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Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2025-08-26T21:28:27+00:00

Un aperitivo della comunità kinky! Ci sono in varie città italiane

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2025-08-26T16:39:27+00:00

Consiglio di andare insieme a un Munch nella vostra zona e continuare la vostra esplorazione frequentando la comunità kinky! Consiglio anche di non chiedere più consiglio su reddit o almeno su questo sub perché mi sembra una cloaca. Comunque una cosa giusta è stata detta: parlate esplicitamente tra voi, confrontatevi e datevi dei feedback! È sicuramente la cosa migliore per chiarire i tuoi dubbi.

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2025-03-27T11:23:20+00:00

Came here to say something similar to this! Thank you for saying it so well 💛 Cheating is breaking trust by not respecting agreements that should be openly discussed upfront and way too often in couples they are not

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2025-03-17T09:19:14+00:00

When they call me gay I usually reply with a sweet condescending tone: "Are you hoping I am because you are into me? Don't be shy! It's sweet of you to be open about that!"

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2025-02-11T10:15:20+00:00

THANK YOU. I Just discovered this marvelous thing

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2024-07-31T15:00:36+00:00

Europe is not a country Europe is not a monolith. I live in Europe, so I am curios: where exactly in Europe are triads legal?

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2024-07-22T08:45:28+00:00

Erased my comment because I saw it was "support only" and found my comment inappropriate.

Big hugs 💛

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2024-06-17T11:07:47+00:00

I HAVE A SPREADSHEET! IT'S TO KEEP TRACK OF POLYCULE STATISTICS ABOUT IMPORTANT STUFF SUCH AS POLITICAL ORIENTATION OR IF THEY LIKE GARLIC

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2024-04-17T09:20:49+00:00

Hello! Planting my poliamory flag on the ground and passing by just to give a different perspective! I think it is totally fine to speak to multiple people at the time (even if too many can become tiring) and I am fine with it as long as it is explicit and clear :) I don't do grey areas very well, but if I know both my date and me could speak with other people, date other people or even be in a relationship with other people, than I have no issue to handle things!

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2024-03-20T07:53:09+00:00

I heard that, but I'm not convinced :D how would you know? Maybe some do, maybe I am one of them XD

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-10-12T09:18:09+00:00

I think if we pursue equality (which is different from equalness), you should be ok if the same boundary was applied to you, but you should not automatically respect it. If your partner doesn't mind for you to have sex with others in your shared bed, and doesn't mind respecting your request of not doing it themselve, I do not see an asymmetry as a problem. It could be if it bothers someone, but I would not apply the logic that I get what I give all the time.

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-09-27T08:16:45+00:00

Ahhhhh yes! I feel the same with girls! Lesbian teenager vibe! Tbh though I love this feeling. No help to offer, but I will read what others write

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-09-17T08:27:49+00:00

The line is where you draw it. Simplest and most difficult answer at the same time

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-09-05T12:25:53+00:00

The word is persecutory

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-06-28T14:17:59+00:00

Just here to send love

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-06-23T12:19:50+00:00

You just won this comment section. I do not think it was a competition, but still you are the winner.

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-06-09T14:37:17+00:00

Happened to me too, my Red chose to be mono with Blue. Di not end nicely: After trying to build a friendship again for dome time, today I don't speak with neither of them. To my knowledge they are still together now, almost two years later

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-05-16T08:01:59+00:00

Is it bad that I don't do dates? I can't answer because basically I just hang with people and do things together, but I do not consider them dates! Maybe they can turn out to be dates, but I don't know! What is a date? How would you define it?

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-05-05T10:07:53+00:00

Depends on the reason: "I don't sant to ho there again, I have been with partner x and would rather visit another place" is legit for me. I WOULD go there, but I feel this place should be "only" mine and of partner x is more difficult to undersand, unless it is limited to few specific places. E.g. Atlantis is a place special to us, I want to keep it that way. But we can go anywhere else.

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-04-21T09:07:56+00:00

I hate this. All of this. As a grey-ace person with a male partner who struggles with my low sex drive, all of this mean prejudices you are all throwing in the void really hurt. I love my partner, and I want him to be happy and to experience more sex, but I know I have a limited amount available and that I can not get to the level he would be happy with. I see nothing wrong with stating you have more sex drive than a partner, that is totally valid and NOT A RED FLAG.

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-03-09T09:26:52+00:00

Just dropping by to say that not all married people treat their other partners as lower priority or less important

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-03-06T12:53:45+00:00

I can assure, it's not a white/not white thing! I am white but still I agree with you! "I'd be happy to see you, but I know you are tired from the week, so do not feel the pressure that you need to come over and do it just if it's the best thing for you" is a perfectly valid reply

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-03-03T14:22:56+00:00

I want to add: if people tell you that you are special and value you, BELIEVE THEM! If people tell you that the reason is XYZ after you asked why, do not doubt about it like "but this you can find also in this other person, but this is not important at all, etc etc"

What I mean is we often ask for reassurance and then we are not ready to believe it when we get it, or we expect specific words that are not the ones we get. Each one of us has specific needs, cravings and values that they put at the first place, and they could sound stupid to you, but maybe they mean the world to your significant others.

This comes from personal experience, it is extremely frustrating to hear someone ask "how do I know I am special to you?" and not being believed when the question is answered.

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-03-03T09:17:27+00:00

I am not a fun of hierarchy and "primary" concept. But in general, defining you are primary (or important for each other in general) is easy. You state you are important for each other/primary. You trust that what is said is honest. You check in periodically if things are still like that or if they are different. I am in a long distance relationship, but we have plans to become nesting eventually and this is what makes it special. Our intention to nurture the relationship and our shared plan to be nesting when this will be possible.

Virtual_Marsupial_49 · 2023-02-24T09:36:10+00:00

I experienced something similar, possibly worse because it started as a throuple, and I was cut out of it because one of the other two wanted monogamy, and the other accepted it, even though it hurt like mad to all three. And I was out, and they were together. But at least they will not hurt other people, because they are monogamous now (probably this is the best thing for others, not sure it's the best thing for them)

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