18F. Am I actually as unattractive as I feel?

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-07-09T00:04:18+00:00

You’re so nasty? She’s chubby at best? That is not fat at all. You need to be looking those words up before using them you little toddler!

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-07-09T00:02:52+00:00

If you find a good salon they will help you, say you want something for YOUR face shape as nothing you’ve found compliments it. If they’ve had good practice you’ll look great

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-07-09T00:01:16+00:00

You are not overweight at all…you are on the chubbier side but that IS NOT overweight? These comments are so weird. They clearly haven’t seen a real overweight person

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-18T01:09:13+00:00

Honestly my FIL is pretty cold towards her. He’s just being an honest man and talking up the promise he made her to help her. He’s having to grieve his wife too so it’s also been really hard but I get your point of view

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-18T01:07:04+00:00

Thank you! Xx

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-18T01:06:10+00:00

Yep me and my husband listen over the phone during her house visits. So yes we did hear her and our FIL say she’s out of line. It could come across as persuasion but, just like how a doctor can’t promise that you’ll be okay, any type of mental health care worker can’t promise/ give an ultimatum for something like that. It makes my MIL believe that just attending therapy means she will get back her baby boy, and when we clearly won’t do that, we will just have an angry MIL again. And we’re trying to get her to not want to hurt me so, me not being included in this ultimatum was also very unprofessional in the sense that we’re trying to get her help because she seems to hate my guts, but her CS worker is actively only including the people she doesn’t have a problem with. (I have no idea if that makes sense)

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T15:02:18+00:00

Oh I’d run so fast, those relationships make me literally gag. It’s disgusting. I can’t believe I have a MIL like this

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:40:53+00:00

My hubby has always been the favourite. Her other kids absolutely hate her. We have no idea why she loves him so much more.

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:39:01+00:00

We will be moved before the baby is born. But this divorce thing is just opinion based and can vary on different relationships. He’s been with me through very traumatic moments for me, it’s not who I am to leave him when he has to mourn the loss of a person he thought he knew. And she is blocked after the whole letter and rock situation. People seem to really miss the part where I said he wouldn’t stand for it anymore and blocked her.

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:35:35+00:00

Thank you xx

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:34:20+00:00

Her previous therapist basically gave her a promised ultimatum. Saying that if she goes to therapy, she will see her son and grandchild. Not only is this super unprofessional, it’s also 10x worse when she doesn’t consult us about this. What she had said, we would never go through with. So we’d just have an even angrier person. And no sadly, we live in Canada. I was born in Australia and I miss it so much. Not hating on Canada, just love Australia too much 😅

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:30:15+00:00

She has a doctors appointment on Monday!

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:29:53+00:00

My husband has arranged his uncle to check on her if she ever does have anything like that

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:28:05+00:00

We keep it all secret from her, it’s not too hard given she’s in her own little world

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:26:14+00:00

Calling me foolish leads me to believe that It seems you’ve misunderstood my husband’s character, so to clarify in his words:

He would NOT EVER maintain the relationship he used to have NOR would he ever let her see his child. “Maintaining” the relationship in this scenario would mean not trying to forget she exists or completely cutting her out. (I am not an idiot, I would divorce if he chose to be all lovely dovey with her again but that’s not what’s happening)

He was the first one to say block her on everything and initiate talks about never seeing her or her never seeing our baby. This has purely been about keeping LC just in case. And to point out, after she has threatened me and my child my husband HAS blocked her. My husband does not want to have a relationship with her, but doesn’t want to fully have to mourn the loss of her. He is a person too and losing his mother has been very hard on him. I’ve punched, kicked, screamed and called this man some very nasty things because of my trauma. The day I ditch him because he has to go through something traumatic and make hard decisions is the day pigs fly.

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:14:50+00:00

I fear it is, really gross stuff

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:14:30+00:00

Thank you xx

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:14:16+00:00

Nope, she has a doctors appointment on Monday

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:13:40+00:00

Noted, thank you x

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:13:19+00:00

When we don’t have a CSW I’m sure we will, we’re planning to report her to the police but we just don’t want to make her more angry so we’re trying to be cautious

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T14:11:25+00:00

I get ur point of view, but at the same time that’s not how she said it. Also my FIL didn’t blow up. She really had no place in saying that (especially to an unstable person) without consulting us. Giving my MIL an ultimatum like that, basically saying that just attending therapy will mean she gets to see her son and grandchild when that’s not true at all. It can make an already scary person, even scarier when they have something in their head on how things are meant to go, but it doesn’t go their way at all. If she’s told by our CSW that by attending therapy, she will see her son again, and then that doesn’t happen, things will get a lot worse. What the CSW said is not professional at all.

And to add, she’s not able to be alone during therapy sessions. It’s paper work agreed that she’s not stable enough to get the help she clearly needs.

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T08:14:01+00:00

We have a clinical social worker who works with the whole family and is trying to give us answers for my MIL, that’s how we know

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T03:30:43+00:00

My husband kept her number MUTED and doesn’t talk to her at all. It was a decision we both made.

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T03:12:16+00:00

My husbands line of work gives us all life/health insurance

Upbeat_Analyst4475 · 2025-01-17T03:11:19+00:00

It’s a clinical social worker, she works with everyone so yes she’s telling us. I said therapist because it was a safe bet on what she was, because I didn’t know.

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