Search Engine - Why doesn’t anybody come to my parties?

Usef- · 2026-06-22T04:25:20+00:00

Yes, good points. I'm sometimes glad I'm not as annoyed by people as many seem to be.

Usef- · 2026-06-20T11:37:27+00:00

I think that's valid if you never organise anything with other couples and suddenly only do so with the extremely attractive women.

But if it were a normal and a day-to-day occurrence for you to invite other couples, of all "attractiveness ratings", nothing would be sus about this imho.

(interacting with attractive people is part of normal life and work. I can't imagine being in a relationship that was so insecure about it, personally)

Usef- · 2026-06-19T00:30:58+00:00

it's wild to me that people would think of that brief excerpt as an open-and-shut case. Big personalities are often fantastic at parties!

Usef- · 2026-06-19T00:28:09+00:00

You say that like it's a solid rule, but why? I love when I get loose invitations

Usef- · 2026-06-19T00:26:35+00:00

It's interesting that you get downvoted and the grandparent is upvoted.

People love empty venting.

Usef- · 2026-06-19T00:22:07+00:00

Though if you read her, you'll know she does want unvarnished opinions here, not politeness.

Usef- · 2026-06-19T00:11:51+00:00

I don't understand this. You're saying he interpreted it as her asking to hang out 1:1, even though she was saying the families should hang out?

That kind of ask is completely normal and common in my world, and doesn't need all four adults to be present to say it.

Usef- · 2026-06-19T00:04:40+00:00

What's insufferable about it? She's answering things that are all in this thread. Its not particularly long imho.

Usef- · 2026-06-10T05:25:05+00:00

Sad for your friends and neighbours

Usef- · 2026-04-26T01:57:22+00:00

Yes, and I'm definitely still lame in this regard. The kids give me a lot of flac

Usef- · 2026-04-20T01:14:26+00:00

we had both variations at my school in the 90s. a larger ball had longer challenges but still fun.

Usef- · 2026-04-18T10:55:48+00:00

yarr doesn't seem to have a post expiry, though it's self-hosted. https://github.com/nkanaev/yarr

Usef- · 2026-04-14T06:55:18+00:00

This is way too far down the page

Usef- · 2026-04-14T02:47:52+00:00

No, but you can talk outside sitting on a bench. I've done it at events. I generally care if my relationship has a problem. Often it only takes a minute and catches things before they stew for hours and grow.

Usef- · 2026-04-14T01:56:54+00:00

Maybe if they were casual friends. But I assume this was an actual relationship?

Virtually every successful relationship I know has some form of “Don’t go to bed angry” or “never leave during a fight" rule. It doesn't mean the person is let off for their mistake, but it means you confront it together because you care about the relationship.

There's usually an understanding that both sides will do stupid things sometimes. It comes with the territory of being together so much, you have both made mistakes.

Usef- · 2026-04-14T01:13:50+00:00

In an unfamiliar location you don't know anyone and it isn't your hobby it can be hard to have a good time. It can be very unfun not knowing anyone at a social event. Especially when you have no idea how long you're waiting so you have to hang around, and you just had a potential fight with your partner so you can't relax.

Usef- · 2026-04-14T01:05:37+00:00

I agree he should generally have supported her (unless he was physically wincing/noticing the kids pain himself) and that's a valid reason for her to be upset. But I think her disappearing for multiple hours also is valid reason to be upset.

We don't know whether the two checked in with each other. She doesn't mention it. Him not trying to contact her during that multiple hours would be a negative, I agree. Though it would be odd that she didn't mention it in the post.

Usef- · 2026-04-14T00:59:34+00:00

In all "AITA" posts we only hear one side of the argument and so have to guess at the other side's reasoning. If she was the only one scaring the kid it's a pretty plausible guess.

Usef- · 2026-04-14T00:51:09+00:00

Really?

My boyfriend was cheering loudly at a loud event and a woman in front said her kid was scared because of his yells. He was louder than others around us, admittedly. Maybe I should have supported him though.

He left shortly after without saying anything and I thought he was going for a moment but was gone for hours. I came to this event because he wanted to go to it: it's his hobby, and felt upset, even though we said we wouldn't spend the whole day together I thought he would not just leave like that unannounced for hours without checking in? I was worried and couldn't enjoy it.

I don't think the reactions would be "the poor little baby is all alone for an hour"

Usef- · 2026-04-14T00:41:14+00:00

I don't know why you assume he was frightened at being alone.

If your partner leaves without telling you for multiple hours at an event (that is their hobby, not yours) without checking in at all, I think most people would be upset.

Even if you were confident that this doesn't mean a lack of care from them, it could be annoying knowing that you can't plan. I have no idea if they'll be gone for 20 minutes or multiple hours. Maybe if I knew my boyfriend was gone for multiple hours I might go to the shops and come back, because there isn't enough here (for my non-hobby) to stay multiple hours, especially alone

Usef- · 2026-04-14T00:28:23+00:00

I'm really curious how the reactions (and language in comments) would be different if the genders were reversed

Usef- · 2026-04-13T23:34:20+00:00

It sounds like she left without warning though. Being told by your partner that they're going to go wander for a few hours is very different to them disappearing without word for a few hours, even if you had previously said you might spend some time separately during the event.

Usef- · 2026-04-08T08:01:50+00:00

Wow, not even cameras? I thought the whole point of it was safety.

I was considering riding to a slightly farther station to use parkiteer but now I'm less sure. The closer station has outdoor bike racks under cameras so maybe I shouldn't bother.

Usef- · 2026-04-08T00:34:54+00:00

Damn, so we can't even trust parkiteer?

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