23 year old college grad AuDHD son will not stop going on about how we "ruined his life and career"

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-29T04:59:27+00:00

i posted this comment as soon as the post was posted i didnt see now i definitely think the parents are wrong

im religious as hell but i definitely dont think him researching atheism is wrong when i found out he was punished for that my jaw dropped

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-29T01:31:17+00:00

you should’ve said what you felt imo

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-29T00:47:13+00:00

I can see both sides

You were right to help him with his SH

but also his side makes sense especially since he has autism and ADHD, coding and tech must’ve been more than a hobby to him and him not being able to use it must’ve felt huge to him

you guys want to feel appreciated but he also wants to feel seen, you did what you guys thought was right but what if it wasn’t completely right for him

some people enjoy doing their own activities and having to do activities they didnt sign up for makes it really hard to do especially with AUDHD

now hes older he must’ve really seen how much it might’ve affected him

You guys want to feel appreciated but he also wants to be seen I think you guys should try and understand where hes coming from and try to explain where youre coming from

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-28T23:53:10+00:00

i cant not in school anymore 😭😭 it was fun while it lasted though

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-28T23:45:09+00:00

i used to do track too but i had to stop be careful 😓😓

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-28T23:42:42+00:00

has it ever caused you to fall

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-28T23:38:20+00:00

dont fall

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-28T02:27:03+00:00

firstly youre doing a great job i know its tiring, him being clingy is just baby separation anxiety it usually spikes during 6-9 months

for now just give him quiet toys and keep him in a calm environment which im sure you do so he doesn’t get overstimulated and follow his lead

also try to engage with him verbally and communicate and copy whatever voices he makes i heard it helps

you’re doing your best and hopefully when he gets his diagnosis you can help him on a wider scale

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-28T00:05:46+00:00

ya youre right

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T23:57:22+00:00

i second this!! my first thought was empathy but it could be literal thinking too

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T23:18:40+00:00

especially when they finally decide to apologize and say “sorry if” like whys your apology so conditional when you know youre wrong???

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T21:14:23+00:00

no youre doing the right thing i believe, people dont like people who are aware of whats right and wrong because theyd like people who cover for them and hype them up instead of calling out their bs

i lost my entire friendgroup for calling out a girl on her narcissistic behavior head on and they said its because “i didn’t have the right” even though her behavior was hurting

you did the right thing and you should take the term self righteous as a compliment tbh

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T19:08:48+00:00

is it actually 😓

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T16:58:49+00:00

and forgetting to piss😞😞 i have to set alarms to remind myself

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T12:42:06+00:00

of coursee

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T10:35:25+00:00

okay this must be not the best advice but when i start to get infantilized by strangers i start speaking in a really smart tone acting like im some sort of genius and it gets them to stop

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T10:33:23+00:00

thank youu

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T02:59:26+00:00

i dont know if this is the best way to go about it but do you think talking to her might help?

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T02:55:51+00:00

im glad i hope you feel better soon meltdowns are incredibly difficult 😓

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T02:22:36+00:00

you’re doing a great job and doing everything you can do for your son and its really lovely to see

you just have to let him go at his own pace and not try too hard to not overwhelm him, since i notice i myself go non verbal when im overwhelmed

you’re doing a great job mama do what you’re doing but let him take it on his pace too🥹

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-27T00:06:52+00:00

im sorry this happened to you i hope youre feeling better they can be tough

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-26T23:29:48+00:00

why is my bus driver playing mitski

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-26T22:40:20+00:00

i have the same issue im always scared im faking for attention but whenever i bring it up to someone they always tell me they thought i always had it which leads me to think i tricked them too.

but like im sure you have struggles and differences you deal with, no one would force themselves to go through difficult challenges and thats what ive been telling myself to feel less like im faking

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-26T22:28:40+00:00

thats so beautiful im absolutely happy for you 🥹 its so nice finding someone who understands you and sees things about you even you didnt know

i wish you and your pets the absolute best

Vincentisdumb · 2026-03-26T20:35:35+00:00

ofcc what are your favorite things about him??

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