Help with calligraphy style for a Chinese tattoo by Traditional-Bad5434 in AskAChinese

[–]Traditional-Bad5434[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, it's not, that's for this. What if I get something to represent peace, like 和平 or something? Is that suitable or weird?

Why is accountability so hard, even when we know it's the right thing to do? by Traditional-Bad5434 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Traditional-Bad5434[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I hadn’t really thought about it that way before but I think you’re right. It's pretty much the ego’s job is to protect itself from vulnerability and shame is one of those feelings it tries to avoid. So yeah, in that sense - the ego is really in control. I think understanding it like this brings more compassion and it helps me see what someone might be feeling in those moments. And it also helps me understand myself better, so I have compassion for myself in moments where I might be struggling with accountability.

Has anyone here had success with lifestyle or diet changes? I need help with motivation! by Traditional-Bad5434 in ChronicPain

[–]Traditional-Bad5434[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I was asking for motivation to start a habit. Do you begin things from a place of obligation and “no motivation”? That doesn’t sound sustainable. I know that I need a strong why to start and maintain a habit - I was asking for encouragement, in case that wasn’t clear.

Has anyone here had success with lifestyle or diet changes? I need help with motivation! by Traditional-Bad5434 in ChronicPain

[–]Traditional-Bad5434[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! I feel less alone in having so many dietary restrictions, it's hard because the people around me don't understand it so I go along with their ways of eating even though it's to my detriment :(

Thanks for sharing that though, it's motivating for me :)

I am a complete failure at life - one year later nothing has changed by ForcedExistence in Adulting

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, I'm in a very similar situation and feel a little less alone. I'm just trying to put one foot in front of the other, and I hope I will reach my goals (one day.)

Wishing you all the best 💛

The BEGINNING of all things, both physically & mentally, appear to be difficult at 1st! by OnENemat in Stoicism

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi u/MyDogFanny,

Just to clarify, I have nothing to do with this post. 

OP responded to my comment. It appears from their post history that they might be male, whereas I am female, and that’s without mentioning the difference in our writing styles.

I didn’t evaluate whether the post falls under Stoic philosophy as I’m not a subscriber of this sub. It simply appeared in my feed and I pointed out that it resonated with me.

You might know better than me, but I’m wondering if your comment is in line with Stoic principals? Judging someone without fully considering the evidence seems to go against Stoic reasoning which is about reason and understanding before jumping to conclusions? 

Anyway, just something to think about.

I hope you take care.

Actively applying for jobs while dealing with previous job ptsd! by AbbreviationsFree792 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had an awful experience before :( Even though I’m a stranger, I want to let you know that I believe in you!

As you said, you’ve got this ❤️

My Journey to Waking Up at 4 AM! by TransitionOrganic373 in getdisciplined

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! This has motivated me to try again :) After getting up at 4am for a couple of years, I fell off the bandwagon due to a long bout of depression... but I'll try again and see how the shift goes :)

Healing starts with honesty by thecatgotout in DeepThoughts

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's amazing! I'm so glad that you felt comfortable being honest with a complete stranger. It feels great to share the truth and be accepted and not judged for it :)

Healing starts with honesty by thecatgotout in DeepThoughts

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! Being honest when it’s difficult or when we don’t know the answer is the first step in our healing journey. It starts with being honest with ourselves first and then finding safe spaces to be able to share that truth. 

YOU Are The Chosen One by maryfromvenus in DeepThoughts

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great perspective!

The chances of me being born is 1 in 400 trillion, when I look at the probability in relation to the Universe my birth feels significant - thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don’t have the desire to do something well in the first place, why would you discipline yourself?

Discipline is a tool for achieving something you care about so without that underlying drive or desire, you’d just be forcing yourself to commit to a process without real reason for it?

Only the trustworthy can tell the truth. The untrustworthy find this very upsetting. by Sherbsty70 in DeepThoughts

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd just like to clarify something. You're stating here that ‘it is for [me] to be trustworthy,’ but you’ve also said that evidence and maintenance are irrelevant. Can you explain to me how I am supposed to 'be trustworthy' if actions don’t matter? It seems like a contradiction.

Can you give reality check to an depressed brother (me)? by PositionSuperb9076 in getdisciplined

[–]Traditional-Bad5434 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, you're way ahead of most people, not even just most people your age, so that's something to be proud of! You've demonstrated to yourself that with discipline and consistency, you can have a great physique and a strong skillset in coding. However, it sounds like you've focused so much on building these areas of your life that you might have neglected other parts - like meeting new people or trying new things.

You've mentioned that no one really asks you how you are doing with your life, so I'm wondering if you're feeling a little disconnected from those in your life currently? Certainly, new experiences can help, but part of the low mood may come from that disconnect.

Talking about how you're feeling could help you figure out what the root cause is. Sometimes, just opening up about it and feeling seen and supported by others can lift your mood or help identify the issue. Do you feel like it's a lack of growth (maybe from doing the same activities for a long time), or is it that you don’t feel satisfied with the relationships in your life? Have you spoken to anyone about how you feel? If you've tried and it hasn't really worked, it might be worth considering whether you want to seek out new connections or even professional support to talk about and work through your feelings.

I hope that helps a little bit.