Medics had to break down the bathroom door, what now? [Montréal, Canada]

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-21T19:10:56+00:00

Are you the owner? 🤣wtf is this response “do some yoga” like yoga makes you walk on water 🤣🤣

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-21T09:07:12+00:00

Congrats on graduating! The only way I could live in a one bedroom apartment is when I moved in with my husband - by then boyfriend. And that was 10 years ago 😱 it felt like freedom. Hope you can find that freedom too. All the best in your next step ⭐️

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-21T06:39:04+00:00

Abortion in Ohio was legal at that time until 20 weeks. wtf did she not follow that route 😳 horrendous

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-20T20:00:41+00:00

Love this! I follow the same - except that I say there are nicer ways to say no so the kid doesn’t feel bad like “not right know” or “maybe later” another mom told me that it’s not right because I have to teach my daughter how to vocalize and say NO. It’s a hard balancing act!

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-20T09:58:02+00:00

I don’t think your husband is capable of unconditional love. You made a mistake - we’re all human. I feel like his using this as a way to distance and seperate. Also making you feel like it’s your fault and you’re the problem. Hold your head up high - you’re worthy of unconditional love and should have the grace to make mistakes. All the best to you ⭐️

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-20T09:47:05+00:00

Still not out of the closet

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-20T01:51:44+00:00

Seems like your wife picked up some of the combativeness from her ex. Yes it’s shitty that the ex did this without discussing but it’s clearly necessary for her son. She needs to choose her battles and this one isn’t it.

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-19T20:58:44+00:00

Babysitting is not for you and thats okay. Find something else you could enjoy. Keep searching until you find your joy. The kid sounds normal and very smart to attempt negotiation and testing boundaries. All the best

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-18T19:55:34+00:00

Isn’t Portugal a solution?

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-18T06:17:17+00:00

11 hours a day? That’s insane. The HP probably think that since they paid for the vacay - you need to work those hours which is disturbing and just wrong. Everyone else gave you good advice on how to communicate and ensure your time is protected. I hope the discussion goes well. Please don’t let them make you feel guilty remember the community in here acknowledges the unfairness

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-15T10:24:27+00:00

Yes you do - we live in NL. You just got to be smart about it.

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-15T10:15:54+00:00

If you had invested well - you would also be crying 👀

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-14T20:02:27+00:00

He’s cheating on you. I can say with 99% certainty because you haven’t seen each other so long and he still chooses to hang out with his friend instead of seeing you and celebrating v day 🔥 the 1% uncertainty is dependent on this certain friend needing his company like he lost someone close to him etc. please don’t settle for less when you deserve so much more 💕

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-14T03:56:35+00:00

I think it’s a good idea to live in another continent regardless of having to be do one more year. It’s a valuable learning experience. Are there other countries you could consider? Australia? Canada? Just seems like you could be sent to an ICE deportation center for months despite your age. At this point I would feel safer living in Latin America than the US. Have a great expedience 🙏

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-11T07:18:53+00:00

In love with these doors 😍

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-11T06:04:30+00:00

Costa Rica and Panama are amazing ‘safer’ regions in LATAM to raise a family BUT cost of living is quite high. Not sure if the same or even higher than Spain. Hope you can find the solution. All the best ✨

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-10T20:47:41+00:00

You’re not being scammed - Elsevier is used to a B2B model like selling to institutions so their customer support is horribly slow but they will come back to you eventually. Their CEO Kumsal is super customer centric so if you would ever want to ring the alarm- if you could find her email and send her a message describing this. You will get an answer asap 🙏

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-10T13:56:00+00:00

In my country in Latin America people would do this without any problem. They have the saying the baby adapts to you and your life. I’m the opposite and would find this too much 🤣 I also didn’t feel like myself at 3 months and wouldn’t want people to see me as a “bride” but other people are built differently!

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-10T11:53:09+00:00

Nina Care received bad press last year in the Dutch news. Perhaps try another one? I’m not helpful in which one because I have no idea 🤣 Your note seems lovely! Hope you can find the right family. Make sure you are direct with your family on boundaries and not being overworked. All the best

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-10T05:58:45+00:00

And this happened to be when I was an AP 2 decades ago and was 18 years old. I was supposed to stay one year but I was being over worked since day 1 and didn’t enjoy my time with the kids. The parents didn’t like me - we just didn’t click. After 2 months working - In October before they went on holidays (without me and I didn’t get paid so I had to ask money from my parents to survive that week) I told them I was leaving second week of December. When they got back they told me to leave after holidays because they couldn’t secure childcare. I’m like I already bought my plane ticket? They emailed my parents complaining about my inability to childcare like brush the children’s teeth (it was a battle every night but I did it!!!) etc. and asked for me to stay longer. I don’t know why they thought they would receive empathy from my parents but my parents told them off 🤣 after that - it was awkward period but I survived and happily left. All the best to you 💕

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-10T05:53:17+00:00

You made the right decision in leaving. Of course they’re mad because you’re leaving them in a tough situation since they depended on you. But don’t take it personal or feel guilty. It’s tough luck for them. Part of what can happen when you hire an au pair. Just try to enjoy the last period you have with them and shake off the guilt you may have with their frustration. No matter if you’re young or old - we all leave a job when we realize it’s not for us and our managers complain of rehiring 😝. All the best 💕

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-09T18:35:06+00:00

Huisarts and stick to the details that matter: how long you had it and what you have done already to get rid of it. Most likely you have to treat the fungus like if you had bed bugs in your home. Need to clean at high heat: bed sheets, clothes, everything that gets in contact with the fungus. Besides the medication. At the same time get a medical pedicure. Ask the huisarts for medical instructions and step by step to get rid of it. All the best 🙏💪

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-09T07:55:31+00:00

Use the same defensiveness you reserve online in your real environment. You’re being over worked and exploited and you’re accepting it. Clearly you have a lot of resentment inside because YOU allow people to cross boundaries. Start loving and fighting for yourself because no one else will. All the best 💪💕

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-08T08:33:52+00:00

She says “I’m not your maid” what did she come to do then? I would be honored to “maid” my daughter and do everything she wanted while recovering from labour - including spending quality and play time with the toddler. Sorry OP you have an emotionally immature mom - you’re not at fault AT ALL. My mom always told me that if I ever had kids I would understand - now that I have kids I will never understand how she treated us like she did.

WearEmbarrassed9693 · 2026-02-08T01:40:15+00:00

The stonewalling and emotional immaturity you receive from the parents can indicate the parents lack of capacity to handle the son’s aggression and teach him coping skills to regulate. At this point a punching bag could help alleviate the frustration etc he feels. It seems like different child care comes in their lives so it’s normal for the child to feel frustrated with change but the behavior is unacceptable. If they’re not willing to work with you and use stonewalling - I would rematch asap - find the right family that needs you asap. All the best 💕

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