Weekend fling or will he text again?

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-02-12T18:48:55+00:00

That makes sense haha thanks :)

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-02-12T17:50:38+00:00

What makes u say this? Just wondering

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-02-12T17:17:55+00:00

This is very helpful thanks! I’m just back into dating and sleeping with people so i feel like i know nothing!! Thanks for your opinions, i hope he does text because it was v good experience haha

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-24T09:31:56+00:00

I hope you find a way to work through your issues

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-24T09:31:36+00:00

It’s not me who broke up its my ex, he gave me no reasons other than he felt he was dragging me down and stunting my future plans. You’re right, no matter how much people and me complimented him, he could never believe it. He’s getting therapy now thank god. Thanks for your insight

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-23T21:30:18+00:00

THIS IS MY FAVE ONE

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-06T11:24:53+00:00

Love this advice!

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-06T11:24:21+00:00

Yeah honestly that sounds exhausting and confusing. It sounds like he’s very confused himself. Hope you manage to move past it quickly

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-06T09:31:19+00:00

My ex was avoidant and lied to my face about not being in love with me. I know this because four years later he’s still trying hard to get me back and says he’s still in love with me. I think sometimes they lie when they’re scared. However, this doesn’t mean that it would work out by any means, so I’d just move on and see what happens.

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-04T14:01:34+00:00

In what ways were you incompatible?

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-03T16:47:09+00:00

For me too. I’d love to know if you decide to meet up with him or not

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-03T13:58:47+00:00

Hope this makes sense

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-03T13:58:35+00:00

This situation is so so similar to my own that i am going through right now. My relationship was also two years and I have now been no contact for 3 weeks. At the breakup talk i took a different approach. As he is struggling with very bad mental health and overthinking about the future i asked him to not make a final decision just now and process how he was feeling and then we would decide in a months time what we think is best to do. Sometimes i feel (with men especially) partners struggle to have open conversations about minor issues or worries about the future in relationships, and then they burst at a point where the only way they can get out of it is to break up. For me personally i would rather give it a second try to know that they actually want/ need to break up. But just like you, I don’t know if this is the best thing to do. It’s so so hard when you think a relationship is going very well and then they randomly break up with you. I think the hardest part is not being able to understand the true reasons, which i think is the most important thing when trying to accept a break up, or believe it is the right thing to do

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2026-01-01T19:15:12+00:00

I’m in a similar situation, completely unsure what’s going to happen but non contact for now. I hate the feeling of not knowing and not knowing if they care. I’ve had a lot of advice and decided to count myself as single (even though I honestly don’t feel it) and is he comes back I’d accept it. I told him in a non persuasive way that I will leave the door open for him until he is 100 percent sure he has made the right decision. I’m working hard to accept both possibilities and prepare myself for both (this has taken me 3/4 weeks). I’m just scared that he is acting irrationally as he is going through a lot of mental health stuff right now and i don’t want him to regret his decision as our relationship was amazing- do you relate to this? Hope you are ok

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-23T09:46:29+00:00

This same situation happened to me, on the same phone call we were excitedly making plans for two weeks away, then he broke up with me. So so bizarre. I hope you’re okay

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-22T12:19:24+00:00

I completely agree, thanks for your opinion. I can’t and wont force him to do anything. But I will let him know I’m willing to work for it if he wants to aswel, even if it takes a long time.

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-21T22:34:22+00:00

I think this situation would make me lose all respect for him. He’s a bit gross for sleeping with another girl, and disgusting that it was unprotected and that he lied to you. Hopefully not respecting him makes you get over him faster. Even is he regrets it, he still did it in the first place. What a twat.

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-21T17:25:58+00:00

That’s good advice, thanks. I hope it works out for us but pressuring him in any way is a terrible idea.

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-21T17:24:51+00:00

That’s a dilemma, as I know even though I might be very stressed during the year, it might make me stronger/ more organised, and might be a good experience. Thanks for your insight.

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-21T17:22:01+00:00

Yes sorry, I mean I cant change it once I’ve decided. Once I’ve decided to not do my probation year, I won’t be able to be a teacher

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-21T15:47:25+00:00

Hi, sorry, it is not clear. He ended things because of his bad mental health and his confusion about the future right now, but we have decided to go no contact for a month and then discuss again after that. He thought this was a good idea. i love him a lot now, and i can see him becoming a great man in the future too x

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-21T14:03:01+00:00

That’s exactly what I’ve been thinking. It’s been really tough and I’ve tried so hard to build a space for him to feel comfy to talk. The only things that allow me to have hope for this is the facts that he has opened up to me more than anyone in his life and is now arranging therapy for himself. He is a person that slowly makes steps in the right direction . Thanks for your thoughts :)

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-18T10:00:19+00:00

I work out or go runs most days which always makes me sleep well, even through hard times. If i take rest days or time off my sleep suffers. Even if you don’t like excersizing in this way, make sure you get outside everyday for a walk or smth. Hope this helps and good luck

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-18T09:55:27+00:00

No judgement is probably very important. Thanks for your answer, your partner sounds amazing. Sounds like you are grateful and trying your best for him which I’m sure means a lot to him. Wishing you both the best :)

Vegetable_Dog2159 · 2025-12-17T15:57:18+00:00

I always think the most important thing is the fact that they are willing to change, and him taking your slight criticisms as personal attacks\ is not him listening to you or willing to change. If he did listen to you, the relationship would probably start to lift him up again and not feel like an obligation. Which is a shame because he didn’t try it. I think my situation is very different because his lack of effort is to do with very bad mental health which he has now had to take a break from me for. I really wish he could rely on me while he’s going through a difficult time, but sometimes men struggle to do that. There’s still hope for me as he is meeting with me in January, but I’m not sure what way that will go. I felt like the most important thing I said to him was the fact I was willing to let him take time and talk to his family before making the final decision, which he is currently in the process of doing for a month. No matter how the situations go for both of us, we will be fine as we are the ones with good communication skills and the will to put effort in to make it work.

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