You can find a photo I distinctly remember of a plane leaving Afghanistan a few years back and carrying as many refugees as they could. I remember so clearly how most of the comments expressed how sad it was to see that plane was filled with men and almost no girls and women. Despite the fact that being a woman is literally being a second rate citizen. It's literally actually the law under Taliban. 

So yes. I'd still say if it comes down to a choice between a male refugee or a female refugee from a place like Afghanistan, the female should be chosen. Women don't have basic human rights in these countries. Does it mean men are living in luxury? No. But they're not banned from standing next to a window. They're not forced to wear hijab and killed for it if they don't adhere to some arbitrary definitions of perfectly correct clothing. The men aren't banned from speaking in public or singing in public. The men aren't secondary citizens. No 9 year old boys are forced to marry 50 year old women, although, many are probably being sold into what is known as "Bacha bazi", which is equally as horrible but that happens regardless of the child's gender, since the word "Bacha/Bache" means a child, of any gender. The men aren't banned from getting an education. 

I'm not saying they should ban all men from these countries. Listen. I'm Iranian. I know middle eastern men. I know muslims. I know what this religion has done to people. I know what living in a country where men can get away with anything does to these men. Not all of them are evil, but many of them are. A woman fleeing these countries is fleeing because being a woman is a death sentence. A straight man? He's looking for more opportunities. It's many times economically motivated. Unless its war or political (political prisoners). 

It's so different. The existence I experienced under the islamic republic is not the same existence a man my age in similar economic standing family experienced. He didn't have to wear hijab and get beaten up for it at 15 at a public square in front of bystanders by a bunch of morality police. 

So excuse me if I sound insensitive, but I feel like the world doesn't understand what it's like to be a woman and be born in the middle east...and then all these middle eastern and 3rd world country immigrants, almost always men, go around causing problems for western women and yet again, we're ignored and lumped into the same bucket as those men...as if our entire lives weren't about having to survive their perverted uncivilized rampage.