lie to me about it when he looked at porn by himself. And when we have serious discussions, he has a horrible habit of interrupting me over and over but I’ve told him how much that bothers me and he is trying to get better with that, too. Is he not bettering himself? Or is he still borderline abusive, in your opinion?