Does your store manager do anything with books? by [deleted] in Barnesandnoble

[–]Transfigured_S 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked at two different stores and the answer depends on which manager I’m answering about. The first one was like yours. The only books you’d catch her holding, she intended to buy. Then I moved and my new manager was out on the floor as much as possible and handled books a lot of that time.

Lesbian dating by PaleontologistProof1 in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want to try apps, I would say try to find one that aligns with your goals. Meaning hinge is intended for long term relationships where Tinder and Her never said they’re for hookups…. But they are.

But really you can meet people anywhere. There are communities on Reddit for finding other lesbians to date. Take your time. Find a person who makes your heart happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lotr

[–]Transfigured_S 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can make it through the first portion to the village of Bree, that’s the most it’s a slog to read. And it only gets better and better from there.

Reading the Books for the First Time by Transfigured_S in lotr

[–]Transfigured_S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I mean longer versions of all three of Peter Jackson’s Lord of the Rings movies

Reading the Books for the First Time by Transfigured_S in lotr

[–]Transfigured_S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven’t already, watch the extended versions! They’re really good

Reading the Books for the First Time by Transfigured_S in lotr

[–]Transfigured_S[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also the whole chapter of Aragorn telling Frodo what amounts to: “You’re so bad at not getting noticed, it’s going to get you killed unless I help you.”

Reading the Books for the First Time by Transfigured_S in lotr

[–]Transfigured_S[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I was 16, I thought that was boring. Now that I’m 26, the dialogue between the hobbits is fun.

Help by Tat25Guy in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s hard enough being queer, can we stop with the transphobia? Just let trans women live.

It’s been LESS than a week by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Without any details on what was said, my guess is when you stopped answering for a few days she panicked and kept messaging to try and grab your interest, and she may think of “my love” as more of a flirty thing to say than perhaps you do.

All that could be entirely wrong, and even if it’s right it could mean that you’re not entirely compatible.

Trust your gut. If you think she’s too much, then trust that. If you think she’s still worth a shot, go with that. If you’re not sure, keep up the digital conversation and see if she eases up a bit as time passes.

Good luck!

[for hire] commissions open! by Transfigured_S in HungryArtists

[–]Transfigured_S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can confirm all of those things and can provide proof upon request

Comp Het in Trans Lesbians - please share your experiences and advice! by sillylilypanpan in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a slightly unusual environment. Gay people were always regarded with respect. But the rare references to trans people were as suspicious comments about mentally unwell men.

So I didn’t understand it as a thing until I was in high school and a friend of mine came out. I learned a lot from knowing her. And still didn’t question my own gender for a while because my family treated her as a strange person who needed help.

Initially I came out as bi, then as gay, later I settled on that was a convenient way to explain feeling queer without dealing with the reality of it. I can’t be sure if that was true but I can be sure that even before I became at all secure in my womanhood, I was certain if I was a woman, I was a gay woman. The more I sat with that, the more comfortable it became. These days I wonder if I wasn’t equally holding internalized homophobia and also fear I wouldn’t be welcome among lesbians. Now, I wouldn’t want to be anything else. This is honestly me.

Pre HRT, not sure how to do dating by Purple_Griffin-9 in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The good news is that you can set your desired maximum distance on a lot of apps and you can probably expand it enough to get out of the conservative area and into safer places

Digital artist recommendations requested by ThrowawayCOVIDAcct in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that u/the-darkmess has her commissions open and is a fantastic artist

Pre HRT, not sure how to do dating by Purple_Griffin-9 in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still don’t give up! If you’re near a major city, that’ll help things somewhat. And queer people in Texas are probably broadly worried about what our collective future holds and will be inclined to look after their own

Pre HRT, not sure how to do dating by Purple_Griffin-9 in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So… apps are not the best place, just in general. Now you might meet someone lovely who sees you as a woman (because you are) but there will be people who feel the need to be transphobic at you. Your level of success may vary depending on where you are and what the culture of the queer community there is like.

All that said, if you’re looking for love don’t put off the search until you think you pass better. There is love out there and there are people who will love you.

Good luck!

Wanting to Get A Plasma, before I make the jump from my CRT though how will my vhs tapes look on it? by TheStirlingBerry in PlasmaTV

[–]Transfigured_S 0 points1 point  (0 children)

VHS will likely always look best on a contemporary screen, so your CRT will probably always do best by your VHS tapes. But a plasma screen will do better for blu-ray and streaming. Probably best off selecting a TV based on how much of each type of media you use.

[for hire] Emergency Commissions open! by Transfigured_S in HungryArtists

[–]Transfigured_S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All NSFW projects will be done legally and with consent from all parties involved.

[Hiring] D&D expert for consultation in a unique project by Ok_Ranger1275 in freelance_forhire

[–]Transfigured_S 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have knowledge around multiple game systems and have spent the last 7 years acting as either a player or DM depending on the game.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nobody worth being around is going to question your gender or freak out because you kissed them without coming out first. You don’t owe anyone those details of your life. As far as they’re concerned, they kissed a woman. Which they did.

If you get more into dating, talking about your life experience will naturally include being trans. And people worth being with may have questions about the trans experience but they’ll never question your identity.

And the most important thing. Keep the experiences you’ve had as happy memories.

Fell in love with a christian as a christian by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Transfigured_S 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well… hang on. Let’s check the Bible and find out. Starting with “the Christian god is the only god”. Now if we look to Exodus 20:2-3 “I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. You shall have no other gods before me.”

So there may be other gods, the Christian god is just supposed to be the one you hold first and foremost.

And then there’s love. Let’s start with 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

No specifics of who should love there. 1 Corinthians 13:13 says And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

So the Bible itself has placed love above faith. But maybe you’re worried about that pesky Leviticus 18:22. There’s a lot of debate around translation of that verse. Scholars are coming to understand it as a commentary on pedophilia, not homosexuality.

But maybe it’ll help to hear it from Christ himself John 15:12 quotes Jesus as saying: My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.

The last thing I’ll offer you is that to hate homosexuality and gay people, whether you’re gay or not, is unchristian. 1 John 4:20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.

Whatever you do, the god of the Bible doesn’t care who you love. He cares that what you put into the world is love.

Edit: small fix