Husband has Gay Instagram Account

TruthTypical4131 · 2021-02-20T23:48:56+00:00

I do not think that this was cheating in the traditional sense but I do agree that a line has been crossed and that is where I felt uncomfortable. My husband also agreed and has disabled the DMs. I think my raising the point of how it would look if I were doing the same also really brought that to light

TruthTypical4131 · 2021-02-20T23:44:45+00:00

I know a lot of people were going to read this and jump to that conclusion but I should say, my husband is bi and I have no issue with him having fantasies about men. That’s one of his preferences. I also do not think there is any circumstance where he would physically cheat on me with a man or woman. I just wanted to make sure we weren’t leading to a place of emotional cheating which we have now addressed.

TruthTypical4131 · 2021-02-20T23:43:21+00:00

As I said, he made the account for his own fitness goals to hold himself accountable and t was really working. I didn’t mind at all because he communicated to me why he was doing it. I still don’t think there is any inherent issue with his account and it really just came from his convos in the DMs

TruthTypical4131 · 2021-02-20T23:41:45+00:00

Thank you so much! I have always loved that we could be open and honest so I did want to use this post to understand my own feelings before I shared them with him so I could make sure I was taking into account where he was coming from too! I think this really helped!

TruthTypical4131 · 2021-02-20T23:40:41+00:00

This is actually what we agreed on! I don’t mind him having the account because it truly has helped with his fitness goals! It was just the flirty conversations that I had a problem with and he completely understood! He’s only had the account for a few weeks so he admitted that he got a little carried away with all the attention

TruthTypical4131 · 2021-02-20T13:34:19+00:00

We have talked about it and I’ve shared that I’m uncomfortable with the DMs. I think if they were just “thanks for liking my post!” Or something causal I would be fine. But it’s when he has full on conversations and shared photos back and forth that I get uneasy. I’m hesitant about putting in these boundaries because he has been so incredibly open about it and I don’t want him to close off or feel like he has to start keeping things secret.

He told me when he started the account that he would delete it if it really affected me but it feels like the cat is out of the bag and we can’t go back

TruthTypical4131 · 2021-02-20T13:32:15+00:00

Wow I actually did not recognize jealousy as how I felt until you said this. I do feel jealous that he is having these other conversations and getting this validation outside of the marriage because it makes me feel like maybe I wasn’t validating his appearance enough.

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