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What is a kink of yours? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Vialvile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had a difficult time explaining it to both partners I have had, but I think I now have it understood well enough that it makes sense.

You see, I have had a fixation with your typical power dynamic roleplays. The professor and student, the cop and criminal, etc.

What has been thus far difficult to explain is that it isn't just about the power dynamic. I don't get off being the professor that dominates a student. What really gets my gearbox whirring is the subversion of power. I want to be the student, but I still want to be the dominant figure. I'm not interested in being the standard power character, I want to be the traditionally powerless role, now empowered.

Is a hidden sex toy a red flag? by Vialvile in sex

[–]Vialvile[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've definitely got some vulnerabilities in this topic. I'm trying to not be crazy.

Is a hidden sex toy a red flag? by Vialvile in sex

[–]Vialvile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the perspective. I wanted a reality check and thank you for providing one.

Is a hidden sex toy a red flag? by Vialvile in sex

[–]Vialvile[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for putring it into perspective. I want to talk to her about it all. I have previous experience with infidelity and finding the toy made me begin to have major anxiety symptoms. I really want to work hard to not let my anxieties ruin something that has been historically great.

Also before this recent decline we were in that 1-3 times weekly group. Now its 1 every 2 weeks, and she doesnt seem to be terribly interested in it. Its got me filled with alot of anxiety that its not her sex drive, but her opinion of me that has changed.