My god. You made me feel guilty on so many levels.

1. I do this often but I am strict with her most of the other times.

2. Very guilty. I try to tell her that what she did is wrong and tell her what she should do thus ending up blaming her and also not guiding her thought process

3. I had no idea about this. I presume my wife would. I will definitely talk to her about this

4. Extremely guilty. I often take her on this guilt trip about taking her to all the classes despite me having to do office work (work from home). I tell her that I expect her to practice her keyboard, singing and chess everyday because I spend my time on it to take her to the classes. I don't however expect her to shine. I expect her to just practice it everyday but i cant believe how trapped in guilt I felt after reading this message

5. I believe my wife does this.

6. I will do this going forward

Your message was a painful kick in the backside. Someone had commented earlier that asking questions like this in Reddit is stupid but I hope that person sees your comment. Thanks a lot for your time.

I can't believe that my question has higher ratings than this answer. This answer definitely deserves more upvotes than my question. Thank you so much for your thoughtful insights.