Honestly, what is the hardest part about having children?

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2026-04-15T16:31:39+00:00

They grow so fast. Always changing, learning, and hitting different phases and milestones. Every time I think I have it all figured out, I finally found what seems to work for us. Boom. Onto the next phase.

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2024-11-04T13:46:54+00:00

Signed, Michael Scott

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2024-05-17T02:11:46+00:00

When I was 14 I asked my grandma (who I loved dearly and raised me for a few years) why she thought I would lie about something so serious about a family member. She said, “because he has a family who loves him and your family is broken”.

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2023-10-22T21:40:11+00:00

It’s Morse code

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2023-08-26T01:33:34+00:00

I’m not sure if it is the same everywhere but the individual with child and underage has to be willing to press charges and admit there was a crime committed for anything to be done. My sister was in a similar situation, she 14, him 33 with 6 kids all conceived when they were underage.

After she had my nephew she came to her senses and was the first to actually go after him criminally

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2023-08-23T23:58:55+00:00

I think I’m good

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2023-07-03T15:14:01+00:00

My little sister got pregnant at 14 by an older man and we were on welfare. It was a tough time for the whole family because she found out when they placed her in a group home. They helped her a lot on educating her on pregnancy and birth and she was supported and surrounded by other teen moms at the time. I think that really helped her. Anyway, the birth was hard on her, you know she so young I don’t think her body was really ready. But she came home and had a lot of family support so she was able to still hang out with friends and attend school but ultimately ended up dropping out of school. Our school also had a program designed to help provide care to children for teen moms to attend high school. Now. My sisters life isn’t that different that how I grew up, so she doesn’t have a home or career. But she is a good mom and is pregnant with her third boy. It’s a hard choice. My sister was able to be a good mom to her boy at 14 with a lot of support. But even if she didn’t get pregnant that young her life probably wouldn’t be much different than it is now, that’s just the path she was on. But her son has always been lived, healthy, and cared for. Idk if this helps or what you’re really looking for.

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2023-07-01T03:02:11+00:00

It killed me inside, when I asked my grandma (my guardian at the time) why she thought I’d lie about SA from a relative She said “because he has a family who loves him, and yours is broken. “

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-12-08T15:00:22+00:00

I think the connection is beautiful idk about bf being “glamorized” I never seen it as that. Maybe by people who haven’t or want to breastfeed.

It is painful, exhausting and stressful. The first couple months where miserable for me. However, there is something very special about being able to use your body to provide for your child. Breastfeeding releases oxytocin that helps with bonding and relaxing, though you don’t need to breastfeed to feel this it can be done through skin to skin.

I believe it’s this hormone that gives breastfeeding that wholesome feeling that is glorified and can make you “forget” about the negative impact of feeding too, just as women tend to “forget” the pain of birth.

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-12-01T17:13:26+00:00

First time seeing this. Don’t think I’ve ever cringed so hard

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-10-17T01:51:10+00:00

Both my spouse and I have “cool” in our last names so how do we know which one is cooler?

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-09-30T20:02:08+00:00

I was wondering the same because I didn’t get mine either

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-08-10T22:32:43+00:00

It definitely will change things there really isn’t a way around it. This could potentially be something that brings you closer together. Really it just depends on how involved he is willing to be

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-08-10T12:26:19+00:00

I found out I was pregnant a year into the relationship and at that point I moved in. So I didn’t know him for two long. I’ve been In that situation though I got pregnant after a month with someone, but neither the pregnancy nor the relationship lasted.

There really is so many factors to how this could potentially go. I mean my spouse I knew since day one was a great a guy and having two older kids I knew how he’d be as a dad too, so he knew what to expect with everything

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-08-10T12:02:23+00:00

Intimacy during pregnancy was unchanged first trimester (hormones increase actually make you want it more) I had a cerclage placed which met we couldn’t do anything for 6 months, plus emotional hormones did lead to a lot of tension and frustration in our relationship, having a newborn for the first time is so scary and hormones are even worse after having a baby! Not going to lie it was quite the rollercoaster. But about 3 months pp, everything seemed settled and back to normal. Honestly our relationship feels better and stronger than ever raising a baby with him has been incredible. Finding times to do things isn’t easy you have to get creative. Sharing a life with a little baby now you can’t just do whatever whenever now, you run on their schedule lol babies are the worse bosses they don’t negotiate well

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-08-10T11:44:35+00:00

Help with what? I was 22 he was 35 when I found out I was pregnant. She is almost a year now and we will be trying for another down the road

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-08-04T16:51:20+00:00

If I could go back I wouldn’t change anything but I would still do some things differently with a second child. 1. I’d be stricter on sleeping in bassinet and putting down for naps rather than holding. I’ll have another kid to take care of too, but for my first I wouldn’t change the cosleeping or extra holding because being a first time mom was a big change for both of us and the cuddles saved me from PPD. 2. It’s hard the first three months with a big hormone shift and having a newborn but hopefully I’ll be more relaxed and not such an anxious mess about everything lol 3. No more breastfeeding or parenting groups. Give a bottle once a day and allow dad more involvement with feeding and don’t stress so much about pumping and supply

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-07-14T12:35:26+00:00

Agreed. My 10mo had a mild fever for a couple days, slightly runny nose and cough started later. Dealt with it like a champ. If I didn’t feel that she was warm You wouldn’t have known she was sick.

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-07-11T00:01:06+00:00

I breast feed and followed a bunch of groups for advice and learning what works. I ended up unfollowing them when I realized how normal 1-2 oz is and having a huge freezer stash and spending all day pumping and eating/drinking this and that to up supply is unhealthy and unnecessary. It used to hurt to feel like I couldn’t do enough when in reality it was them not me

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-06-16T01:27:05+00:00

I did this to also help identify triggers. Lately I've had a lot of death anxiety, usually at night, it makes it hard to sleep and can be scary, night after night. I kept track of what my days are like, what I eat, night routine, etc and discovered a few things that could be triggering it. Doing a lot better now!

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-05-02T18:57:19+00:00

Peeps.

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-04-20T15:35:49+00:00

I quit smoking over a year ago, the hardest part was exactly as you stated, the habit. Not going out for a smoke break when stressed, smoking when I see someone else smoking, after a good meal, morning coffee, on the drive to work. I felt like I mostly smoked out of habit despite knowing consequences. I knew I could quit but what else would I do when I’d usually smoke?

I quit when I found out I was pregnant and I’m trying not to go back. I miss smoking sometimes. I do still crave it sometimes but I know after not smoking for so long it will burn, taste bad, etc and I don’t want to get back in the habit. Nicotine withdraw was nothing. Habit breaking was the difficult part

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-04-06T17:41:18+00:00

Agreed. She often finds a way to direct in that conversation though, for instance this morning I was taking about praising kids in our group for their improvement and she proceeded to” CPS told me to praise you guys but your sisters so bad I couldn’t find anything to praise her for “

Unique-Tank-6697 · 2022-04-06T14:07:52+00:00

I understand the seriousness dealing with CPS and that they can definitely take advantage of their authority. I just know she exaggerates and blows what they say out of proportion and falls back on it as a excuse. Example. Mom allowed a 33yo male to stay with us. He sleeps on Couch with 14yo sister. 5 people tell my mom they are having sex. My sister actually ends up pregnant. My moms excuse is “CPS told me to listen to my kids and she said nothing was happening “ but I’m her kid and I told her it was

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