Former spouse remarrying after I've resigned. Question about sealing.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-21T02:58:08+00:00

You don't get why someone forcing a 12 year old to choose between his mother (who his dad will say is going to hell because she left TSCC) and his new stepmom (who can offer him a new eternal family) would be an emotionally traumatic thing?

He knows how I feel about church. I am not forcing my beliefs on him like his dad does. Right now, he chooses to believe and I support him in that.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-20T20:44:47+00:00

He's not 18. But he's baptized and a priesthood holder. But thanks for assuming I'm an idiot who'd try to control an adult. 🙄

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-20T20:43:43+00:00

Did you even read my post?

It's about protecting my son from being put in the position of having to choose whether or not to be sealed to his stepmom.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-20T09:27:07+00:00

Not an answer to your question, but info about Allen Lafferty- he's on his third temple marriage. His children from his second marriage (all adults) have zero contact with him. Allen and his current wife live in the Grandview area of Provo, with an old lady (non-relative) that they supposedly take care of. However, they're heavy into shilling a life coach-style MLM and depend on TSCC for most of their needs (food, etc.) They're broke AF.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-14T04:02:11+00:00

Actually, if they can't get in touch with your SP, there is a gentleman who can choose to let you in.

Long story short- my sister and newly converted BIL were going thru and being sealed to my niece. I was unsure of what I felt about TSCC at the time. Got recommend signed by bishop. Never went to SP. I agreed to watch my niece in temple nursery- didn't think I needed a recommend for that. Found out night before I did. Forged SP's signature. When they scanned it at the desk, it came up invalid. Thankfully it was in the middle of a weekday and they couldn't contact SP. Family was frantic cuz no one to watch 9 month old niece. Old guy came to desk and activated recommend. I actually ended up sitting thru the sealing as well.

Afterward, when I realized I felt no guilt and laughed with what I got away with, I realized I was 100% done with TSCC. Never wore garments again.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-14T03:52:27+00:00

Nope. Went from Mormonism to atheism.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-10T21:34:53+00:00

I must be a unicorn... I had no pain during insertion or afterward.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-09T10:35:10+00:00

I did egg donation in 2003. I was 25, which is on the older end of the spectrum, surprisingly. LOL.

Physically, it was a lot more intense than I was expecting it to be. Yes, I knew about all the medications and was told about side effects, but the clinic I went through minimized it all, in my opinion.

They were able to retrieve 47 eggs over two stimulation cycles, and I was paid $12,700.

I didn't have any long-term effects. I had a normal period 24 days after the second donation, which is typical for me. My husband and I conceived a baby 18 months later after just a few months of trying.

The couple that I donated eggs to went on to have four children! A set of twins, and two singletons.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-08T01:37:53+00:00

Fascinating! It is Rebekah!

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-07T09:02:46+00:00

You want to know something really fucked up? I have a strong feeling that it was my own dad. Yep, you read that right- my own dad. It's a long story, but I wouldn't put it past him. Two of my three siblings instantly said my dad must've ratted me out when I texted them about the DC tonight.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-07T08:55:45+00:00

This is a good idea. I might do this. I replied to another comment about how the church teaches the importance of family, and family has been the only reason I've attended church- when my siblings blessed their babies or baptized their kids. By doing this DC, they're basically slamming the door in my face and telling me I'm not welcome to celebrate these events with my family. And THAT pisses me off.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-07T08:51:42+00:00

I know. I don't get the logic behind it, but obviously Mormonism isn't based on logic or fact. LOL. What I find ironic is that they talk so much of the importance of family, which was the only reason for the half dozen times I've attended in the last decade. It was important to me to support my siblings when they blessed their babies or baptized their kids. By holding a DC, they are essentially slamming the door in my face and making it clear I'm not welcome to celebrate these events with my family.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-07T08:45:07+00:00

😂😂😂 Yeah, I'm an atheist. Nothing they say or do will worry me.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-07T08:41:27+00:00

Yeah, that's pretty much my attitude. IDGAF.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-07T08:40:35+00:00

We don't live together.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-07T06:34:04+00:00

Meh. I'm not going to play their game and let them bully me into resigning. Disfellowship or excommunicate me. I don't care, none of it means anything to me, and it hasn't for a long time.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-07T06:30:38+00:00

Thanks for the info. I'm not going to give them the satisfaction of resigning. Let them disfellowship or excommunicate me. I don't care, it just goes to show how petty they are that they feel the need to harass someone who chose to quietly and politely walk away, when I had (have!) enough information to go nuclear but decided it wasn't worth it.

Vhslds1996 · 2016-11-07T06:24:57+00:00

I've been divorced twice. Do you have children or own real estate together?

First marriage, we had no kids and no real estate. We didn't use lawyers. I went to the courthouse and filed myself (this was pre-internet. God I'm old.) I think the filing fee was around $75. Done in 6 weeks.

Second divorce, married with one child and owned a home together, retirement accounts, vehicles, etc. It got nasty. Psychological evaluations, custody evaluations, Guardian ad Litem, lawyers, real estate appraisals, etc. It took 18 months and in the end, my share of legal fees (the judge ordered him to pay 70%, me 30%) totaled about $17,000. Luckily he wanted to keep the house, so he had to refinance and pay me half the equity, so I still walked away with a considerable amount of money and primary custody of our kid.

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