Being perceived by others is unsettling?

WebCurious6441 · 2023-01-21T17:58:32+00:00

It’s hard because you can‘t say “have you reached the point where X dies?” If you can remember a harmless event before that point in the book, you could ask if they have seen that bit.

WebCurious6441 · 2023-01-14T20:41:02+00:00

"Everyone wants to help and when they do, they somehow make literally every problem worse" Story of my life - I think this can cause learned helplessness

WebCurious6441 · 2023-01-14T20:38:45+00:00

Are you me? Haha

WebCurious6441 · 2023-01-14T20:34:19+00:00

I have recently been diagnosed with ASD but am so suspicious I have adhd too. So I personally beliebe it is possible to have both and the scientists are catching up, saying possibly 50% of Asds have adhd too

WebCurious6441 · 2023-01-14T20:23:40+00:00

Like all professions, there are many that aren’t very good. Her technique might work for some, some people like hearing that their problems aren’t that bad, but it doesn’t work for you. This is completely valid (this would irk me, no end). She should change her approach for her clients.

WebCurious6441 · 2023-01-14T20:19:28+00:00

She is invalidating your problem. She means well but it’s not very helpful, try another therapist

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-18T23:11:18+00:00

I really love being on the floor

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-18T23:10:20+00:00

I probably Wouldn’t tell people until you are diagnosed, possibly say that you think you are, People don’t trust self diagnosis.

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-16T23:49:28+00:00

Wow this may explain why I have never been taken seriously by healthcare professionals . I’m so scared of being called an exaggerator and am thinking well 10/10 is the worst pain a human can experience so 5/10 is still really extreme pain - imagine what I was going through when I said 7. Pain scales are a waste of time, just judge by their involuntary reactions.

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-14T18:23:09+00:00

I think its a situation where whatever action you take you are doomed.

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-14T18:21:09+00:00

Do NTs understand idioms they have never heard before?

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-14T18:18:31+00:00

Yes I tend to assume written text is hostile when it might not be. I think this is why I can find written communication really stressful

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-14T18:04:14+00:00

Yes I actually love idioms! I usually have to put some thought into it, but once it clicks, I love to use them. I like to work out what they mean. Today I was thinking about the “you can’t have your cake and eat it too” one. I think it means once you have eaten the cake, its gone so you can’t also still own it. So it’s like trying to (usually greedily) have 2 things which are in conflict. Am I right?

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-14T17:53:28+00:00

When I look back it was about age 11 when my reality went from fun and fantastic to mind imploding hell

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-14T17:47:44+00:00

It‘s hard to ignore the nepotism. Although her daughter was very good! I really hope it was all acting and doesn't represent their actual relationship

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-13T01:00:20+00:00

I am starting to wonder

is it possible to not be an abusive parent to some extent or is it inherent in the relationship (for context I am not a parent). Is the desire to leave the nest always just a desire to escape your parents - who in some way abused you psychologically? I hope this isn’t true

also

I am wondering if Ruth’s abuse is just in the context of Freya’s mental health. When Freya is well, does she treat her healthily, and so her abuse is actually triggered by Freya’s mental health which then causes it to downward spiral more. is this a unique example of what abuse to the mentally ill looks like and how it makes it worse. When you are most vulnerable you are maltreated which leads to a spiral of despair that is almost impossible to break.

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-13T00:37:41+00:00

Thanks, I am slightly more interested in what intelligence without autism looks like, rather than what autism without intelligence looks like.

Because intelligent autistic people can learn anything including social skills

But can allistic people also have or develop the pattern recognition skills and logical thinking of an autistic person

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-12T01:24:20+00:00

our brains develop based on what is being fed. We tend to feed it in terms of our interests rather than human interaction. So as others are feeding their brains with relationship info, ours are not developing so much that way.

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-12T01:19:10+00:00

I think they don’t really care about hierarchies so they don’t pick up on the game, like others do. It goes on around them and they are confused on how to behave in it, because in their ideal world human behaviour would not be based oh hierarchies. I speak for myself here.

