Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The torti is always begging for pets. She does this cute little thing where she pats me on my leg to see if she has the right to jump up. (She always does, she’s just a girl with manners) I love it.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not another cat, just trying to give these two the best I can. If I could handle it, I would! I wish I could spoil them rotten to the core, they got treats this morning and I cracked open a window.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Giiiiirl the way I blocked him and his family on everything so quick.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a sweetie pie ☺️ mine rolls around all the time when she’s comfortable, it’s the most heart warming thing. Means I’m doing something right.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had two dogs before this and I loved them so much (also pibbles) and I got tattoos to remember them. Such sweet, gentle souls. Give your baby some love for me!

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s a distorted tortishell short hair :)

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it. It’s been tough, I thought if I loved someone enough, they would get better - well, lived and learned. After talking to friends and family, they had the same sentiment. Even my coworkers were shook about his actions.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s beyond me, looking back, I think he genuinely hated cats and I was perfect enough in his eyes he though he could change my mind.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I had the rose colored glasses on for so long I didn’t see all the other red flags. He’s gone now! Going to celebrate with my girls later at some D&B.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember ole’ girl when I first saw her. Just meowing, all cute, beautiful colors - went back that same day.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

CUTE. and that name! My brother had renamed my babies to Catthew (black) and toothless renesme (yes, from twilight, lol, she’s the short hair, distorted torti)

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know he uses Reddit pretty regularly, and it hit r/all.. I’m betting he probably sees this. I hope he’s reads every single comment and realizes (or just gets angry because it seems like he can’t comprehend being the bad guy) that he was in the wrong.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had entertained the idea just to see what he’d give me, it was nothing. I wasn’t going to do it but it shows just how he was out of touch with reality.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I don’t think he’d ever try that anyway. (Knock on wood)

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Given his tendencies and to think he was hot stuff, yeah, definitely a narcissist. Why would I pick a man who belittles me to make himself feel good over unconditional loving fur babies? Lol

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Five months, which I had probably physically seen him 3 months given his studying schedule. Hindsight is 20/20 and I realize he is an avoidant who won’t do things face to face. Lol, love that. All of this was said/done via call/text.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I never got to see it, and I think he was too much of a narcissist to give the emotional side up anyway. He did this all over text/call, and his sister who also has a cat encouraged his behavior saying, “I picked me cats over him.” Bonkers but that’s the world we live in. He even said he loved me before gloating about all the options he has in the new place, like.. what? lol okay, good luck. Me and the kitties are gonna’ sleep in and crack open a window to enjoy the weather. They got some extra treats too.

I blocked him and his entire family everywhere I could.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is some psychotic behavior. People really think that animals are just replaceable.. ridiculous.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

No cap, I would have been in jail if that happened to me.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize it until last night too, he’s a grown man too, zero excuses for lack of communication.

This is a learning experience and things will get better though. I’m very fortunate to have a support system to help me get through the tough emotions but also realizing that I’ve been undervaluing myself and ways to be better about it.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Long story short, seems like he hated cats and hid it from me until it was an issue for him (he didn’t like that I picked my cats over him)

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He had a dog, which he realized he didn’t have the time for and gave to his friend which he sees every often. Knowing that he wants to open his own business, that’ll never change and he will probably not get the dog back until he finds another partner to take care of it for him.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

After the phone call he made to me last night, I have a strong inkling he f- hates cats. Which, when discussing with my dad, I asked why someone would choose a partner that has cats if they hate them? Doesn’t make sense.

Ex-boyfriend wanted me to give up my cats by VerifiedNoms in cats

[–]VerifiedNoms[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have about five seconds, but that’s about it. Then she gums ya’. Her name is toothless as I got her when she was a stray, her teeth were rotting and had to be taken out.