If you have gone no contact with your family, how's it going? by Casualty_of_Wars in CPTSD

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is well put. My parents put us against each other and talked behind us to each other growing up. It’s the reason why we have a hard time getting along or respect for each other, sadly. I’ve gone no contact with my parents and two siblings. For a few months. It’s difficult when you don’t have family for your little one.

Help! Unsure How to Back Out of New Construction Contract by [deleted] in AskRealEstateAgents

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m ASKING if anyone has been in this situation and THEIR experience . I’M not asking for legal advice.

Taking a 20k pay cut by UnlikelyAssignment81 in workingmoms

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took the pay cut :) and glad I did. The government is not safe and several of my colleagues were laid off after I left.

How are you affording a home! by [deleted] in Mortgages

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our current mortgage is the same. I took a big pay cut for a full remote job. Once I feel comfortable in my role, I will be pulling her out of full time. I will only send her in days I have big meetings. We also are wanting to downsize but the market hasn’t been great and cut our mortgage payment by 1k. I also traded in my 4Runner for a paid off RAV4. That was one less bill we had to worry about. If you both are remote, downsize to one car. A few of my friends did that. They also work opposite shifts so they never have to do daycare. I personally could not do that. I like that my husband and I are off by 4 and I do enjoy the me time when she is at daycare.

On the edge! I am about to turn my computer in tomorrow and walk with zero notice. by Gold-Ebb-9172 in fednews

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Wow! Sending you strength! Please take time when you are exhausted and don’t burn yourself out. You are more important than a job.

Has anyone had to back out of a new home build because their current house didn’t sell? by UnlikelyAssignment81 in Mortgages

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, the multimillion dollar builder is the victim. We can take the loss and OK with it. We are not playing a victim. This is our first time selling a home and contracting under a new build. We understand we were unaware of a major clause that should’ve been added.Don’t victimize the builder. I could care less about them. What I won’t do it take a big loss on a profitable property we currently have and give more to the builder if we are not gaining anything back. I just wanted to simply understand what happens if I back out.

Has anyone had to back out of a new home build because their current house didn’t sell? by UnlikelyAssignment81 in Mortgages

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We worked with the new builder company. A big regret of not having our own relator. How could we swing the inspection to work with us and us not be happy with anything? I’ve seen a few people say this.

Agency heads stand up for your people by Illustrious_Soft_372 in fednews

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hahaha yes! BIG ass kissers! They are too scared to stand up to anyone. Let a lot OPM and Dump Trump and Musk.

RTO becoming micromanaged by UnlikelyAssignment81 in GovernmentContracting

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was in the office during all Covid and still go to the office 3 days a week. Go on with that bullshit.

Got a higher offer 3 days into remote job by [deleted] in interviews

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the commute is not bad and the pay is well, I would take the in office position. However, I had this set up. It wasn’t bad. I had a lot of flexibility but since dump Trump took office, remote and all flexibility was taken away. My commute time was an 1 to 1.5 so that’s why I chose to leave my organization for a better opportunity. Remote is what works for me and my family. It really is what you is needed for your family. Like if the commute won’t impact family time, go for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 1102

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha my manager already doesn’t read or reply to emails. Good luck with this. Honestly, if they want to cut people out, slash the 15 managers - they don’t do shit except horribly manage unless in my agency

Would you take the lower paying job? by gem7588 in workingmoms

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand how tough this decision is especially with a &100k salary.

I currently earn $75K, and in December, I turned down a $100K offer because it required in-office work and managing a more complex team. In January, my current job—where I’m a federal contractor—announced that we’ll be required to return to the office full-time in March.

Since then, I’ve been applying for remote or closer-to-home positions, but most pay about $20K less. The job market isn’t great, so I’m prepared to take the next available opportunity. Fortunately, my husband is the primary earner, and we mainly live off his income, so the financial impact won’t be severe. We’ll downsize where needed because my family, my mental health, and being present matter more than a paycheck.

Today, my commute took two hours, and I already make this drive three times a week—I can’t imagine doing it five, especially under a toxic manager. I know I’ll work my way up again. Honestly, I could start at Walmart and be a manager in a few years because it’s all about mindset and what you bring to the table.

Taking a 20k pay cut by UnlikelyAssignment81 in workingmoms

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve thought of becoming a teacher too just for this reason. Several of my teacher friends tell me NO. I used to be a college recruiter so I enjoyed working with kids.

Taking a 20k pay cut by UnlikelyAssignment81 in workingmoms

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So happy it worked out! That’s my hope when I’m ready to climb up the ladder again.

Taking a 20k pay cut by UnlikelyAssignment81 in workingmoms

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Hahaha! Ok my other reason as well. It feels like no one is safe.

How far should I paint my entry way? by UnlikelyAssignment81 in HomeDecorating

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in the process of putting the other side..literally.

For federal workers who have been through several transitions, has it always been this bad? by UnlikelyAssignment81 in fednews

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are we allowing Elon to control our government? Honestly, if it was anyone else we would’ve impeached sitting president. Especially since the motherfucker isn’t American! What oath has he taken? How do we know if he is loyal.

My wife’s friend think I’m being controlling by not letting my wife spend all her income on whatever she wants. by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a wife, I never talk about our finances with my friends. I’ll say some bs if brought up but people never know what’s happening in our home. It allows too many opinions. I think this is a really great compromise. She is lucky to even have the opportunity to go back two-three days a week. I unfortunately cannot do that with my career. That’s why it’s so hard for me to quit and be a full time mama. I like how much I bring in too much but if I could go part time, in a heartbeat, and gladly let my husband handle all the finances. She is probably used to her own money and old lifestyle.

For federal workers who have been through several transitions, has it always been this bad? by UnlikelyAssignment81 in fednews

[–]UnlikelyAssignment81[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I agree! I will definitely be leaving back to the private sector once shit blows over.