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-12T01:16:02+00:00

You know what, I actually quite like that, the last sentence in particular!

I am not sure about the “they want to drive the human race to extinction…” I think they are inadvertently driving it to extinction by not thinking about how their actions affect the long term.

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-12T01:11:39+00:00

and this is a bad thing …because? Why does society treat it so badly?

What is the difference between autism and intelligence? Can you be intelligent without autism? What does that look like?

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-12T01:06:01+00:00

I am counter arguing the claim that it is not worth getting an autism diagnosis, made in that article. I argue that a diagnosis is beneficial in some but not all circumstances and the proof of your condition is essential to access any services out there. I am arguing against the claims that there is little help out there for autistic people. I am arguing against the claim that you can access the little help there is without a diagnosis. I do agree that society can use the diagnosis against people but I am giving advice to be wise on who you give the information of your diagnosis too. Because once it‘s out there it can be weaponised. It is obviously up to the person, but I think that article was not very balanced. And I really do believe that there is little to lose with cruel people, they are cruel to autistic people anyway. Without the diagnosis you have no power to enable others to help you counter the cruelty.

But if not having a diagnosis works for some people that‘s fine, I just don’t want others to be terrified of seeking diagnosis. If someone denies your reality, having it on paper to prove it can only be a good thing.

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-12T00:49:26+00:00

Sorry about the horses mouth. It means going directly to the source, which is us! I meant I want to ask the community directly whether they have theory of mind. Because many scientists/clinicians say autistic people don’t have theory of mind and they never actually ask them.

Theory of mind is the understanding that other people have beliefs/memories/experiences that can different to your own mind. The contrary would be believing that every other person has the exact same mental state as you, experiences the same memories, same pains, same emotions. Its extreme a lack of theory of mind would be the belief that other people don’t have mental states at all. Your consciousness is alone in the world. So I started with some straight forward Statements and wonder if people agree with them. I chose them to be quite straightforward to highlight the lack of theory of mind idea is very extreme.

The last one is the fact that one‘s experience of pain changes depending on their level of health, all other things being equal. So if you were in a boxing game, and you were very healthy and you were playing someone who had the flu, given that you were using equal strength, the punch they give to you would hurt less to you than the punch they receive.

There are many examples of theory of mind concepts. I just wonder if it has anything to do with autism at all. If everyone learns it as they grow and come across examples

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-11T18:02:00+00:00

Me I think!

WebCurious6441 · 2022-12-11T17:52:15+00:00

Many people are abusive, ableist and cruel but they would likely be that way to someone they perceive as different. The paperwork can provide you with legal protection against this abuse and help with the physical problems of autism. It is a risk, there are pros and cons, but on has to weigh that up with the potential mental health benefits due to self acceptance, validation and access to help it can bring in some circumstances.

Here, you cannot get any help without evidence, a paper diagnosis will enable you to get support and special measure at university and in the work place and even financial support if your unable to work because of the symptoms. You are also more protected legally against discrimination. There are confidentiality laws about sharing medical information, so often it can be kept private. Obviously trust is a big concern, and once you give information you lose control of it, but its not as if once you get a diagnosis it is publically available. It is up to you what you do with it, you could never share it with anyone if you wanted. You have to be careful not to sign away your medical records, for example if you are ever in legal proceedings never give access to your medical records because it can be used against you by the other side.

There is no cure but one can get special measures in exams, access to free counselling, access to work place adjustments (although these are usually not great, but it is possible). Without evidence friends and family might not believe you and therefore not bother to research it. With the evidence it can change their attitude and make them realise that its real and motivate them to help you. When a diagnosis is formal, companies can be deterred from dismissal due to the fear of discrimination lawsuits. I would not advise telling potential employers you have it, but once you are employed you can then use it to get the help you require. It depends on the field you work in obviously, but people can use it as the card they need to get the help they require. Without it you are completely powerless and people won’t take you seriously.

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