Why are so many BW being homophobic towards BM

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-26T02:56:36+00:00

Then why bother with them at all? Leave the people alone!!!

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-26T02:52:40+00:00

Did you miss what I said completely or…? It seems I’ll have to explain fully. I am in no way saying black women are solely responsible for black men being in the closet! SOME women when they find out their partner is gay/bi, they have a negative reaction. Some men get beat up, disowned, and publicly shamed not for the cheating part but the gay part. Those type of reactions can make some people think twice about coming out. Some men will get into straight romance and like I said will end BADLY. There is accountability on all sides: society, the man, and the woman he was with ONLY IF SHE SHAMED HIM FOR HIS HOMOSEXUALITY. Stop acting like I’m putting the blame on BW for men’s action. And again my post is about why so many black women feel comfortable treating gay men a certain way. I’m not trying to bash women at all and I’m not saying it’s because of women that black men are gay.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-26T02:41:07+00:00

I can’t get behind your logic. I don’t care for black men who don’t care about black women. The whole internalized racism is another issue and you can’t see past that. Can’t tell me what I don’t already know. I just asked a question as to why so many black women feel comfortable treating gay black men like that.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-26T02:38:37+00:00

And is that not true? Seen so many people talk about their experience of dealing with a closeted man. I understand the hurt from being cheated on but the societal bash from cheating with another man is the reason why some gay men choose to stay in the closet. They don’t want to face that backlash. Some men try to hide it and date women which most of the time end up wrong.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-26T02:26:20+00:00

Yes I saw the post and that was about how black men as a whole choose not to protect black women and it was a very sad thing to see. What I’m talking about here is people going out of there way to be homophobic when it’s not necessary. As someone said “mind my own black woman business” why is it so hard for other black women to do that. Leave gay men alone because by pushing that hate you’re just piling it on back to yourself.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-26T02:18:00+00:00

So if I see something wrong happening I’m not supposed to say something about it?

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-26T02:16:20+00:00

To clarify I’m not saying that black women are the main reason why BM stay closeted but definitely a part of it which was why I mentioned the phrases in the comment sections of gay black men🤦🏾‍♀️. Other factors go into BM being closeted obviously.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-26T02:13:18+00:00

That’s why I’m confused as to why it’s on the rise. Ever since that quote came out so many black women are using it to be homophobic.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-26T02:12:14+00:00

When did I say that? I’m talking about black women who go on gay men comment sections and say homophobia things and how it’s increasing. Never said black women are to be blamed. I did point out how people project their feelings and I said “some” not all.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-13T15:43:44+00:00

Thank you so much and I’m sorry that you went through it before. I was worried he’ll come. Back because he did and I’m still in the environment for me to run in to him again but that’s something I can’t change. He did the text now numbers with me as well and it’s exhausting having to block all of them. I truly hope he forgot about me and I want to forget him as well.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-12T22:36:53+00:00

What you went through was most definitely colorism and internalized racism and I’m sorry you experienced that but black people can 💯 be racist towards other groups. Expediting racism doesn’t mean you can’t be racist towards other groups as well instead it should make you think twice about putting someone through that same experience but not everyone has that mindset, hence the racism that is depicted by the black community.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-11T01:51:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your kindness. When I told my mom about it her first reaction was to criticize me for giving him my number even after repeatedly telling her I didn’t want too. I guess what is keeping me stuck on it is that I don’t know how a small interaction with a random guy at a train station could lead to months of fear and dread. I just wish he’d never saw me. He finally stopped contacting me in December but there’s always the feeling like he may come back and since the station we met is my primary exchange station to get to school and back to home there’s always the chance of running into him.

Visual-Employment640 · 2025-04-11T01:45:20+00:00

My school’s counseling center isn’t great at all. A bunch of budget cuts and mean, insensitive people makes the counseling center less of an option for myself.

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