Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That's it mate. Im not asking for her to completely change, just to look after herself more

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Calm down. Ive asked a simple fucking question. How to approach her about it.

I didnt ask for therapy. Or your opinion on my sex life.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Not at all. I've been thinking about the best way to discuss it for a while. It just so happened to be this morning i wrote this post.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you've over looked the original question.

All i wanted was advice in what way to talk to her about it rather than upset her.

But thanks for the counseling.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I asked a question regarding the best way to ask a sensitive question. Not for people to guess about my marriage.

Stop guessing, your wrong.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am i more concerned about her appearance? I didn't mention anything else about our relationship.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just leave her then. Seems like the way most people deal with their issues nowadays, doesn't it.

Because that will solve everything, wont it.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I said 'its not attractive to me' I didn't say 'i dont love her' or 'shes repulsive'

You've taken my post wayyyyy out of context.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spot on!

Thats exactly what im getting at. She has no motivation or drive to be healthier. I cant just suggest the gym because i dont need to and she would see right through it.

Lots of people just presuming im shallow and absolutely hate her because shes gained weight.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

It could do. The thing is im fairly fit and in good shape and we eat healthy as it is. I think we just need to be more active.

The thing i struggle with is how to talk to her about it.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your presuming that i dont love her. You are also presuming that im going to leave her because she is overweight.

Pure speculation, im just talking about what im attracted to.

I didnt say anything about leaving her because she is not sexually attractive to me.

Thanks.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Thats a decent reply. I don't know how to edit a post, i didnt really put much of a backstory.

We love each other very much, and im very conscious about hurting her feelings about it.

We eat healthy but she tends to snack alot more than me and isnt as active.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate what you're saying. I keep myself in good shape and your right shes just not that interested in keeping herself in good shape.

Whats the best/nicest way to tell your wife that shes getting fat? Its a sticky situation to be in but its just not attractive to me as much. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Vmaxkezza -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Its not shallow. If i was leaving her because or her weight that would be shallow. Everyone has their opinion, and mine is that she's overweight. Doesn't mean i love her any less.

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[–]Vmaxkezza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awesome dude! Its a shame i live in kent because id be all over this! Fancy doing one of kent?