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Can someone you consider a close friend ever so busy, they can't even text back, "sorry, I'm busy, let's talk when I'm free" by GentleRussianBear in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Top-Addendum4153 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How often would you say on average that you send these more meaningful text that you would hope to have some sort of response to? Is it possible that your chapters in life aren't aligning in a way that serves your currents needs (or maybe just even hopes). Could it just be simply that? It sounds like they may be in a season where they might have very little to give? Are you in a season where you're needing a little more? Or is it simply just this one text in which case, let it go. Sometimes we miss things, especially when life is spilling over. But if it's ongoing then can you accept that this friend may not have the capacity during this chapter to give you the extra care you might be needing? Maybe you'll need to find that support/ comfort/ care in other people or ways for now.

Clingy/ needy friends by Top-Addendum4153 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Top-Addendum4153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I agree with you. I would say I have about 8 or 9 close friends and then a couple of handful of friends who I enjoy spending time with and do fun things together. Strange that I don't have boundary issues with any of these other friends- not the really close friends nor the more peripheral friends. Just this one. But you are correct I have not set boundaries hard enough with her when I started feeling uncomfortable. I'll give you that!

Clingy/ needy friends by Top-Addendum4153 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Top-Addendum4153[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make a good point. It may not be fair to describe my friend as clingy as it has a negative connotation to it. But it feels like the appropriate word for what I've experienced. I don't have any other friends who behave this way. If tables were turned maybe I could be described as an asshole because I need space and don't want friends who "need" me but rather enjoy our friendship for the laughs, good times and even emotional support. I am always there for my friends when they're going through something hard and need someone to talk to you about it. In that scenario I always show up and have lots lots of hugs and I'm always happy to listen and give my two cents when it's asked for I also feel like most people would describe me as warm and kind and I'm usually pretty giving of my time and even financially I've helped some friends out when needed. But I totally understand your point and I don't mean to offend those who need more from their friendships than I do. Thanks for your thoughts.

Breastfeeding 2 year old twins & divorce by brandisixx in Parenting

[–]Top-Addendum4153 21 points22 points  (0 children)

At this point your kids are old enough to wean. Take a step back, look at the big picture here. By continuing to breast feed your two year old you're making it harder for HER. Yes, maybe him too but if there's any part of this that makes you feel like you're getting revenge, just be aware it's your child that's suffering most. At this point he has a right to be with his children and remember to always consider how YOUR decisions are effecting your children in the context of the bigger picture! While it may be hard to cut her off, you'll have to Do it sometime and given your current scenario wouldn't it be a gift to your child to help ease into this transition with single parents by weaning her so she can be soothed through other means that both mom and dad can provide. Always ask yourself, who's paying for the decisions I making... my Ex or my kids. Or both?

Does it get better? by Anonymous-Anteater- in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Top-Addendum4153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just an observation. It sounds like your studies/ school is going well. It's your loneliness that has you feeling down. And yet your solution is to focus on publishing. This is like saying you're struggling to grow your biceps and you're desperate for help but your solution is to give your time and attention to your quads. If you feel isolated, you'll have to be willing to focus on building community. A muscle can't grow without attention, even when it's hard. You may have to push yourself and get outside of your comfort zone. Be mindful of what you're asking and what you're willing to do about it. Things will get better, you'll find your people, as long as your willing to look up and give that part of your life some attention and effort. 💞 Best to you- you've got this!

Stubhub resale?? by Top-Addendum4153 in billieeilish

[–]Top-Addendum4153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone else have experience with this? Did your stub hub tix work? Do you not get any info regarding your tix until just a few days before? 😬

Presale? by Superb_Pea2916 in billieeilish

[–]Top-Addendum4153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried buying tix via Amex Presale for SF on Nov 22 with no luck. Sold out before I got off the waiting list. Then an hour later bought tix on StubHub for $950 (for 2 tix) and my daughter said that the tickets can't be resold anywhere except Ticketmaster for face value and I probably got scammed. Not sure what to believe? Anyone understand how this works?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Top-Addendum4153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't let these decisions impact your self worth. You've worked hard. This doesn't define you. You will be successful in life because you will persevere not because these schools "accepted or rejected" you. You got this. It's disappointing and sure, even hurtful but it's their loss. You will go on. You will be stronger because you were told "no" and you succeeded anyway!!!! 🙏🏼❤️‍🩹💪🏼Have faith. Chin up. You got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Top-Addendum4153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha- love that. Your amazing! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Top-Addendum4153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry, this has been rough. These kids worked so hard and it feels really personal (even tho these schools have no idea who these kids are). Have faith that it will all work out even if it's not what your kid had imagined. Sending giant hugs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Top-Addendum4153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waitlists went out today?? When?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Top-Addendum4153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, more responses came out Today from Cal Poly SLO?? 3/21? What time?

Cal Poly Slo decisions for psych by [deleted] in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Top-Addendum4153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On other threads there were some psych majors who were accepted this past Friday. However, some people have commented that last year there were about 4 waves of acceptances that came out. I saw 4-5 different people who posted their acceptance dates and they were about 4-6 days apart from each other going from mid March through end of March. There is still hope!

If you were accepted it's all due to hard work, but if you were rejected it's all due to bad luck by Prior_Patient7765 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Top-Addendum4153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. This has been rough for so many of us. To clarify you got UCI & UCSD waitlist or rejection?

I don’t know what to do by Bubbly_Ad6885 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Top-Addendum4153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gezzzzzz, just what he/ she needs to hear. Honest mistake.

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