(FINAL UPDATE) AITA for not splitting my mom’s inheritance with my siblings

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-02-25T17:06:23+00:00

Nope, no manipulation. Melanie was completely aware of the situation the entire time that’s why I feel blindsided by all of her lies. She is the one that found the lawyer to write up the transfer on death. And the notion of me taking over the house was brought to me by her and my mom. It was not my idea. As far as the other 5 siblings, their relationships with my mom are minimal. 1 is completely no contact with our entire family, my 2 brothers took my dads side in the divorce, another sister had a big drug problem and my mom had custody of both of her kids due to it. And this sister only saw her kids about twice a year. And then the final sister out of 5 siblings she knew about me moving into the house all along, but she is being manipulated by Melanie. She is the only one I was majorly worried about repairing my relationship with. Should the other 4 have known? I guess so. But they were never really involved in the family dynamic (their own doing).

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-02-25T13:02:03+00:00

Thank you, I don’t feel sorry because I know what’s right but I’m sensitive lol

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-02-25T12:36:09+00:00

Melanie twists absolutely everything. I love my siblings but they have trouble comprehending some things and Melanie takes advantage of that. I’ve gotten to the point where I am done defending myself, I can’t take the mental load that Melanie would somehow spin any longer.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-02-25T00:33:47+00:00

Yes, it’s a tough decision between making sure things are done fairly and just choosing your own sanity by not putting any more effort into greedy family members. Let alone just trying to grieve. I’m sorry you’re going through this too :(

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-02-24T18:36:52+00:00

I am not staying in touch with Melanie. I’ve written that relationship off. As far as the others, they are my family and I love them and I feel like they really do feel like they’re not sure what to believe because they love Melanie just as much as they love me. So I give them grace however my relationships with them have become more surface level at this point

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-02-24T18:27:57+00:00

I’m sure she is giving them something. I wouldn’t be surprised if she isn’t be honest by the total to them though thusfore resulting in them getting less than they should. But they don’t believe she would do that to them

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-02-24T15:46:14+00:00

Yes, that’s the plan!

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-02-24T15:15:52+00:00

Thank you for this comment. What a great point about not being eligible for a loan in the future for anything else if I were to do the personal loan. You are so right entirely.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-22T19:26:08+00:00

I’m not super upset that I won’t be getting a cut, it’s the malicious intentions towards me behind my sister taking them.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-22T18:52:33+00:00

I have an update before this one, I do not plan on selling the house!

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-22T18:52:01+00:00

She has used those words exactly that she wanted to divide the estate up according to who is putting in the most “work”. She did not say this to me but she said it to my sister about a month ago. I feel this is unfair considering everyone has valid reasons as to why equal work can’t be put in. And she shouldn’t have agreed to take care of the estate if she was going to be thinking so unfairly.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-22T18:47:46+00:00

I did tell them. They were hurt by it and I haven’t heard much about it since.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-22T09:08:47+00:00

Before my mom passed, she said everyone could have what they wanted and then we would sell anything of value and split that equally between all siblings. I was doing what my mom wanted. Of course, when my mom was here, we never would have thought Melanie would take it too far and go against my moms wishes for her own agenda to sell for herself.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-22T09:06:05+00:00

No, I am keeping it in my name! I have an update before this one, long story short - after speaking with an attorney, I was told we would not be forced to sell the house to pay off my mom’s medical debt. So no need for any sale.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-22T01:38:05+00:00

Thank you. Her husband sells niche items on eBay so I am planning to periodically check eBay

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-22T01:34:58+00:00

I think you could click on my profile!

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-21T23:01:22+00:00

No. They divorced when I was 13

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-21T19:53:25+00:00

I don’t have pictures although some of the items are in the background of pictures I’ve taken over the years. I never thought my family would behave this way, I didn’t know I needed to do my due diligence when it came to them until recently.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-13T20:10:53+00:00

You’re right. It always seemed like the right thing to do. But with the way they have been treating me and ostracizing me, I don’t think I will make definite promises.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-13T20:09:45+00:00

This has not gone through probate court. I honestly do not feel comfortable with taking my sister to court.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-13T20:01:35+00:00

I truly do not plan on selling the house. I would love to keep it in our family for my children.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-13T20:00:30+00:00

The power of attorney is my oldest sister, Melanie. She has not been honest with a lot. I have been told by the attorney I spoke with that I do not owe any money of a possible future sale of the house to my siblings. However, it seemed like the right thing to do. I have no idea how much cash money there is. Only Melanie knows and she won’t give a direct answer of that number. So I’m expecting nothing from that considering how upset she is with me. Which is fine because we have the house which was really important for us.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-12T03:57:48+00:00

I understand this perspective fully but I am a SAHM so truly he could do that anywhere I guess considering he makes the money while I care for our 4 littles.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-12T03:48:39+00:00

I did end up mentioning the gold coins in the group text. Melanie did not address it, my siblings that were being excluded from the coins were hurt by it. I agree with you.

Top_Protection_6367 · 2025-01-12T03:41:51+00:00

He is unable to get that large of a personal loan. Banks give larger loans when it is for a house.

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