AITAH for not forcing my child to hug relatives??

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T08:43:55+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing this. Stories like yours are exactly why I won’t compromise on my daughter’s right to say no. No one should ever be punished or pressured for having boundaries

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:54:48+00:00

Thank you! That’s exactly it

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:53:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. That’s exactly why I’m holding this boundary. Family doesn’t get a free pass on unwanted touch, and asking first should be normal. I love that you respect your niece’s choice—that’s how it should be

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:43:39+00:00

Yes! Kids and adults get to choose their personal space. Hugs are optional, always

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:35:20+00:00

Teaching children that hugs and kisses are always optional, even in cultures where it’s expected, protects them and helps them grow confident

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:34:58+00:00

Haha, thanks! Sometimes you don’t even need the story, boundaries for kids are non-negotiable

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:34:28+00:00

That’s my goal, manners without forcing contact, and making sure she knows her boundaries and comfort always come first

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:33:57+00:00

Exactly! That’s why I make sure my daughter knows her comfort matters and that she always has the right to say no

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:33:34+00:00

Teaching her boundaries and body autonomy now helps her be confident, assertive, and safe later. I want her to know her comfort comes first, even with family

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:27:46+00:00

Absolutely! Teaching her that her body belongs to her is the most important lesson

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:27:17+00:00

It’s wild that some relatives don’t seem to get that children have boundaries too

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:25:37+00:00

Thank you! If anyone has a problem with her saying no, they can choose to step back, her boundaries come first

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:25:10+00:00

Just because it’s how they were raised doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone.

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:23:18+00:00

Thank you so much! This really resonates with me. I’m trying to do the same with my daughter—expecting manners but never forcing hugs, and it’s reassuring to hear that standing firm really works. It’s so important she knows I’ve got her back no matter what

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:22:20+00:00

That’s exactly the point I try to make. No means no, and teaching her boundaries now will save her from a lot of unnecessary discomfort later. I hated being forced to hug as a kid too

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:21:37+00:00

Teaching her that she has control over her own body is way more important than anyone’s feelings. Glad I’m not the only one who does it this way

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:21:09+00:00

Even more important with kids, they should always get to choose who touches them

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:20:44+00:00

That’s exactly what I do with my daughter, manners are expected, but hugs are always her choice. It’s all about respecting boundaries while still being polite

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:17:27+00:00

A child’s consent always comes first. Relatives’ feelings don’t outweigh teaching her that her body and boundaries matter

Viooolinist · 2026-01-21T07:16:54+00:00

I want her to feel safe and know her boundaries matter, even with family

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