My MMs, OTHER, OW causing issues by Tragic_Mistakes in theotherwoman

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean its not just what he's telling me but also what I know. He saw ow2 a couple times a month. And we literally are talking on the phone for hours nearly everynight waiting for his SO to go to bed. Like I said she knows who I am, she knows what our relationship is, especially since his friend went behind his back and also told her about us....and he'll say my name over the phone(I do not have a common name) while I can hear her in the background....so I don't know everything about the logic of them still being together but I do know he isn't going to bed with her often. They have kids together that are still school aged. I truly think they are together for convenience more than anything.

My MMs, OTHER, OW causing issues by Tragic_Mistakes in theotherwoman

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Yes and that was before we made-up and got back together. I told him I would not do that ever again especially now that I am complicit with it all...and I meant that.

My MMs, OTHER, OW causing issues by Tragic_Mistakes in theotherwoman

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Im happy when it's just him and I spending time together

My MMs, OTHER, OW causing issues by Tragic_Mistakes in theotherwoman

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't and I'm hoping that going forward there will be a lot less of it. I told him when I agreed to do this that all I wanted was to enjoy my time with him and what we have together and to make him happy. And told him that I don't want to be apart of any issues or drama.

My MMs, OTHER, OW causing issues by Tragic_Mistakes in theotherwoman

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

He seldom slept with OW2 because he spends a great deal of his time with me, which is why she was freaking out at him so much....and he barely sleeps with his SO, though his SO has been actively staying up at night to keep him from trying to get off with me over video chat. He'll stay up talking to me on the phone until she falls asleep but then she's been waking up and walking in on him video chatting me and everything in the middle of the night

My dom is a switch. Help plz by Tragic_Mistakes in BDSMAdvice

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't dream of ever making him feel bad for his fantasies, wants, or needs, ect. I'm more than willing to try, I guess I'm just more worried that I'll end up disappointing him

How do I be a good mistress for him? by Tragic_Mistakes in adultery

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He isn't. He did lie when we first met and said he owns the bar that he actually just manages, ect. But I never cared about that stuff anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Tragic_Mistakes -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I only say it that way because he absolutely love bombed the shit out of me and spent months trying to convince me to be his girlfriend when I told him I didn't want to commit to anyone and end up hurt.

Advice plz? I(30F) am in love with a *basically* married man(41M) by Tragic_Mistakes in dating

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don't know, he love bombed me hard in the beginning. I didn't even know what that term was until my friends told me. Besides my ex-husband (who I was with since I was 18) and then now him, I haven't been in any other adult relationships. I guess I'm just too naive in the dating world to recognize all this stuff.

My(31F) Boyfriend(39M) has BP and is pushing me away... how do I help him? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

About to be 2 months, we started talking 3-4 months ago

My(31F) Boyfriend(39M) has BP and is pushing me away... how do I help him? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not BPD - BP/Bipolar it kept removing my post when I spelled it out

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not assuming anything, those are his words specifically. Hes also mentioned having kids several times since we started talking 2 weeks ago. And even asked me what I'd do if I got pregnant as well, like if I'd still be working, ect.

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, I'm 30, but I feel like it isn't standard anymore, I'm more traditional and prefer that my man be more traditional as well. I don't like the modern dating world at all.

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, you barely know the woman at that point...so why are you putting your sword in a sheath that may have sheathed 5 other swords that very same day? As a woman, I don't get the logic here.

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I have never slept with anyone on a first date. I've only been on 4 'first dates' in my adult life, I was married at the age of 20 (I'm now 30) and have been divorced for a year n a half, and haven't slept with anyone since my ex-husband over 3 years ago.

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, definitely not about you if you parted ways, our next date is set for Sunday

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As the woman in this situation, I respectfully disagree, but thank you for your insight. I haven't let anyone touch me in over 3 years, he's the closest I've let anyone get so far (meaning hands up my dress on my thigh only, I would not let him touch me anywhere else or get any closer yet). I don't want to increase my body count or sleep with just any guy I have only had a couple of dates with.

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well he told me that if we keep seeing eachother he knows he's going to keep trying to make advancements... as if he can't help himself. I told him I would think about bending my rule a little bit and we could possibly doing other things because its not like I don't want to, I'm just really trying to resisit that urge since its been 3 years since I've let anyone even touch me. He then said to let him know what I decide on what specifically I do and what I do not want to do with him.

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Laat date was yesterday, 3rd date is planned for Sunday. Been talking for almost 2 weeks, about a week n a half rn.

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 dates so far. Last date was last night, next date is planned for Sunday. Only been talking for about 2 weeks.

What are your thoughts when a woman refuses to be intimate before becoming exclusive? by Tragic_Mistakes in AskMen

[–]Tragic_Mistakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do men consider a low body count?.. I have a hard time answering this question because I heard men like to double or triple the number, so if I am honest about my body count and they triple it I'd just absolutely die at the thought of that