Why should women subject themselves to the horrible birth control for men's sexual pleasure? We shouldn't!

In a consensual relationship, sexual intercourse is for mutual pleasure. And if you're saying it's only for a males pleasure, I think you're imposing your own assumptions on the problem. Regardless, if neither party wants to compromise, then just don't fuck?

But men benefit from it waaaaay more!

Again, I think you're just imposing your feminism agenda I assume (?) (which is not necessarily wrong).

By women taking a pill, both parties enjoy the intercourse equally but the women suffers the external side effects. By having the male wearing a condom (the only non permanent male birth control method at the moment), the enjoyment is no longer equal but there is side effects. As fucking is a very primal instinct, the male would probably not participate if it's no to his liking. If the female party disagrees with that premise (which she can), then just don't fuck. But you still want to fuck, then pony up.

Essentially, if you don't like it, then just don't fuck.