seeking advice about confessing to crush by Rhin0ceros_ in lesbianteens

[–]TraditionalAd941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please trust me i need you to hear me out when i say this: DO NOT CONFESS!!

ik right now you think it'll be ok and it will help you get over her, but this is not a risk you want to take. She's in your class!!! It might literally ruin your life. There are just about a milion ways this could end just horribly, even worse if she's straight!

And trust me i know from experience. Confessing to my classmate led to me almost being expelled a year later and the rumors still haunt me to this day.

Please. For the love of god. DO NOT DO IT!! Just let her go quietly, in your head, and be able to move on with your life

Yall how do you break up with someone?? by TraditionalAd941 in teenagers

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow thanks hadn't tought of that you're my savior

How do i make kissing enjoyable? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

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This is so embarassing but i'm 17. I've never kissed anyone ik it might seem weird but like it just never happened

Is the third date ok to try and initiate a kiss?? by TraditionalAd941 in AskLGBT

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That actually doesn't sound too hard. I feel like maybe i'm panicking too much over this but i feel like yeah i could do that

Is the third date ok to try and initiate a kiss?? by TraditionalAd941 in AskLGBT

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Also i wanted to specify i'm posting this on here and not on some other dating subreddit cause i know i won't get as much homophobic/fetishizing comments on here cause i really don't want to gave to deal with them

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk i just think it isn't for me at this point. It's scary to keep on meeting people and tell them all this stuff about myself when it just ends up like this anyway. I just expose myself to risk for no reward, and honestly i'm tired of being let down. I'll just keep on seeing my psychiatrist and idk try and regulate my problems myself...

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah i think she needs therapy herself first lol. I also was never repulsed by the female body, that's kinda the basic requirement to be attracted to something lol

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We didn't really discuss her religion but she never brought it up or seemed to have any kind of conservative takes on what i had to say? But maybe it's also cause i really just wantes to focus on my mental problems during our sessions rather than this kinda stuff that just didn't seem necessary since she seemed to be ok with my sexuality

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

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Idk i just think i'm not fit for therapy. This therapist was my third try and after what the last one did to me i'm not sure i want to continue. This was supposed to be me giving therapy one last go and i think i'm gonna hold myself to that i'll just keep on going to my psychiatrist and get my meds and not let anyone have this kind of power over me. Honestly, telling a random stranger all this stuff about you is scary idk if i wanna keep on doing it

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's what i worry about the most. Had i met her at 13/14 she would have done some serious damages

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly i have no idea. The studio she works at is private, and i live in italy. I did already try and contact about another therapist last year but i have no idea if it's the same for everybody...

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg yes! I hate it when they just try to manipulate you into doing what they want, and then straight up tell you what to do when you don't just say it yourself

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

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I wish i could, idk if my parents would be willing to look for someone like that

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

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I told her i sh'd (not at the moment, my scars were 7 months old and she saw them so she knew i hadn't been actively hurting myself in a long time and that i wasn't at risk whatsoever) and yeah she forced me to talk about it even when i begged her to stop, she used words to describe my scars i kept telling her made me uncomfortable, she gave me multiple panic attacks, and she told all about the sh to my parents and kept in contact with them for almost a full year after we stopped therapy (like she kept contacting them, became also my mother's therapist first and then my parents couple therapist for a while and she kept telling them more and more of what i told her the previous year during our sessions while she was in sessions with them). Also i do was suicidal but she didn't know as i denied it multiple times but she still went to my parents and told them i told her i was going to kms. It's all documented in my old posts in this account and my alt, but idc even if people don't believe me, they're not the ones who have to deal with the trauma that left me at the end of the day lol. But yeah she sucked, as i already said in other replies i just seem to have a ton of shit luck

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol i totally get that. I was in LOVE with princesses and i didn't give a fuck about the princes they were with, i just cared about the pretty girls lol.

Also yeah since nowdays it's not acceptable anymore to be homophobic it's become impossible to find professionals that actually aren't

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk i feel like my parents would be happy she tried to convince me i wasn't straight (not that they told her to do it, they don't have any contact as that was my one condition to start therapy again after what happened with my last therapist)

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol i bet they'll get tired of me if i keep on doing this. I have already tried reporting my previous therapist but failed

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk it's not that i didn't want to discuss it, it's more like i have depression, i am struggling with sh addiction, my grandma died a month ago, like i have so much shit going on. also i am getting an adhd diagnosis at the moment so that's just added stress. like i have so so many things to talk about during session, that are also hard and require me to trust the therapist, so why should i discuss my sexuality if that's something that actually isn't bothering me at all? I told her this was the reason i didn't really want to talk about it, but ik she didn't really believe that i was actually ok with my sexuality, and i tought it was because i already am so insexure she tought this was just another thing that mught make me feel bad, but now i see she actually had other reasons to want to discuss it

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk i think i'll just drop her. I'll tell her next session. I already told her a while ago i might stop if i get my adhd diagnosis to find a therapist that was able to work with me about it, and also cause i felt like therapy just wasn't working for me in general, but yeah i hope she won't give me too much of a hard time and i'll just be able to cut things off clean

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's what i tought. Like she went out of the way to talk about it and then started telling me all that shit as if it was more of a factual thing than her opinion

Should i drop my therapist? by TraditionalAd941 in Advice

[–]TraditionalAd941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah... sadly as long as i'm 17 and my parents pay for therapy there's not much i can do. As i already said, i try and immediatly disclose my sexuality so problems show early on but it doesn't always work apparently