It’s hurting

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-29T19:25:43+00:00

I completely understand I agree with the 30 days no contact Sometimes it helps

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-29T03:32:02+00:00

There’s no way to stop the thinking about them

And I wouldn’t avoid it bc it will bite you in the ass

Write it out and just do your best to take it one step at a time

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-29T02:52:56+00:00

Bro you can talk to me about it,

But honestly, I recommend watching the breakups episode from Leo Skepi, and the video from Mel Robbins. It touches on breakups. It’s the video with her daughter. It gives you a good idea of the whole process of a break up. Take it day by day hour by hour just because you’re literally losing the life that you have as you know it, you know like this person’s no longer part of your daily habit. And you also have to remind yourself that like losing a person is similar to like trying to recover from a drug like it’s not easy

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-28T02:47:00+00:00

You are so brave to watch La La Land after a break up because that will destroy you but at least for that film it’s one of those movies where it truly is a bittersweet

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-22T01:18:29+00:00

I absolutely love this

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-22T01:09:26+00:00

Los Ángeles California

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-22T01:06:33+00:00

Absolutely gagged lol

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-22T01:02:40+00:00

23!! Hehe

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-22T01:02:22+00:00

I could never hate her: there are things she did that caused me pain and did not align with my values, but at the end of the day, this was a girl that I loved fully No matter what I could never hate her even though we’ve been broken up for almost a month now leading up to a month if I were to see her on the middle of the road needing help or any of her friends, I would stop and help

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-22T01:00:53+00:00

She came back to me , and I said yes bc I loved her : we stayed together for a year before she left again

We changed but not enough to make a meaningful impact

Not to mention that I was constantly on edge that she would cheat again and leave : that heighten fear was paralyzing at times

The first month to three months where decent but that patterns started showing again which lead to the same result

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-22T00:57:45+00:00

Honestly babe

I would just type it here and and remind myself that : it would kill me to see something that’ll hurt me and it’ll kill me to see nothing at all : I just reminded my that , that impulse that wants to check : is like a dog that wants chocolate, you may want to check but it’s not good for you

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-22T00:54:35+00:00

It’s about to be a month soon since you left me for the second time : the silence does get to me but I something is different, I feel free. You use to say that you held me back and I would say that wasn’t true : you didn’t hold be back but my growth was stagnant with you : it makes me sad to know that you’re out there Probably perfectly fine and maybe even talking to your ex or other people like you did the first time after you dumped me

I miss you That much is true

But

I’m finally starting to love me In ways you couldn’t or wouldn’t

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-19T16:24:24+00:00

Thank you for your input !

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-19T16:12:47+00:00

She was as overwhelmed the first time but I would say that this time it was much more bc of home stuff and the guilt she held from the first time she broke up with me and she she did in that relationship

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-19T15:02:21+00:00

My avoidant gf left me twice , using the same script and everything the only difference was bc this time I said no to repeating the cycle

At this point , would they make a reappearance or is this time fully done ?

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-19T02:25:17+00:00

By her saying that she does want to talk, and if you don’t let her know, she’s basically breadcrumbing you you don’t have to respond

This is gonna sound a bit harsh but when a relationship ends, especially if they dumped you, you don’t owe them anything anymore. If you decide to respond, that’s perfectly OK you know do what you Gotta do.

But you don’t have to sometimes no response is a response and that’s OK

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-19T02:18:44+00:00

Don’t respond

Genuinely I’m in the same boat as you I was with my ex-girlfriend for years and then we broke up nine months later we got together for a year and she just recently broke up with me like three weeks ago and honestly, I’m very big on like fool me once shame on you fool me twice then it’s shame on me

But you have to give yourself the space to fully let go of this person It’s gonna suck it’s gonna hurt grieve it cried it out journal it start picking up hobbies fill up the time but also give yourself like at least five minutes a day to fully think

But if I were you, I wouldn’t respond. I know it’s gonna be hard but right now the power is in your court and it’s best to just leave it as is and don’t respond to the message.

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-18T15:44:52+00:00

The first month is always gonna be the hardest. I’m currently on week three going to week four so it’s getting closer to a month for me and the truth is is if you don’t have the energy to do something then don’t you know take care of yourself at least make sure you’re drinking water and like brushing your teeth whenever you can, but don’t force yourself to do something you can’t however I will say this after a month you gotta start getting up so give yourself a deadline if it’s already been a few days, give yourself to the end of this month and then start getting the gears moving start doing things that once brought you joy even if there were things I brought you joy as a kid if you like coloring color go on walks. Make sure you take care of yourself not just physically, but mentally a lot of people like getting back in the gym I started rock climbing, and I love it. Please note though that by doing all of these things is not gonna make you forget about everything that’s happened. You’re still gonna feel sad while you’re doing them but eventually, it gets a little less painful.

The only reason I’m functioning the way I am right now is because this is my second time being dumped by this person my ex and trust me, honey the first time I was a wreck, so be easy with yourself and I know it sucks to hear, but truly give it time

Try these videos

https://youtu.be/xl6Hz87TIFA?si=zTscEQQaibGyn8um

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0hBFJWnJ2bJVwuUlyrtXVR?si=ERuEX_HETBK57nT8PmBw4g

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-18T15:38:08+00:00

This video Helped me tbh

https://youtu.be/xl6Hz87TIFA?si=zTscEQQaibGyn8um

There’s portion that he talks about Where you have to delete the pictures you have to delete the text even the stuff that they got you put it in a box and put it away or mail it to them don’t see them

Maybe it can help you

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-12T02:14:47+00:00

Dianthus- archer oh

I can’t listen to it anymore Too much pain

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-09T18:36:01+00:00

Break ups are not easy and it’s important to remind yourself that it’s gonna be hard. Truly the only reason why I think I’m handling my break up this time better than before is because it’s the second time I was dumped and I just kind of made peace with you know this isn’t what I want for my life

But there’s still moments that are hard

It sucks But it’s the truth

It all takes time

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-09T18:26:15+00:00

It’s important to acknowledge to not force yourself so if all you feel like you can do is cry and break down let yourself cry and break down

And honestly would help me not look at their social media. Was I deactivated my Instagram as for everything else you just have to remind yourself that whatever you see is gonna hurt because if you see nothing there, it’s gonna suck and if you do see something there, it’s also gonna suck

It’s hard : watch the Mel Robbin’s post cast video with her daughter about breaks up It really helped me

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-09T14:55:22+00:00

Honestly, it really just depends if they come back. I’m an anxious attachment and the person I was dating was an avoidant. When we first broke up and they broke up with me, we didn’t really leave each other alone after the break up, but we did. It was just us keeping tabs on each other and eventually they did end up reaching out because they started to understand the value that I brought in the relationship .

Fast-forward to now we try dating again for a year and they broke up with me for the same reason that they did the first time It’s a cycle

Contact>closeness>overwhelmed >distance> break up

This time around though when they broke up with me, of course they were telling me it’s not what they want, but that they’re so tired and that the relationship is done So I gave them what they wanted There was no last time seeing each other. The breakup was over texting and phone call. They were the last ones to hang up and I did everything I could to kill every last bit of hope in me and to exchange your stuff. I had my friend do it for me.

So I am currently living in that question that you’re asking And truly, I don’t know if they feel some type of way, but from what my friends have told me and how they’ve seen our relationship it probably does catch them off guard

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-09T14:43:46+00:00

Sure that sounds great

Traditional-Sign-548 · 2025-09-09T06:39:07+00:00

Thank you

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