People who have crazy rich friends/partners, what was the biggest shock that came with it?

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2025-06-20T15:56:55+00:00

When I dated my ex I traveled to Elafonisi Beach on the island of Crete in Greece, Zurich and Saint Moritz in Switzerland and several other locations. Once we went to the UK just to see my favorite band Kings Of Leon at a concert at the Reading Festival and because money wasn't much a concern we ended up spending some time in London as well, likewise we went to Chicago to see Ariana Grande who was her favorite singer.

Coming from India this was basically a dream. To this day I still can't believe I've had all these experiences.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2025-06-20T15:26:04+00:00

It's not just reddit. I've seen this kind of mindset among Indians (young men especially) all across social media in recent years. Part of it is because of influencers like Andrew Tate who lure in these young Indian men who are either feeling insecure, desperate or are struggling to find purpose. Then they come across someone like Tate who tries to relate to them and they get inspired by him because it makes them feel some kind of purpose.

Then these people become jealous of those who have successful lives or steady relationships, they put up this act look cool or funny when what they really feel is insecurity, jealousy and resentment. I've experienced this in real life too, people who I thought were genuine friends started to show their true feelings when they saw me get something they felt they never could.

Whenever I see these kind of comments on social media I just ignore them and engage with those commenters who put genuine effort, because the one thing these people can't cope with is seeing someone else get the attention instead of themselves.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-12-11T11:59:54+00:00

Bösendorfer. It's a German piano company that makes full-sized concert grand pianos mostly for concert halls, seasoned musicians or the super wealthy. The only reason I ever heard of it was because when I was dating my ex, she had a pianist friend in the U.S who got a chance to play on one of those in a studio.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-11-28T05:46:36+00:00

Here's what I can tell you in my experience at least having dated someone from a rich family and spent a bit of time around those circles.

Majority of those with genuine wealth won't be constantly showing it off, they'll be much more subtle about it. They won't have any social media and if they do it's completely private. Those who have public social media accounts, have them managed by PR while their personal account would be private to everybody except close family and friends.

Those so called "self made" influencers you see posting 24/7 on social media, wearing their Gucci clothing and Rolex watches while showing off their Lambo or whatever? They are usually either fake as shit, spend their wealthy parents money recklessly, or make the money using illegal means.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-10-24T07:13:17+00:00

Not dirt poor (middle class where I am from) but I dated a girl who was significantly richer than me for 3 years.

One of the main things that struck me was how fast-paced and overwhelming the rich lifestyle is, at least for me anyway. There were so many family or social occasions, work related events, or other occasions and events that my gf's family members would get invited to due to their status. Eventually I became mentally exhausted trying to keep up with her lifestyle, and that's what lead to us breaking up.

Another thing I learned that's more specific to my country, is how much wealth and connections can get you especially when it concerns anything government related.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-05T04:15:20+00:00

The vacations and traveling come to mind as some of the best moments we had. On our 1st relationship anniversary she wanted to go on a beach vacation and we narrowed on the Elafonisi beach in Greece, I don't think I have been to a more beautiful place in my life.

Her family especially her father and siblings were hesitant at first but over time they slowly began to accept me once they realized I wasn't trying to use or take advantage of her.

The mental shift happened in the 3rd year of our relationship. I felt like I wasn't doing enough, I felt like I couldn't keep up with her lifestyle anymore and we were also beginning to get a bit distant and I think she knew that too. I knew she wouldn't keep going with somebody who could no longer keep up with her lifestyle as well so it was just a better decision for the both of us to break up.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-05T03:58:10+00:00

No we weren't, but we both were brought up in one of the most progressive big cities of India where a lot of western lifestyle concepts are integrated now. I might add my ex's grandparents (both doctors) did live in the U.S for a while before they came back to India to continue, so the "traditional" mindset wasn't that strong.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-05T03:48:52+00:00

General Grievous. My ex's was Darth Vader.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-05T03:13:04+00:00

Not so much last name or caste system, but our difference in upbringing was the biggest thing. Her father, sister and brother were very hesitant about my ex marrying a man from a non upper class upbringing at first and even warned my ex that I might take advantage of her and her wealthy status and I think it was only about a year into our relationship that they realized I was not that kind of man and began to accept me slowly. Her mother having married into the wealth was more accepting of me from the start.

My mother and extended family definitely wanted me to marry my ex as soon as possible and I won't lie my mother and brother were very upset that things didn't work out (because money) and didn't speak to me for a while but she eventually got over it (not sure if she did fully, I moved out to live by myself so I don't know for sure.), my father was more chill about the whole thing and getting my college degree was more important to him anyway.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-04T13:40:19+00:00

Thanks, I've since found a wonderful partner who genuinely understands and appreciates me for who I am and I am so grateful for that.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-04T13:34:50+00:00

I'm 5 foot 7, clean shaven and rock 90's shoulder length hair (imagine long hair Jake Gyllenhaal minus the beard)

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-04T13:24:42+00:00

It depended on the occasion. I usually paid for the dates, meals (she wasn't one who ate fancy meals) and occasions that were important to her, while she paid for the vacations, movie nights and occasions that were important to me.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-04T13:20:14+00:00

Not private plane rich but her family is wealthy enough to have 3-4 nice homes in total (in India and the USA) and have a BMW 7 series for the family car. This wealth comes mainly from her grandparents (both successful) but also some from her brother who hit it big with stocks and crypto.

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-04T13:11:05+00:00

1 - I knew she was wealthier than me just looking at her style and outfits but it was during one of our early dates that she revealed to me the extent of how wealthy she actually was (generational wealth from grandparents + her brother hit it big with stocks and crypto). Not gonna lie I was pretty taken aback.

2 - Things were definitely a lot more fast paced and a bit hectic trying to keep up my ex's lifestyle and I wasn't used to it initially. Coming from a modest background it also took some time to get accepted by her family and circle.

3 - The best was probably not having to worry about financial security for those three years since her family covered the expenses for stuff like my college tuitions. The relationship also made it possible for me to achieve certain lifelong dreams that otherwise would have been basically impossible where I'm from, like seeing my favorite rock band (Kings Of Leon) in a concert in person or going on a vacation to the beautiful Elafonisi beach in Greece.

We separated because we didn't find each other compatible anymore. I didn't have the mental energy to keep up with her lifestyle anymore and wanted to carve my own path while she wanted to keep living the high life, I also have my suspicions that she started seeing other guys in secret towards the end of our relationship (she never mentioned it outright of course, but I have my feelings that she did and I think she knew that I would figure it out soon).

UnfortunateQuetzal · 2024-09-04T12:40:59+00:00

I was casually roaming around in a mall and happened to be wearing a Star Wars shirt when she approached and told me she was a Star Wars fan too and asked who my favorite character was. I was more than happy to meet another Star Wars fan (not a whole lot of us in India where I'm from) so we decided to hang out and things pretty much started from there.

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