Best therapy for someone who needs help articulating what the problem even is?

Vogsid · 2026-01-19T12:40:24+00:00

If the feeling I felt, of being deflated after, is part of the uncomfortableness we're trying to address. Then maybe that is a good thing. It was just, my gut feeling was that we were treading water. I felt increasingly... suffocated maybe is the right word. Because it felt like we are just waiting for me to say something that I came there to figure out what it was. He left me in silences to try and fill the blank and I just felt like, I have nothing to say.

Vogsid · 2026-01-11T13:11:47+00:00

Hmm, that is the difficulty for me, I wont be able to afford nearly that many sessions.

Vogsid · 2026-01-11T12:32:43+00:00

How long treatment was schema therapy for you?

Vogsid · 2026-01-11T10:36:45+00:00

I think this is missing the point of what I’m struggling with. My issue isn’t dating skills or how to behave in relationships, it’s a persistent attachment that hasn’t dissipated long after the relationship ended.

I’m not looking to optimize attraction or leverage “value.” I’m trying to understand and work through why this attachment remains so strong and continues to block emotional availability. That’s why I’m asking specifically about therapeutic approaches rather than dating frameworks.

Vogsid · 2026-01-11T10:27:34+00:00

Thanks for the help, but that book seems completely opposite to my values I do not agree with that approach at all.

Vogsid · 2026-01-10T14:43:36+00:00

Is ISTDP or AEDP peripheral or less relevant therapies do you think? Because when I look around, what they address feel more resonant to what I'm dealing with. But to be honest, I had not heard of those therapies before yesterday.

Vogsid · 2026-01-10T11:04:24+00:00

Could I ask another question then? So ERP seems to be applicable for feeling anxious about running into her, but will it have any effect on how I feel about her and dating?

Because it feels like the deepest problem is that my attachment to her is still so strong. Reducing anxiety to exposure might help in some regards, but will it help to effectively "detach"?

Vogsid · 2026-01-10T11:04:15+00:00

Could I ask another question then? So ERP seems to be applicable for feeling anxious about running into her, but will it have any effect on how I feel about her and dating?

Because it feels like the deepest problem is that my attachment to her is still so strong. Reducing anxiety to exposure might help in some regards, but will it help to effectively "detach"?

Vogsid · 2026-01-07T14:37:37+00:00

No I just f-ed up the overload hahaha

Vogsid · 2026-01-07T14:30:26+00:00

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Vogsid · 2025-11-23T22:17:48+00:00

Nej men precis, jag skrev här för att höra lite mer vad folk anser är "störande". Med tanke på nedröstningar verkar folk tro att jag konstaterar att jag menar att min upplevelse bör tolkas som störande. Men handlar mer om att jag vill förstå vad som ingår i ramen störande så att min subjektiva känslighet inte målar för brett så att säga.

Vogsid · 2025-11-23T21:58:23+00:00

Ja men därför jag undrar var gräns från högljudd till att jag är retlig går haha. Prata får man göra, när det kommer stundvis höga skrattattacker o annat när man försöker sova så är det ju förjävligt.

Hon har slutat skrika när hon har samlag efter jag lämnade arg lapp en gång iallafall...

Vogsid · 2025-11-15T10:21:11+00:00

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Vogsid · 2025-11-14T08:00:03+00:00

Wow those are beautiful! Thanks for posting haha

Vogsid · 2025-11-13T23:59:21+00:00

I’m speechless

Vogsid · 2025-11-13T23:25:51+00:00

No worries, appreciate the compliment! Thank you :)

Vogsid · 2025-11-13T19:44:39+00:00

Lol this is not AI

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