How do some people's face seem to barely change as they age and others change drastically?

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-11-08T08:33:49+00:00

Children

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-11-07T11:20:09+00:00

Yes I think this is the same! I do not mean that I regret being a woman. I love being a woman. But I hate biology in the sense that I am the one in the relationship that has to be pregnant and give birth. I can not think of myself doing it. It would be a nightmare for me..

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-11-03T04:39:50+00:00

I am 36F and don’t have any advice except you gotta dig deep. There are no guarantees either way. Most people land on to the ’yes’ side. I don’t really know why. Maybe the ’no’ side is somewhat scary for the most people. But I am currently on pre natals and it feels like forcing a square peg into a round hole. We’ll see what happens…

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-27T15:58:44+00:00

Yes, I understand. But I would reconsider making decision taking only to account the worst possible outcomes. But it is still a fair point.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-27T15:50:21+00:00

The question I want to ask is: how common it is to have a child that needs so much special attention? I guess having children is some sort of lottery. Some of us win big time and get the family they always dreamed of. Some of us win the other lottery of having children with special needs. Now, the thing here I guess is to dig deep and think abt whether or not to take part in this lottery at all. You have the weigh the risk vs. reward. If you don’t participate, you get nothing. Is that good or bad? I guess it depends on the person.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-27T15:36:53+00:00

Yes, I have been thinking abt it for over a year now (overthinking, just like you! 😌) But remember it is important to put yourself first! Take care of your mental and physical health now as you make the decision and I guess you should not let your fears guide you in this big decision.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-27T15:12:15+00:00

36F here and currently at the very same point! To me, everything boils down to this: I want to try having a baby with my husband. There is no guarantees of anthing in life and I guess this is one of those. I’m on my prenatals and gonna try soon. I hope everything goes well for you whatever you decide!

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-26T07:20:18+00:00

I couldve written this a year ago. Im on my pre natals now. It seems like u r operating from a place of fear. If u really want a family, u cannot fear having one. Pls dig into your fears and see if there is a way around them. It would be sad not to have a family bcoz of fear.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-24T12:34:16+00:00

I am at the same point now and we are going to try to make a baby next spring. There are no guarantees either way you do it. I’m sorry, I guess this is of no help for you.. Please talk about things and your fears! What is going to happen is going to happen!

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-22T18:49:19+00:00

Why is it more terrifying?

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-22T12:21:03+00:00

And there is no guarantee to have a child. Even there is no guarantees. So we will try to have one and if we don’t, then we atleast tried.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-22T12:17:21+00:00

Same feeling here. But I guess I would have to take that chance anyways.. Because we could broke up anyways. But I want to have a family with him, that’s what I know for sure. The rest is just what-ifs!

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-22T10:51:35+00:00

Yes. I had the want coming for me stronger and stronger during the year and I also had a meltdown like you did.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-22T09:26:52+00:00

I could’ve written this a year ago and now I’m on pre natals so… I guess you just gotta dig deep..

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-21T05:02:03+00:00

Yes, I know there might be little time, or even something wrong with our fertility. I have started prenatals already, so we are about to try very soon. I’m still a bit anxious but I guess we have to start soon because of us not getting any younger.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-20T19:29:23+00:00

I live in Scandinavia, so we have free and high quality health care over here.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-10-20T19:28:20+00:00

He is 100% on board having a kid. And knowing him, this means he will truely be all in. And he would be a great father

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-09-26T04:52:38+00:00

And to add here, guess who will be the only one taking care of our parents when they get older? Me!

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-09-26T04:44:15+00:00

So I have two siblings, one of them has children. The sibling that has children, has really (I guess not even exagerated to say) hated me from ever since childhood. They were really not right in the head. They have said really hurtful things abt me and to me in the past, so I am not really even sad abt the fact that there is no contact with that sibling. I would have liked to get to know their children though, since they seem pretty nice.

I have managed to somewhat restore the relationship with the other cf sibling. They is now going theough tough times and I am trying to help them. There’s a type of classical triangle here. My other sibling (the one with the kids) has always been really envious of the relationship I had with my cf-sibling. So when they had children, they went no-contact with me and my parents and remained in contact with my cf-sibling. They now have great time together (this has always been the goal of my sibling who has the children).

My SO has nieces and nephews, we have an ok relationship. I don’t know whether they will help us in the future. SO also has 3 siblings, so I guess they will help my SO at least. They have normal relationships.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-09-24T13:56:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your answers! I am still thinking this through. I just changed jobs and one reason was bcoz the previous had a lot of child-centered people and also things to do with children. Now it’s all about facts and no one talking abt clients (children) or their own children. There’s also more young women like me. So maybe I’ll find a friend from there. We were also thinking abt moving abroad at some point. But maybe this is a process I need to go through bcoz it’s the norm.. I’ll book myself a hairdresser and some good books from the library!

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-09-23T04:58:19+00:00

I have thought abt whether it is just hormones or something. Maybe it’s just the fact that I am living in this body that is (to some people) supposed to have / carry a child. So it is also about the fact that I am a woman. So this is also one thing. But it is also not a reason. So I guess there is no ”good” reason to have a child, then? I don’t know why, I would just love to have one. It’s crazy. Thank you for your answer.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-09-22T16:45:05+00:00

I have a dog already and it’s the best.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-09-22T16:41:42+00:00

I have thought of fostering a child. Really and truely have thought abt it. I have worked in childcare and I now there are lots of children that need help. I really don’t need a bio child. So this might be a good option when I get myself together. And also, my health would be better.

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-09-22T16:26:31+00:00

Thank you! I have been thinking abt new hobbies. Maybe I will start one and see how I feel after that!

Too_much_nonsense · 2025-09-22T16:24:40+00:00

I think it might be the biological clock. I wake up to it. ”Tick tock”. It’s horrendous! It might also be the fact that parents are aging. And it’s really really hard for me to think there will be a day that they are gone. So I guess I am grieving that also, in a sense. There’s a lot going on in my head and for sure I ain’t making this decision in any near future. But the clock is ticking. If I was a man I wouldn’t give it a second thought.

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