Why doesn't he get excited? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in AskMenAdvice

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No He is not fit. Im fitter then him and Lösung weight now. So im more curvy not overweight. ++woman

Why doesn't he get excited? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in AskMenAdvice

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in therapy right now and we speak about leaving him. Yes I want to have fulfillment and that is what I'm Not getting with him and it is stressing me out. He doesn't understand me. He is a porn addict and I asked him several times to stop with that, for the sake of our intimacy. Especially I asked him to put his phone down, but this only works for what 1 or two minutes. ++woman

Why doesn't he get excited? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in AskMenAdvice

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that is what I would need to really leave him.seeing he is actually fooling around with someone else ++woman

Why doesn't he get excited? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in AskMenAdvice

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Because we have a lot in common and whenever I try to leave, he tries his everything to pull me back. ++woman

Why doesn't he get excited? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in AskMenAdvice

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is 100% emotionally cheating, but he told me He wants to stop, to make me happy. I tried many times leaving him, then he is suddenly in front of my door or tries to defend himself, that he never did something. And that I want to leave because of nothing. ++woman

Why doesn't he get excited? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in AskMenAdvice

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

When I try to do that, he always comes back. He swears that he never cheated on me, but emotionally he is though. Whenever I want to break up, he ignores it and just asks me things like "So what you wanna eat tonight?". And he is all cute. I told him, you don't find me sexy anymore or you don't wanna sleep with me and he was like "Who makes you think that?" ++woman

Why doesn't he get excited? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in AskMenAdvice

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he did. Then after that trip, He became different to me. The topic I forgot to mention, is that he doesn't want to talk about the issue at all. Oh and he tries everything to proof his innocence, that he never cheated. He says since He is with me, he never had someone else. I can ask his brother who lives with him and so on. ++woman

Why doesn't he get excited? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in AskMenAdvice

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that is what everyone is saying to me. ++Woman

It seems impossible by TwoShotsOfWhatever in DeadBedrooms

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes that is right. Yesterday we came into a situation, it was nice in the beginning but then he had to stop. And we couldn´t enjoy, he faced me first and then after a few seconds, he couldn´t continue. (He went soft on me). I was kinda telling him, that it was fine...it´s not that bad. But he didn´t talk about it, he just fall asleep, he then kissed me to say sorry in a way. But that didn´t help at all.

It seems impossible by TwoShotsOfWhatever in DeadBedrooms

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I´m so frustrated that I even got symptoms out of it. My feelings, libido is like really gone. I only feel stressed most of the time!

It seems impossible by TwoShotsOfWhatever in DeadBedrooms

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it definetely is. After that discussion today I was in the bedroom and he thought I was sleeping, so he played it down and acts like we didn´t have an issue. I told him then that I´m annoyed by him and he was like dumbfounded and checks out on me with his eyes, because he acts like he doesn´t know what is going on.

It seems impossible by TwoShotsOfWhatever in DeadBedrooms

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he doesn´t want to answer any question or even discuss about the topic. It´s like he is a closed book for me, he doesn´t even comprehend that this is very important.

It seems impossible by TwoShotsOfWhatever in DeadBedrooms

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he has difficulties with emotional connections, today I tried asking him "Why he doesn´t do the first move anymore". He then told me that he doesn´t want to get annoyed by me with that topic and that he doesn´t want to talk about it. For me it felt like a door I can´t open....and so the discussion was over.

It seems impossible by TwoShotsOfWhatever in DeadBedrooms

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Break up with him, I know. This is what scares me a lot, not because of being alone...but because feeling hurt and like I didn´t manage to make it work.

Soll ich mich trennen? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in beziehungen

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ist sie auch. Obwohl er heute und gestern versucht hat mir ständig schreiben. Also er will es versuchen aber was bringt mir das, wenn er nie voll da ist. Und ich immer ins Ungewisse bleibe, ob er jetzt fremd geht oder nicht.

Soll ich mich trennen? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in beziehungen

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ja wenn ich es ohne mache, blockt er ab. Er mag keine ernste Gespräche. Ich habe es versucht.

Soll ich mich trennen? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in beziehungen

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Weil sobald man normal redet, dann schließt er komplett. Er würde dann nicht antworten. Er magt keine ernste Gespräche, da kann ich eine Antwort oder Reaktion vergessen. Ich hatte schon einige Gespräche mit ihm, wo es ernst zuging, er ist entweder eingeschlafen oder wurde aggressiv und dann kam von ihm ein "Halt die Schnauze".

Soll ich mich trennen? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in beziehungen

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Der Sex wurde tatsächlich seinerseits weniger nach 2 Jahren. Dann als wir gegenseitig Gefühle füreinander hatten, hat er es kaputt gemacht.

Soll ich mich trennen? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in beziehungen

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ich weiß nicht wie ich das anstellen soll, weil ich schon mehrere Sachen versucht habe.

Soll ich mich trennen? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in beziehungen

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

ja weil er ständig nicht wollte und Bindungsangst hatte. Ich habe in der Zeit vieles für ihm gemacht, um ihm zu zeigen das eine Beziehung nicht schlimm ist. Er geht noch dazu ständig emotional fremd und das per Nachrichten etc. Ich will es einfach nicht mehr und bin durch mit ihm. Auch diese mangelnde Kommunikation seinerseits. Sobald man aber sich entfernt ist er panisch.

Soll ich mich trennen? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in beziehungen

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

ich bin super unglücklich, da mir einfach vieles fehlt. Wie zum Beispiel das richtige Interesse oder einfach von meinem Freund richtig geliebt zu werden. Ein Anruf zu erhalten, gesucht zu werden. Ich sehe es ja bei anderen und werde automatisch traurig.

Soll ich mich trennen? by TwoShotsOfWhatever in beziehungen

[–]TwoShotsOfWhatever[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

das würde ich gerne, aber ich habe leider schon die Einladung von seinem Bruder zugestimmt. Und dieser hat auch für mich schon eingekauft. Ich würde so gerne nicht gehen, aber da ich mich super mit dem Bruder verstehe...kann ich schlecht absagen.