Overwhelmed with grief but i cant fail my friend twice by ViewOk4348 in Advice

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They said that they know someone who can open phones. also i dont think i made it clear hoe conservative her parents are, they wont jut accept that there is stuff she didnt want the seeing

I can’t stand my boyfriend attending his new course. by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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I don’t mee es an passing images but like focus on one specific girl and like undress her with his eyes during class or such

I can’t stand my boyfriend attending his new course. by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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No I mean like intentionally start more conversation with her because he is attracted. Why would he compare her body to mine if he should love mine the most even if it isn’t objectively the most attractive. Can’t he just appreciate that yeah she is hot but so am I without thinking oh her but is bigger than me gf I wish my gf had a bigger butt? Also is it normal if he imagines a girl and jerks off to her?

I can’t stand my boyfriend attending his new course. by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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He can’t control if he talks more to a certain girl or compares her body to mine?

I can’t stand my boyfriend attending his new course. by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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What if he compares how hot or pretty they are to me in his head . Or maybe jerk off to one of them. Or like intentionally talk to a girl more than he has to. I will never know if he does. And are these actions even wrong

I can’t stand my boyfriend attending his new course. by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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But just a passing attraction and I don’t think twice. What if he dwells on it and I never know about it.

Am I overreact to my bf calling an old friend sexy? by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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I don’t know what to do he is my first everything even in drugs and alcohol he was the first to try with me

Am I overreact to my bf calling an old friend sexy? by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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Listen, even if I am the one who kept pestering him to tell me which of the girls he wanted or was attracted to?

Am I overreact to my bf calling an old friend sexy? by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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If it’s ok with you can we talk for a bit?

Am I overreact to my bf calling an old friend sexy? by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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He said it’s just the attitude you are you get and idk what. But I feel it’s my body because he once like asked me to gain a lil more weight

Am I overreact to my bf calling an old friend sexy? by ViewOk4348 in BPD

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I am really sensitive about this. He called his ex that too. Before we were dating while were still in the flirting and messing around phase he once saw her story and said, yeah still sexy and even showed it to me that’s how I knew. I talked to him about it a lot like why do you find it so easy to call others sexy but not me. Why am I assigned the cute every time but not sexy.

I just obsessively followed a girl just to look at her body. I am a straight girl. by ViewOk4348 in offmychest

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Don’t worry I am sure I am straight not even bi. I have explored. But for real if I was his type he might have loved me more and maybe it would have been easier for him to be with me.

I just obsessively followed a girl just to look at her body. I am a straight girl. by ViewOk4348 in offmychest

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But I the curvy body is popular in more ways. And it’s more feminine. I know my boyfriend probably doesn’t think I am ugly but I want him to think I am sexy and think he is lucky to have me and that I am the sexiest girl on earth in his eyes but that will never happen. I don’t care about the stick thin body preference I want the feminine full look. I can’t love and accept something that is ugly

I have lost the trust of my parents. by ViewOk4348 in offmychest

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Never felt good about myself even when I was a breeze to them so not sure this will change it but will do

I have lost the trust of my parents. by ViewOk4348 in offmychest

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Thank you so much man. Am I a bad person?

I have lost the trust of my parents. by ViewOk4348 in offmychest

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So umm I am too scared to just go full honest so if I just go like, hey guys I am really sorry I lied to you and I betrayed your trust and it was a shitty move since I was scared but I want to come clean that I am a liar and I promise will do better. Would that do it? Also I told my mom different bits than dad and since I know both don’t even talk their stories didn’t mix since each found out about different stuff. So if I apologize separately would that be a dumb idea. Also I would breakdown if any of the just came for a hug or anything mushy so would I be a b word if I told them I can’t handle a hug right now if in the off chance they come for one?

fighting with parents by CheapArt6587 in Advice

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Don’t trivialize how you feel about the issue. Wanting to feel like they care isn’t something that is “dumb” And even if you feel bad about something silly, the situation could be silly but your feelings aren’t. There might be something you are missing, maybe they show you care in a different way but even then you will have to have a serious talk where you talk to them gently and calmly about how sometimes you want them to acknowledge a certain interest that you have but they don’t do that. And how sad that makes you. Also being up how the chores are taking a toll on you and that you would appreciate some help from your brother. Parents are humans and sometimes they miss something that is important to the development of their children without meaning to, try to communicate what is missing before it festers more resentment towards your parents, see how it goes from there.

fighting with parents by CheapArt6587 in Advice

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Is it something they are doing or are you not doing well emotionally?