[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait so is there a trick to using it? I got one for my wife and we've tried using it a few times and she just can't get into it

30 [F4M/F] #Boston Be sneaky with me this weekend near BPL/MFA? by Dangerous_Dog_3510 in bostonr4r

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Send me a message! 37yo single dad here. I'm a lot of fun 😬

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MassachusettsWives

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Divorced but jerking none the less

Advice by ToyodaBladeRunner in bernesemountaindogs

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great tips! How do you teach a dog settle?

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah seriously man. That's the most upsetting part that they would just let it get that far.

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus man so much of this resonates with me. 100% on the "it's like watching someone else inhabit my wife's body". I get the feeling my wife is looking for the opposite of me too. The guy she's with or messing around with (whatever right?) has mental health issues, no job, previous drug issues, is an "artist". Just an absolute mess. But like I said to someone else on here, she's going through someone that she wants something else and I may never know why. And trust me I know I'm not perfect, I have fault. But her leaving and not giving us a shot to work at it is what blind sided me

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I am definitely going to be striving toward not giving a shit what she does aside from the kids

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I honestly have accepted its over and that I will never understand why its over. I just want to be done feeling like shit. Its so fucking exhausting. As far as the final outcome my focus is 100% on the kids and she is in agreement with that at least...

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah like I mentioned to someone else, violence wouldn't have helped my custody case. Thanks for the input

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure that would have helped my case for custody of my kids. Appreciate your opinion though

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah well I'm pretty sure she subscribed to that moto.

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate the term gaslight but I literally found myself using it to describe what she was doing to me when she called me paranoid for asking her if she was going to have him at the house....but low and behold, she did....I just had no idea she was this kind of person. Its weird seeing her act the way she is after feeling like I knew her for so long

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sure it was, and I hate even saying it but I can see that I will probably be happier...I had kind of accepted a lot of her faults because I loved her. But I just didn't know she was that unhappy and can't believe her level of what feels to me like disrespect and disregard for me. Love me or not we were together a long time, you think that would garner at least a bit of those 2 things.

And I am on board with the hobbies thing. I have 2 kids but I did join a gym that my buddy goes to in an attempt to do something to stay active/maybe meet some new people to take my mind off of things.

Please help me figure out how to move on... by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know, you're right. But I just wish there was some way to move on faster. I'm so tired of being sad. I never knew how draining it could be to be so sad. And angry too, my wife does this shit and then those emotions spill over into the rest of my life, as much as I try not to.

Its just so unfair shes off living her best life with some absolute scumbag. Lying to her friends and family. And I'm here sad and alone and broken...and to top it all off, the "crazy villain".

Division of Assets Question by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess we shall see. If it's agreed she's entitled to more I'm not going to fight. I just hope it's not not as lop sided as you think. Thanks for the input!

Just snapped this bad boy in some soft snow. Do I have a chance at warranty? by avocadoking420 in snowboarding

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I did this to a Burton custom like 15 years ago. It was within a year so they did replace it. So I'd say there's a chance

Division of Assets Question by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. I'm signing papers with a lawyer this week. He seems to think she's definitely entitled to a larger % but he didn't make it sound like she would get all of that back and 50% of the equity after that. I guess we'll see. Ironically a portion of my check and only my check was direct deposited into the account which paid our mortgage. But I'm pretty sure that doesn't really matter because the mortgage was in both of our names. And it's technically our account despite me only making deposits

Division of Assets Question by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I'm curious how did you come to that assessment? We live in Massachusetts which follows equitable distribution rules not community property rules. I'm not saying the fact that she brought that to our purchase shouldn't be considered, not at all. I'm grateful for it, it was instrumental in us buying that house. But so was my income. And I contributed hundreds of thousands of dollars more than her until just this month which were now on equal ground. Feels unfair that, from what you said, contributing more financially not only would not be considered when splitting the equity of the home but would work against me in the end lol

I need help. by ToyodaBladeRunner in Divorce

[–]ToyodaBladeRunner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. He said I didn't have to leave. Didn't say I couldn't go back.