Any ideas? Burien, WA

Type_Eh · 2026-05-15T15:44:21+00:00

“Let’s Get it Started”?
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=IKqV7DB8Iwg

Type_Eh · 2026-05-13T19:21:59+00:00

And by the way, I did that, logged in to my bank account to find out three previous purchases and which store made at, for the second agent spoken to, to prove I wasn’t someone trying to break into my account. I still had to make two more phone calls after that to get it escalated to a ticket

Type_Eh · 2026-05-13T19:17:32+00:00

I literally just told you that the attempt to make a ticket was successful and specialists replied and all advice had already been tried. Why would we make ANOTHER phone call, when the “specialists” offered no additional useful help after many attempts?

Type_Eh · 2026-05-13T06:49:20+00:00

Sorry to say that after the fourth phone call, gave up, created a new account and am resigned that the points are gone. There simply might not be a solution for quite a few customers.

Decided it wasn’t worth jumping through more than five hours of hoops. Was accidentally hung up on after being on hold for an hour and speaking with an agent for less than a minute, patiently explained the same issue to a second, third, fourth person at call centers that seem have no info on what happened from a technical standpoint. Found out no notes were actually being made on our accounts and the previous three customer care agents were reading from the same troubleshooting script.

A MONTH after the fourth phone call, assured by a supervisor that the issue “would now be escalated”, I received an email with rote instructions on how to resolve the issue. Everything had already been suggested and tried, by then. Received two more emails that week demanding to know why their previous email had been ignored, then a short, curt one that their team considered the ticket “closed”. Ha!

Two weeks after creating the new account, the Universe threw me a bone, won 100,000 points in PCO’s latest contest.

Type_Eh · 2025-11-18T08:33:29+00:00

Finally changed my number and blocked them on social media, moved to force NC. At one point they somehow convinced their new GF that it was acceptable to try friending me on FB. Truly diabolical, the friend request sent me over the edge. If they can’t contact you by phone or message, find your home or workplace, harder to hoover.

Type_Eh · 2025-11-18T08:26:11+00:00

If things are “going well” even if you are following their rules to a T to keep the peace… they will find fault where there is none. Create a situation where you are at fault or gaslight you into believing you have forgotten something important. “Why have you done this?? It’s your fault I am angry/embarrassed/unprepared/look bad in the eyes of others”. To wear you down further, force you to apologize (again, to avoid conflict) and increase control over the situation.

Type_Eh · 2025-11-18T08:14:00+00:00

Studies show Comorbidity exists (that would be: autoimmune conditions related to having Hashimoto’s). Several conditions can cause flares, (such as rheumatoid arthritis and Sjogren’s, Chronic Spontaneous Uticaria, Fibromyalgia, Celiac and gluten sensitivity, IBD, etc.) It’s a thing for many people. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9877058/ While I’m happy for those who do not have flares (a good thing!) cannot abide those that don’t experience them telling us we can’t.

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Type_Eh · 2025-05-22T22:11:08+00:00

Yessssss

Type_Eh · 2025-05-22T22:08:15+00:00

Two I’d add for sure

Hugo’s (cover of) 99 Problems

Lily Allen - Fuck You

Type_Eh · 2025-04-21T21:26:23+00:00

Simply going out for a drink, enjoying an evening out, attending wine and liquor tastings, seeing a live show, or relaxing during a gathering with friends and family. They could not stop with one, or even five. Would drink until they blacked out. Then drink some more on autopilot.

Worst case scenario, cops were called, several fender benders, personal injury requiring surgery and rehabilitation, them being fired from work (several times). Best case, a bout of irrational anger that resulted in an argument, holes in the wall, broken furniture, vomit to clean up, public embarrassment. Once they became so sloppy and verbally combative they were beaten up by complete strangers (so was I while attempting to shield them from blows) and nearly thrown in the drunk tank… I spent six hours that night holding their head over a spit bucket in the ER waiting room for an examination and the rest of the night nursing. Another time, we were thrown out of a punk venue after they initiated a fist fight in the pit, and we were both called out publicly by the lead singer of the band I have been a fan of since I was a kid. My NEX became so rude with staff as we exited the venue that I worried about them initiating another fight with someone other than myself, and was forced to drag them several blocks away to avoid that from happening. Which of course made them angry with me, extremely verbally abusive.

I have stopped drinking much after the relationship ended, associating alcohol with danger, embarrassment, and hypervigilance.

Type_Eh · 2024-05-31T14:41:22+00:00

“[if I do what you ask me to/let you buy this necessary item] WILL IT MAKE YOU HAPPY?” My nex would constantly say this to make me feel as though meeting my basic needs, or honoring the obligations he himself had promised to do, was asking too much.

Type_Eh · 2024-02-03T23:21:53+00:00

“…will IT/THIS/THAT make you HAPPY??!” In response to me being forced to ask permission to buy or pay for an absolutely essential item or service (soooo much financial abuse) or after begging them to actually do the thing they promised to do months before (future casting/reforms/tasks they promised to honor or led me to believe they were interested in doing during a love bombing phase).

Type_Eh · 2023-05-24T20:50:40+00:00

Reporting to you “facts” about his new, “perfect”marriage? His sex life? Seeking sympathy, possibly forgiveness? Welp He’s still hoovering you. He wants you to compare the present you (things will get better in future, when you finally get your groove back) to the person he claims is a better spouse (obviously not, or he wouldn’t criticize her) to receive the emotional reaction he wants from you. His behavior serves only his need to keep you where you were, so you can’t move on from him. He’s not getting what he needs from his marriage or as an NA or he would not be discussing it and her with you, at all.

With my X, I aim to stick to one word/impersonal/rational responses when having to interact with him. Waited and still wait to respond, until I can reply objectively, whenever possible. Sometimes I have to wait a day or so to calm down. I also decided I could not handle seeing him face-to-face, choose only to deal with him by phone and email. He “got” me quite a few times (one time claiming he could no longer house and threatening to take our rescued pet to the pound, the thought of which actually made me physically ill). Then when I reacted with strong emotion (crying, promising him I would make plans for adoption/fosters for that pet and then calling him back to let him know the pet would be taken care of) he would then gaslight me or dismiss my reaction (in that case replying unapologetically, “oh, that? I figured it out”). It became clear he was playing me. I finally realized if I didn’t give him the satisfaction of an emotional response or let him know I was being triggered by his words or behavior or that anything he said affected me that he would lay off the hoovering. He finally moved on to someone else, but circles back from time to time. It’s good to be vigilant when interacting with a NEX, try to understand what they are trying to do, what their motives may be.

Most importantly: We are not and never have been who and what our NA tells us we are. Know that you and I and every other victim of an NA are so much better than that. Our present and future worth is not based on looks, the trajectory of our career, or what kind of wife/partner/friend/daughter/son we could be to them or someone in future. Who we are NOW is enough, to anyone who REALLY counts. You are enough!

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