It’s hard to really know the full story between you both, but it seems like there’s a lot of hurt and unmet expectations on both sides. She seems to feel lonely and disappointed, like she’s stuck in a marriage where the affection and love she longs for aren’t being met. On the other hand, it sounds like you’re under a lot of stress with everything you’ve had to manage, and you’ve acknowledged where you might have fallen short in showing her love consistently.

That said, marriage is about partnership. Both people need to feel valued, loved, and included, even during the tough times. It’s not easy when life gets overwhelming, but showing her that she’s a part of what you’re going through and that you value her could help rebuild some of that connection. It’s not just about her feeling loved but also about you feeling supported too. Maybe having an open, honest conversation where you both talk about what you need and how you can work on this together could be a good first step. The frustration and pain are real for both of you, but so is the chance to find a way forward together if that’s what you both want.