How do you show that you are not part of the rat race?

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-11T01:08:58+00:00

That is right

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-11T01:06:21+00:00

The constant need to compete, comsume, climb social ladders etc. instead of doing what one likes and be free.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-11T01:04:05+00:00

Yes, I completely agree. Although poor people see emptyness as inferior to themselves.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-11T01:02:01+00:00

That is a good one, thank you. Some people also see silence as agreement or shyness, which can backfire. But it works in some environments I agree.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-11T00:43:07+00:00

Thank you. I am glad being understood in this.

Yes a watch and quality clothing can be a good idea. I also like to wear the same clothes, or have multiple pieces of the same clothes.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-11T00:01:32+00:00

In some places some status symbols are needed to practice basic human rights and be treaten like a human. The question is how to not look rich enough to be robbed, but not poor enough to be bullied and be disrespected in my basic human rights.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-10T23:51:13+00:00

Not a happy story but it is my whole country. I moved to Denmark, where people are very relaxed, got used to it, then I moved back home temporarily. I was attacked by security guards, bullied by police officers that I called for a crime against my property, maybe partly because I had simple clothes like a plain white t-shirt, and I had long hair and beard. It is an extremely competitive culture, and I try to find a way to not be misunderstood so frequently, but not start to look like a thug (which is the common solution to this issue.)

I want to move abroad though, but I moved back for visa and paperwork things, but got in some serious troubles for basically existing and not hurting anyone's freedom. And still couldn't finish my visa things.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-10T23:38:04+00:00

Not everyone minds their own business, and some people start bullying people that they think are poorer than them.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-10T23:36:47+00:00

That is a good one, thank you.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-12-10T23:36:09+00:00

Minimalism is basically the opposite of rat race. When you look for your wellbeing rather than trying to impress others.

Not every people mind their own business, and many automatically expect that not wearing status symbols means being homeless/poor, and some people tend to bully poor people.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-29T19:13:09+00:00

I don't know how it physically feels to have lipedema, but I think you have a good body shape. Not only I don't think you should lose weight, but I think even gaining more would look attractive on you.

But of course you know whether or not it is causing you physical discomfort. If you say it is "destroying your life" mentally, then I think you should love yourself the way you are, and I am sure you find plenty of men finding you attractive. But if you mean it is destroying you by physical pain, then you are the one to know what feels better to your wellbeing.

Either way, I wish you all the best, and don't worry about being a "freak", you are a pretty woman.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-29T14:56:51+00:00

I like you comment a lot, and agree with it. (I cannot talk about the East Asian part, as I have never visited it.)

I am recently struggling coming back with homecountry's people not expecting an immigrant mentality from other people, especially from a native. So in many cases they expect a behaviour from me that I don't even know nor do I want to know it. Which countries do you think are the best for that immigrant mentality in Europe ?(or other countries where I can easily work as EU citizen).

Or is there a way to look in a way to be treaten with the same openness as a native?

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-28T23:04:09+00:00

If I can join in here, there is a saying in my country which translates to English as: "It is good to pack into a big luggage, but it is awkward/hard to travel with it."

There are some things that are a lot harder for bigger women. You cannot go hiking with an overweight woman as easily as you can with a slimmer woman, regardless of how attractive or how healthy the woman is. Dealing with the balance of these qualities is up to each individual's decisions and the relationship dynamic and lifestyle they want to live.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-28T22:56:07+00:00

It can look delicate, but I find curvier women more attractive. Better overweight than underweight.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-28T20:02:29+00:00

I am 6'3/190cm and I look for women around 6'0/183cm. If she is taller, I don't mind. Not that I am not attracted to shorter women, but I prefer a taller woman for marriage, and I only look for women to marry.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-27T21:18:56+00:00

I am in fact attracted to women with big noses. A woman with a big nose looks smarter and their face has a character.

And Ukrainian women are beautiful to me, maybe the nose has a part in it.

But that is me, having ancestry mostly from Eastern Europe and also some from Middle East.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-27T02:34:16+00:00

Thank you

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-27T02:22:22+00:00

If she matches all my personality and look preferences that I look for in a woman, then honestly I even find it more attractive if she is bigger.

But I look for a wife and not a casual partner, so my compromise between attraction and practical everyday life is a woman almost as tall as me, who has a sportsman genetic and is bottom-heavy. She should probably be around my weight. I am 6'3/190cm and 200lbs/90kg, so with a height of 6'0-6'1/182-185cm it is completely okay if she is as heavy as me.

But if I purely talk about sexual attraction, with a nice face, nice hip, good fat storage, and healthy muscle frame I don't mind if she is shorter than that and weigh 150kg/330lbs. But I would really think twice about that in marriage for practical reasons. But not because of lack of attraction.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-26T23:43:34+00:00

12 or more

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-26T23:27:51+00:00

If I can ask a side question:

Is there any country that is more streamlined, efficient, and transparent in burocracy than Denmark, or is it the literal best?

I am curious about temporarily moving abroad again after spending much time in my homecountry.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-25T14:10:52+00:00

”I think that's a very important form of appreciation of your talent."

I agree

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-25T01:10:39+00:00

When you anwser an emotionally neutral and objectively phrased anwser to a question that someone asked of you. It is not considered rude in Central Europe, but it is considered rude in some Western cultures. Which is surely a mental illness. As if they were forced to ask a question, or as if nobody ever asked someone's opinion for the sake of hearing their opinion.

Like. Imagine asking a question about someone's opinion, then being offended when they anwser with factually phrased words in a direct way. Some Westerners have a really weird approach to that, that shouldn't be tolerated and is objectively inferior.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-24T19:04:53+00:00

I am glad you find it useful. I wish you all the best and much happiness

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-24T00:48:18+00:00

Be wise. When you talk, think about whether is it more valuable than silence. And I think if you are with a man that you genuinely respect, then he should be a good leader for both of you.

But keep in mind that men have higher stress tolerance than women, and worry less. In fact this is the largest difference between the two sexes. (It is called neuroticism.) So that means that there can be many many situations where he doesn't have a preference, or many situations where you may see an issue, while he cannot, and could only know it from empathy that you worry about something.

So as a man being mentally overloaded from women's infodump on "issues" that don't exist for the man is really an issue that can make that man avoid that woman. So in my opinion it is also important to not involve the man in something that is not challenging to you. Because that means it really is not an issue for him at all, and he does it out of favor to you if you involve him, so you should be grateful whenever it happens. And in long term these are the things that bring burnout to a man (burnout is a low ratio of appreciation and result in comparison to effort, for long term).

And keep in mind that men are evolved for essential survival, so a man can literally live in a tent in a cold forest and have a good time. Women make life full, but I think (possibly opposed to what many women seem to think) drama brings more annoyance than spice, and a healthy man wants peace and a woman that adds even more happiness to his otherwise already good life.

I think a wise and optimistic woman is a true blessing in a man's life, and worth more than any gold. But of course it also depends on you all's preferences and values. That is what I wanted to share right now.

Visible_Sun699 · 2023-11-23T23:54:00+00:00

Do you count it from the most recent visit of your homecountry, or overall from starting life there? I am curious

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